I'm surprised long hair has been mentioned so many times.

Just read where a lot of brides grow their hair out long for the wedding then cut their hair short (pixie or bob) not long after the wedding. Don't do that. It's the ultimate symbol of "he's locked down, I don't have to give a shit anymore."

These women clearly know the bob doesn't look good -- otherwise, they'd be cutting their hair before the wedding. They just don't care about being attractive once the marriage is sealed.

Communicate clearly(men do not read minds), mean what you say, live in the now and be fun.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ambition, intelligence, and confidence are important.

wearing clothes that fit and emphasize your positive physical attributes is a big deal - not everyone needs to wear short skirts or show cleavage. But, wearing bulky unfitted clothing make even the best looking woman less attractive. If you have great legs, wear heels and skirts. If you've got a great waist, make sure you wear something that shows it instead of covering it.

Ambition will make a woman more attractive? Nah, I don't think so.

I'm the pp. I can't believe so many have rejected ambition as a sexy/attractive feature in a woman.

I can't believe you'd prefer a woman who is just plain satisfied and getting by with a dead end or limiting job and life. I want a woman who wants to achieve something more. It doesn't necessarily mean she wants to be CEO but it means she's not going to be satisfied being a SAHM or part time non-professional just because that's a safe mommy job.

I'm in a dead end job because my kids are my priority. I'm home by 4pm and never travel. I have a lifetime to have a big career if I want, but right now I'm not squandering my children's youth for a bigger paycheck. plus my DH has a big career, both of us can't be doing that at the same time. He'd completely disagree with you. Without my support at home, he wouldn't be able to do what he does and be the great provider that he is. He feels like his role is to provide and my role is to take care of everyone. We are happily matched.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ambition, intelligence, and confidence are important.

wearing clothes that fit and emphasize your positive physical attributes is a big deal - not everyone needs to wear short skirts or show cleavage. But, wearing bulky unfitted clothing make even the best looking woman less attractive. If you have great legs, wear heels and skirts. If you've got a great waist, make sure you wear something that shows it instead of covering it.

Ambition will make a woman more attractive? Nah, I don't think so.

I'm the pp. I can't believe so many have rejected ambition as a sexy/attractive feature in a woman.

I can't believe you'd prefer a woman who is just plain satisfied and getting by with a dead end or limiting job and life. I want a woman who wants to achieve something more. It doesn't necessarily mean she wants to be CEO but it means she's not going to be satisfied being a SAHM or part time non-professional just because that's a safe mommy job.

I'm in a dead-end job because it's satisfying. Helping people makes a difference in the world. Selling my soul to make a huge corporation some more money seems so meaningless. A lot of people do it and it makes them happy. Good for them, but I don't ever want to join them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ambition, intelligence, and confidence are important.

wearing clothes that fit and emphasize your positive physical attributes is a big deal - not everyone needs to wear short skirts or show cleavage. But, wearing bulky unfitted clothing make even the best looking woman less attractive. If you have great legs, wear heels and skirts. If you've got a great waist, make sure you wear something that shows it instead of covering it.

Ambition will make a woman more attractive? Nah, I don't think so.

Disagree. I don't know that I could truly be attracted to a woman who was not ambitious.

Not Me. Great if she is ambitious, but there is list of things much longer before that comes into play. Plus I do well enough on my own. I don't need a huge (or any) contribution from her financially.

I prefer a care taker, kind, and a woman who physically takes care of herself.

Man here. Leaving out the emotional stuff and focusing just one simple physical thing people may not think of:

Wear your hair down and keep it long. When you come back from the hairdresser, you look amazing. I have no idea what they do there, but don't go back to putting your hair up every day thereafter. Wear it down and in the style they did it in -- it looks great.

Ambition and brains. And blowjobs, without too much extra weight.

Seriously. You can easily find men who are turned on by your mind and drive. You cannot so easily find (straight) men who are turned on by those things and still want to be with you for the rest of your life if you are fat and don't do good sex.

Red lipstick. High heels. A garter and black, thigh high stockings with the seam up the back. That pretty much does it for me.

Don't get fat. If you were fat when you met, don't get fatter.

You are a dolt and a dying breed of a douche canoe PP. I really hope you aren't raising girls.

Anonymous wrote:Disagree. I don't know that I could truly be attracted to a woman who was not ambitious.

Bah, humbug.

Ladies, neither I nor society at large needs you getting a degree in Communications or Business or Peruvian Basket-weaving. We don't need you getting a STEM degree or learning to program so you can compete with cheap H1B imports from India. We don't need you working at a local/state/federal government job in order to feed your four cats. We don't need you trying to prove you're just as good as a low-performing, ineffectual man. We don't even need you trying to compete with the lobbyists and biglaw partners.

We need you to be a) a woman, b) a wife, and c) a mother.

If you want to attract a man, those have to be your primary ambitions. Your call.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ambition, intelligence, and confidence are important.

wearing clothes that fit and emphasize your positive physical attributes is a big deal - not everyone needs to wear short skirts or show cleavage. But, wearing bulky unfitted clothing make even the best looking woman less attractive. If you have great legs, wear heels and skirts. If you've got a great waist, make sure you wear something that shows it instead of covering it.

Ambition will make a woman more attractive? Nah, I don't think so.

I'm the pp. I can't believe so many have rejected ambition as a sexy/attractive feature in a woman.

I can't believe you'd prefer a woman who is just plain satisfied and getting by with a dead end or limiting job and life. I want a woman who wants to achieve something more. It doesn't necessarily mean she wants to be CEO but it means she's not going to be satisfied being a SAHM or part time non-professional just because that's a safe mommy job.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ambition, intelligence, and confidence are important.

wearing clothes that fit and emphasize your positive physical attributes is a big deal - not everyone needs to wear short skirts or show cleavage. But, wearing bulky unfitted clothing make even the best looking woman less attractive. If you have great legs, wear heels and skirts. If you've got a great waist, make sure you wear something that shows it instead of covering it.

Ambition will make a woman more attractive? Nah, I don't think so.

Disagree. I don't know that I could truly be attracted to a woman who was not ambitious.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not reading through seven pages of comments, but I assume a few other guys already said it:

Stay within 10-15 lbs of your original weight when we met.
Maintain the same sex schedule.
Say exactly what is on your mind in as few figurative terms as possible.
Don't use the kids as an excuse to not do the above.

So many people see those three things as cliched but that's only because it's what we really care about.

Agree. At heart, men are truly simple creatures.