People who worry about whether or not others are drinking are the ones with the problem.

I don't drink (even a little) because I get a horrible headache and feel like I felt when I was hung over in college. Sometimes I'd like to have a nice glass of wine, but I feel so awful later, it just isn't worth it.

I don't think I'm uptight. I make an excellent designated driver.

I think some people who don't drink are uptight, but I'd think that about those people regardless of the drinking thing - it's part of a bigger picture.

I'm a social drinker - beer and wine. I enjoy the taste, but could give it up for medical or financial reasons if I had to do so.

I've dated several guys who didn't drink. One had an alcoholic father and two brothers who'd had a lot of problems due to alcohol. He was definitely damaged and uptight about it - we didn't last very long for that and other reasons. The other two guys were chill about it. One grew up Mormon and just never really got into it after leaving the faith, and the other didn't like the way it made him feel. I drank when in their company, but probably less than I would have otherwise. They weren't judgmental, just normal about it.

I think some people are uptight and need alcohol to unwind. Some people are uptight and don't drink. I also know people who don't drink and are super fun. It just depends. Also, sometimes I feel like drinking, sometimes I don't.

To me, it's not really a black and white issue. Personally, I could probably give up beer and most liquor, but would be pretty sad to never drink a glass of wine or margarita again.

I am married to a non-drinker who is not uptight. Never bothered me.

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Anonymous wrote:Some are, some aren't.

This. I have friends who don't drink and they aren't uptight. It's not a big deal, they don't make it a big deal, we don't make it a big deal. I find that people who feel the need to tell you they don't drink and explain in detail why (and it often involves some version of "I don't need to drink to have a good time") are usually uptight. People who are like, "Eh, I don't drink, pass the salt, please," are usually not.

Yep.

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I like to drink after a long day at work, while entertaining, or out with friends. It relaxes me and I feel more comfortable socializing. However, I have noticed that after just one drink I tend to get a headache. As much as I love to drink, I have decided the cons out way the pros. My point is, some people my choose not to drink because of medical reasons.

So you are turned between a headache and drinking?

I like to drink after a long day at work, while entertaining, or out with friends. It relaxes me and I feel more comfortable socializing. However, I have noticed that after just one drink I tend to get a headache. As much as I love to drink, I have decided the cons out way the pros. My point is, some people my choose not to drink because of medical reasons.

My DH doesn't drink and is not uptight. His father and brother were alcoholics when he was growing up and DH stayed as far away from alcohol as he could.

Anonymous wrote:I don't really drink anymore--after back to back pregnancies, breastfeeding for a long time, and just getting older, my body can't take it. Red wine especially. I need to be able to function and I just feel too lousy after drinking these days.

Same. I get massive headaches after drinking now, sometimes even just one or two drinks.

Most people who don't drink do seem uptight to me. Others don't, though - it's really all about how you act at parties.

My DH does not drink because he IS really uptight about it. It's a control thing. But he is the life of the party, and most people assume he has been drinking. (I knock back enough for the both of us...)

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I do. It may not be a fair judgement, but it's generally true in my experience. I'm sure if asked, they wouldn't say they were uptight, so I'm not surprised at some of these responses.

Your post is such a sad commentary on many people's viewpoint about drinking. It can put pressure on those who don't need to be drinking.

Of all the posts here, mine is the sad commentary? I don't know how you gathered that my privately held opinion pressures anyone, but this is exactly what I meant. Drink or don't drink, I don't really care, but in my experience people who don't simply out of choice, and not due to a medical reason, tend to be uptight and perhaps a bit self important. Most people don't give a shit, but you insist that they do.

+100

Yes, uptight. Especially on their birthday.

Anonymous wrote:I think people who do not drink are a) an alcoholic b) religious or c) somewhat of a control freak who cannot relax.

I don't care if people don't drink but I have never met a person who doesn't drink for reasons a or b that isn't a judge mental prude who thinks anyone who does drink is an alcoholic. They have generally been horrible people who are no fun.

You sound very defensive of your drinking. Don't worry the nondrinkers won't pry your bottle of booze from your claws. Alcohol is a drug and some people just don't need drugs flowing through their brain to relax or enjoy life. You obviously do if you don't understand why some people don't drink.

Anonymous wrote:I just can't imagine going to a nice dinner or being on vacation and not having a drink. Do you know what you're missing?? I don't think you're uptight but perhaps unsophisticated...

This is the dumbest post I have read on this website.