Anonymous wrote:Yes, my mistake was agreeing to the time. And yes, from now on I will only do drinks 2 hrs and under for first three dates. Thanks for pointing this out.

There shouldn't be a hard and fast rule. If a guy wants to take you out to dinner within the first three dates and you would like that too, then go for it.

I have kids and a family, so things are different, but in my house 7 is after dinner. It's rare that we aren't finished eating by 7. Obviously that's not for everyone, but it could have been an honest mistake.

Yes, but the time that I have dinner at home with my kid is very different than the time that I would meet an adult friend or date for dinner at a restaurant.

Wow, OP went on her date, made conclusions and probably long forgot all about it, and you all are still here disecting and analysing it...

It was controlling to tell him to put it on his credit card; it was controlling to tell him to add more to the tip; and it was inflexible to insist on eating at her designated time when he made clear it wouldn't be date involving a meal.

LOL, you don't get to insist that someone not eat, especially when you're not paying for their food or drinks!

I have kids and a family, so things are different, but in my house 7 is after dinner. It's rare that we aren't finished eating by 7. Obviously that's not for everyone, but it could have been an honest mistake.

How is she being controlling when he is the one telling her when to eat? If he wants to do just drinks that is fine, meet either earlier or later. Also, if someone said they couldn't believe how much I ate, I'm not going to give them a chance to get to know me."

It was controlling to tell him to put it on his credit card; it was controlling to tell him to add more to the tip; and it was inflexible to insist on eating at her designated time when he made clear it wouldn't be date involving a meal.

Technically this was your second date- you'd already met for coffee that he didn't pay for. Your first three dates definitely don't have to be 'drinks only'. No matter how you slice it, this guy was awkward.

Anonymous wrote:At least this way OP got to see whether her date would spend money on her when she maneuvered him into a position where it would be socially awkward not to. Which is apparently very important.

You clearly didn't read or understand what I wrote.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my mistake was agreeing to the time. And yes, from now on I will only do drinks 2 hrs and under for first three dates. Thanks for pointing this out.

Chuckling. Who knows if this new approach will bring you "the one". I remember a PP mentioned that her DH was at first turned off because she was a drinks only while I get to know you while he wanted dinner.

Clearly he's not interested but I wasn't impressed that he left with my $30 in his wallet. It just doesn't seem like a man who wants to impress me and put his best foot forward.

Well, I agree that he doesn't sounds like a catch for several other reasons, but you're making it sound like he stole your money. All you did was split the check, which seems ok to me.

At least this way OP got to see whether her date would spend money on her when she maneuvered him into a position where it would be socially awkward not to. Which is apparently very important.

Yes, my mistake was agreeing to the time. And yes, from now on I will only do drinks 2 hrs and under for first three dates. Thanks for pointing this out.

I am about the dates age and far past the date stage. More in the make new friends stage. But at that age, better to be quick and specific. How about a drink at Mo's bar in Dupont at 7 on Friday? Or do you like La Madeline? We could meet there and have a quick snack? Time is much more precious and it is always better to leave an out. "Dinner date" sounds so heavy. And too many choices. Like do you mean fancy? Are you OK with the local place? etc ect