it's not so much the arrangement itself, but that they didn't tell you the circumstance until now. It wouldn't work for me, but everyone in our family has sleep issues.

Maybe inlaws can keep baby in their room?

I'd bale. After a 6 hour drive and cramped quarters, I'd think I'd end up at the end of the weekend wishing I'd just stayed home. No beach within a 6 hour drive of DC is worth that nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:6 hour drive for two nights with 1 bathroom for 6 adults and at least 2 kids? I'd say thank you, but our plans have changed, and we can't make it.

+1000 Free ain't worth it.

No way in hell would I do it. I'd either stay at a nearby hotel and treat everyone to dinner one night or graciously bow out.

Amen. A voice of reason.

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Anonymous wrote:6 hour drive for two nights with 1 bathroom for 6 adults and at least 2 kids? I'd say thank you, but our plans have changed, and we can't make it.

+1000 Free ain't worth it.

No way in hell would I do it. I'd either stay at a nearby hotel and treat everyone to dinner one night or graciously bow out.

In OBX, many of the basements have very obviously been flooded. You will recall, not too many years ago, that "beach houses" there were built on stilts in an attempt to thwart this. When they started building larger houses, it was a marketing effort, as the realtors built "beach houses" as investments. They make no secret of it.

In which case, when sleeping in a cold, wet, musty basement is the only option, sleeping on the floor is not a possibility. If you have any kind of allergies, sleeping on the basement floor is a legitimate health concern. Never mind the fact that no one I know would be able to get a decent night's sleep, at all. For an entire week? Or two? One would be bad enough. In addition, is this your only vacation time, OP? Is this how you want to spend it?

OP, if they are such cads, have your own vacation elsewhere, where you are not subjected to their acting out, and their thinking they are somehow doing you a favor.

Anonymous wrote:I would go and if the first night is horrible drive home early It is doable IMO ..

How do you make it work with one bed (queen, if we are lucky), two adults, and two pre teens???? And no room for an air mattress to lay on the floor and not at a very obvious angle? PP refuses to answer this, curiously.

MIL is that you??!!

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Anonymous wrote:Goodness. You and baby sleep in one bed, dh and preschooler in the other.

That took me all of two seconds to figure out.

Yep.

I would NOT set that precedent, OP. I know IL's who try to pull this crap with preteen children and their parents. Perspective, anyone?

I suggested this on pg. 2 as well. BTDT...heck we've all slept in the same hotel bed together. They know the difference between home and away, they also know when mommy says "NO".

Can you make it work on an air mattress that is slanted at a forty five degree angle? That is the example I am using here. A room too small to fit an air mattress (flat on the floor, picky me) is too small if they are trying to fit that number of people into it. It has nothing to do with being a prima donna. If you can sleep at such an angle, I commend you. I am not one of them. Nor is MIL or SIL who thought it was a wonderful idea. Funny, SIL had the biggest room, which could have easily slept ten people comfortably. Twenty people at a forty five degree angle.

I have slept in a small bedroom with my husband and two kids MANY times. When they are little there is absolutely no need to cram air mattresses in between twin beds or any other such nonsense. Little kids can easily sleep with a parent or in a sleeping bag or in a pack n play. When they are older, they can sleep in sleeping bags on the living room floor or even out on the deck. It is all very doable if you are the least bit interested in trying to make it doable.

Of course, if you are dead set on seeing it all as a HUGE problem and inconvenience - your wish will be granted in spades.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Goodness. You and baby sleep in one bed, dh and preschooler in the other.

That took me all of two seconds to figure out.

Yep.

I would NOT set that precedent, OP. I know IL's who try to pull this crap with preteen children and their parents. Perspective, anyone?

I suggested this on pg. 2 as well. BTDT...heck we've all slept in the same hotel bed together. They know the difference between home and away, they also know when mommy says "NO".

Can you make it work on an air mattress that is slanted at a forty five degree angle? That is the example I am using here. A room too small to fit an air mattress (flat on the floor, picky me) is too small if they are trying to fit that number of people into it. It has nothing to do with being a prima donna. If you can sleep at such an angle, I commend you. I am not one of them. Nor is MIL or SIL who thought it was a wonderful idea. Funny, SIL had the biggest room, which could have easily slept ten people comfortably. Twenty people at a forty five degree angle.

I have slept in a small bedroom with my husband and two kids MANY times. When they are little there is absolutely no need to cram air mattresses in between twin beds or any other such nonsense. Little kids can easily sleep with a parent or in a sleeping bag or in a pack n play. When they are older, they can sleep in sleeping bags on the living room floor or even out on the deck. It is all very doable if you are the least bit interested in trying to make it doable.

Of course, if you are dead set on seeing it all as a HUGE problem and inconvenience - your wish will be granted in spades.

I would go and if the first night is horrible drive home early It is doable IMO ..

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Goodness. You and baby sleep in one bed, dh and preschooler in the other.

That took me all of two seconds to figure out.

Yep.

I would NOT set that precedent, OP. I know IL's who try to pull this crap with preteen children and their parents. Perspective, anyone?

I suggested this on pg. 2 as well. BTDT...heck we've all slept in the same hotel bed together. They know the difference between home and away, they also know when mommy says "NO".

Can you make it work on an air mattress that is slanted at a forty five degree angle? That is the example I am using here. A room too small to fit an air mattress (flat on the floor, picky me) is too small if they are trying to fit that number of people into it. It has nothing to do with being a prima donna. If you can sleep at such an angle, I commend you. I am not one of them. Nor is MIL or SIL who thought it was a wonderful idea. Funny, SIL had the biggest room, which could have easily slept ten people comfortably. Twenty people at a forty five degree angle.

Didnt read all 8 pages of responses so I may be missing new details not in the OP, but we stayed for a week with my ILs at the beach and we had two twin beds in a small room. we put the baby in a PNP (it was tight but it fit at the foot of my bed). We were able to use a second bedroom for the toddler, but if we hadn't had that room, toddler would have slept with me in the twin, or in a sleeping bag/ spare mattress on the floor (you might not have room for this). Id say if its just two nights and you are staying for free, you can all cram into a small room.

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Anonymous wrote:Goodness. You and baby sleep in one bed, dh and preschooler in the other.

That took me all of two seconds to figure out.

Yep.

I would NOT set that precedent, OP. I know IL's who try to pull this crap with preteen children and their parents. Perspective, anyone?

I suggested this on pg. 2 as well. BTDT...heck we've all slept in the same hotel bed together. They know the difference between home and away, they also know when mommy says "NO".

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Goodness. You and baby sleep in one bed, dh and preschooler in the other.

That took me all of two seconds to figure out.

Yep.

I would NOT set that precedent, OP. I know IL's who try to pull this crap with preteen children and their parents. Perspective, anyone?

What works with babies won't necessarily work with pre teen/teens. I wouldn't expect a teenager to sleep in bed with a parent, share a small room. However, a teen can be put out in the living room in a sleeping bag. I slept in many sleeping bags as a teen - decks, living rooms, basements, you name it.

Anonymous wrote:"Most of us know that there is plenty of middle ground and that we are all responsible for our own happiness. If you have the right attitude, you will always be able to make do and have fun."

Signed, bitter, deflecting, spoiled SIL who thinks everything is about her. Grow up.

No hon. I could absolutely make that one bedroom for two days work. In fact, I have!

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Anonymous wrote:Goodness. You and baby sleep in one bed, dh and preschooler in the other.

That took me all of two seconds to figure out.

Yep.

I would NOT set that precedent, OP. I know IL's who try to pull this crap with preteen children and their parents. Perspective, anyone?