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Anonymous wrote:Were you in a coma the entire time you dated him and throughout the ensuing years after marriage? Maybe the problem is you.

Are you trying to say that you believe people stay the absolute same throughout their lives and don't change when in a marriage?

It never ceases to amaze me that people cannot see beyond their own noses. No wonder this world is full of wars and violence. Very few people have the ability to imagine that other people have other circumstances.

I am so thankful for my marriage. My DH and I met when we were 20 & 21. We have changed tremendously through the years. We are not the same people who met in 1998. I feel like it is simply luck that we changed together and remained compatible. ..and stronger. I realize that we are lucky and this is not everyone's experience.

I can't wrap my head around the fact that other people cannot see that everyone has a unique experience. Also marriage is NOT for life. Nobody has to be tied to destructive and unhealthy dogma for the sake of what exactly?

Then don't marry ....... just live together and when you have had enough of each other then move on.

Marriage is not serial monogamy either where you marry, divorce ...... rinse and repeat. At the very least don't make a mockery of marriage vows. How about a vow to stay together until we decide we have had enough?

Anonymous wrote:Bitch OP here. So, after a few days of us not really talking, my H showed up at my office this morning, told me how much he loved me, and that he misses me. We went to lunch and talked. I told him that I love him, but I also did not want to fight about who did what b/c we always end up in the same spot. We are who we are, and we probably aren't changing. He said he realizes that he has been an asshole lately. And he also wants me to do my part (less bitchy, probably). That's fair. So, good day. We'll see. Inevitably, my scale will tip back in the direction of "fed up with this shit", but who knows when, for how long, and whether it will remain that way.

This is marriage, OP. It's up and down, just like life. You don't sound very easy to live with yourself.

Eventually, you get older. And you see that you can't just trade partners because you're bored or he's ticking you off. Many of my friends who divorced in their 40s are still single. The dating dynamics just aren't in their favor as the 45-year-old man likes 35-year-old women.

Your daughter should be your priority, since you choose to have her, and she deserves an intact family.

Bitch OP here. So, after a few days of us not really talking, my H showed up at my office this morning, told me how much he loved me, and that he misses me. We went to lunch and talked. I told him that I love him, but I also did not want to fight about who did what b/c we always end up in the same spot. We are who we are, and we probably aren't changing. He said he realizes that he has been an asshole lately. And he also wants me to do my part (less bitchy, probably). That's fair. So, good day. We'll see. Inevitably, my scale will tip back in the direction of "fed up with this shit", but who knows when, for how long, and whether it will remain that way.

Anonymous wrote:OP's a bitch.

Profound.

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Speak for your own wife! Many of us take pride in our appearance. I'm 36 and I have two children. I'm 5'9". I was 142 on our wedding day and 148 today. I work out daily and am MORE fit today than my wedding day, plus I have a new set of tits.

Who paid for those?

The husband, I suppose, but at least he's getting a return on investment.

LOL haven't checked this thread in a couple of days. I see you all are quite emotional about my post. I don't have time to address all the questions/comments, but I do work full time and earn the same as my DH. We have all joint accounts, so I would say we shared in the expense?

Why do you think I don't work? Just curious.

To the other poster....the same size as I was when they were in their full glory at age 23. Nursing two babies for a year each really did a number on them.

Continue on haters. I've gotta finish up work here. Gym at 4 today.

OP's a bitch.

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Anonymous wrote:Were you in a coma the entire time you dated him and throughout the ensuing years after marriage? Maybe the problem is you.

Are you trying to say that you believe people stay the absolute same throughout their lives and don't change when in a marriage?

It never ceases to amaze me that people cannot see beyond their own noses. No wonder this world is full of wars and violence. Very few people have the ability to imagine that other people have other circumstances.

I am so thankful for my marriage. My DH and I met when we were 20 & 21. We have changed tremendously through the years. We are not the same people who met in 1998. I feel like it is simply luck that we changed together and remained compatible. ..and stronger. I realize that we are lucky and this is not everyone's experience.

I can't wrap my head around the fact that other people cannot see that everyone has a unique experience. Also marriage is NOT for life. Nobody has to be tied to destructive and unhealthy dogma for the sake of what exactly?

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Anonymous wrote:Just said a silent prayer thanking my lucky stars that I am married to a woman like my wife.

Not in a million years would she even consider ending our marriage for the reasons you cited. But then, there is no way that I would consider ending my marriage for those reasons.

The difference, OP, is that when we married it was for keeps. There are ups and downs in our relationship but in the ultimate analysis we are committed to each other.

That's wonderful. You are a wonderful person. Bask in your superiority with your wife. I, sadly, am a less wonderful person and I am trying to navigate my way. It's the downside of imperfection.

Powerful response. Nicely done. I wish you the best. Life it too short to live it miserable. You get one shot. Dont squander it.

Are the tits bigger or smaller than the old ones?

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Anonymous wrote:I am with you OP. I am thinking of dumping my wife. She was an attractive woman when I married her but she has put on over 70 pounds since we married and I am quite honestly embarrassed to be seen with her.

Things do change sometimes in terms of personality and other times in terms of looks.

Goes with the territory: most women once they get married put on the pounds like there is no tomorrow. They are motivated to lose the weight after divorce or separation while on the prowl in search of their next mate.

Speak for your own wife! Many of us take pride in our appearance. I'm 36 and I have two children. I'm 5'9". I was 142 on our wedding day and 148 today. I work out daily and am MORE fit today than my wedding day, plus I have a new set of tits.

I still want to look hot for my DH and I want to look hot for myself. Most of my friends are like this too.

pics?

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Anonymous wrote:
Speak for your own wife! Many of us take pride in our appearance. I'm 36 and I have two children. I'm 5'9". I was 142 on our wedding day and 148 today. I work out daily and am MORE fit today than my wedding day, plus I have a new set of tits.

Who paid for those?

The husband, I suppose, but at least he's getting a return on investment.

ACA paid. Which is fine, because new hoots are to be enjoyed by everyone, and thus clearly in the best interest of public health.

Aw, give her a break. She's trying sooo hard to please men, swallowing everything the patriarchy feeds her. She knows looks matter more than anything in a woman, and new tits make you a better person.

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Speak for your own wife! Many of us take pride in our appearance. I'm 36 and I have two children. I'm 5'9". I was 142 on our wedding day and 148 today. I work out daily and am MORE fit today than my wedding day, plus I have a new set of tits.

Who paid for those?

The husband, I suppose, but at least he's getting a return on investment.

Anonymous wrote:
Speak for your own wife! Many of us take pride in our appearance. I'm 36 and I have two children. I'm 5'9". I was 142 on our wedding day and 148 today. I work out daily and am MORE fit today than my wedding day, plus I have a new set of tits.

Who paid for those?

Anonymous wrote:
Speak for your own wife! Many of us take pride in our appearance. I'm 36 and I have two children. I'm 5'9". I was 142 on our wedding day and 148 today. I work out daily and am MORE fit today than my wedding day, plus I have a new set of tits.

Your next sucker will appreciate those.