Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 07:58     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A secretary at my old firm - I didn't know Jewish people had blue eyes.

Old boyfriend - you are a terrible kisser.

My very old HS friend - just had my third, sent out an email announcement (this was pre-Facebook days) and and weeks later she replies - I can't remember if I said congratulations but congratulations. Suffice it to say the friendship died after that.


You are so easily offended!


+1. That is very common and is a sign of forgetfulness and not an insult
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 07:50     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I gained weight after I had kids.

One older lady that I knew started to call me "Big Mama". Nice.



Did you start calling her Big B*tch?!


Not out loud.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 07:49     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:On a college admissions tour at Dartmouth many many years ago, one of the young men asked whether the girls were "hot". The tour guide pointed at me and said "She'd fit in. Do you still want to come?"

I am white and my son is biracial, and like many babies of color looked very white at birth, and then gradually got more color in his skin and curl in his hair. We were checking out at the grocery store one day, and the cashier, who I had seen several times before, asked me "Have you considered the possibility that his father is black?" When I replied "Actually, I know that his father is black" she must have realized that she just implied that I might not remember the race of all the men I had slept with because she started to stutter and apologize. I really think she meant "I wonder if his father is black", which still wouldn't be the greatest question, but sure beats what she asked.


Maybe she thought DS was adopted, perhaps without much information about the father.


Still an incredibly rude question.

I don't think she was thinking at all about the phrasing of her question. That is, I think she'd seen the baby several times, cooed over him, told me he was adorable, so when she noticed that he might be biracial, it came out wrong. I wasn't offended by her comment, and didn't respond in an angry or defensive tone, because I really think she meant "I wonder if his father is black, is he?" which would be stretching the boundaries a little, but isn't nearly as rude as what she actually said.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 07:41     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:I gained weight after I had kids.

One older lady that I knew started to call me "Big Mama". Nice.



Did you start calling her Big B*tch?!
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 07:41     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When I was 15 I disliked my mother's boyfriend. I was rude to him. My mom told me that if I was trying to make her choose, she would choose her boyfriend. She said that if I continued to be a brat she would choose her boyfriend and no longer be my mother.



What ended up happening? Did she choose the boyfriend or did you become nicer to him?


I was nicer to him. This is one of many mean things she has said and done, and we no longer talk.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 07:31     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When I was 15 I disliked my mother's boyfriend. I was rude to him. My mom told me that if I was trying to make her choose, she would choose her boyfriend. She said that if I continued to be a brat she would choose her boyfriend and no longer be my mother.



My mom did the same PP. I know how hurtful this is. Eventually the fog lifted and the jerky boyfriend cheated on my mom, but she always put men over me and my sibling.


Ugh, I got a similar line from dad and stepmother. "The parents are more important than the children."
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 07:29     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Ha, just this weekend, somebody asked me if I had adopted my son. My son looks exactly like me, so I was confused. Then I thought, "OH SHIT - has early parenthood aged me THAT much that I now don't look like I could have physically conceived my son?" (I am only 38). Then I realized that he really just thought I was a lesbian because I was dressed like a hungover lumberjack. Not that there's anything wrong with adopting or being a lesbian, of course!
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 07:29     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
"Do you need help carrying those bags out to your car?" - this after spending the morning walking 5 miles and lifting weights at the gym. Crap.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 07:28     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
I owe many gems to my mother. One went something like "people are nice to you because you're useful to them. They don't consider you an equal."
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 07:25     Subject: Re:What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
My cousins at a wedding when they met my DH, "Wow, you married a normal guy!"
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 07:21     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:When I was 15 I disliked my mother's boyfriend. I was rude to him. My mom told me that if I was trying to make her choose, she would choose her boyfriend. She said that if I continued to be a brat she would choose her boyfriend and no longer be my mother.



My mom did the same PP. I know how hurtful this is. Eventually the fog lifted and the jerky boyfriend cheated on my mom, but she always put men over me and my sibling.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 06:57     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My MIL - of English descent, hair is a mess. has a mole on her face with a hair. 30 lbs overweight, big boned. Always frowning. Needs her teeth cleaned.

Me - Eastern European, slight build. Great teeth.

Mom: Men always marry women who look like their MILs

Me: My husband didn't.

Mom: Yes he did.
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WTF?

Sounds like some idiot thing my MIL would come up with. Sorry, pp. Though it is quite funny and I am somehow sure, quite obvious



Don't apologize. It is very funny... NOW. An it actually led to major progress in therapy (the list of mean things is long), so I am cool with it. Glad you laughed.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 06:35     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most of you have gotten off easy if these are the MOST insulting things you've ever been told.

In high school, my male best friend said, out of the blue, "You're fat." I said, "What?", feeling bewildered. He clarified, "I mean, you eat a lot." The weird thing, though, is that he was in love with me, so I learned that people don't always make a lot of sense.

I had some douchebag frat boys make comments about my weight at parties in college.

After I had gastric bypass surgery, a crazy ex-boyfriend told me I'd always be a fat girl down deep.


Are you serious? Not to minimize the hurt you felt from comments that had been made to you, but there has been MUCH worse mentioned on this thread than "douchebag frat boys" calling you fat. That's just par for the course when you're fat, lady. And FYI, sounds like your male best friend was just stating the truth when he said "you're fat". Clearly his delivery/thought process was way off, but fat is not the worst thing to be.

From one fat woman to another (former or not), I recommend you look in to the fat acceptance movement.


To clarify, I didn't mean that my examples were worse than everyone else's. Just that some of them aren't insulting, like, at all.


It's extremely rude to say this and demonstrates a lack if empathy by you. Who are you to judge what may or may not be hurtf to someone else? You haven't walked in their shoes. Or experienced what they did. Sometimes it's not what is said it is who says it.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 06:33     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
Anonymous wrote:When I was 15 I disliked my mother's boyfriend. I was rude to him. My mom told me that if I was trying to make her choose, she would choose her boyfriend. She said that if I continued to be a brat she would choose her boyfriend and no longer be my mother.



What ended up happening? Did she choose the boyfriend or did you become nicer to him?
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2014 06:25     Subject: What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?
When I was 15 I disliked my mother's boyfriend. I was rude to him. My mom told me that if I was trying to make her choose, she would choose her boyfriend. She said that if I continued to be a brat she would choose her boyfriend and no longer be my mother.