Anonymous wrote:Curious. Did you marry your DH/DW for money or "prestige"? How is it working out.

Single myself. Two of my close girlfriends married 4 years ago for money - one to a multi-millionaire entrepreneur and one to a lawyer. Both of them have talked about cheating, about constantly trying to re-establish his affection by being beautiful/sweet/good in bed, about loneliness, etc. One of them burst into tears when she got pregnant a second time because she was afraid she'd lose her figure and he'd divorce her.

No. We were both raised middle class, striving to be upper middle class when we met.

Anonymous wrote:Did some DH marry his DW for money or earning capacity?

I am now a trophy husband without a formal job, because my wife brings in the big money as a specialized Medical Doctor. I probably wouldn't have asked her on a second date if I was just going by looks and general compatibility. The earning potential and family connections/wealth made it easier for me to follow through to a proposal, and now I wouldn't trade her for anyone else, even if she was younger and hotter.

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Anonymous wrote:Do men actually not realize these women are marrying them for their money? Or do they not care and only care about having that trophy skank on their arm?

Nope, they don't care. Works both ways because the man may be ugly as sin. Or the woman may look hot but may be as dumb as door knob.

She gets the lifestyle she wants and he gets an attractive woman.

Look at Rupert Murdoch as an extreme example: what do you think Wendi Deng saw in him? What do you think he saw in her - though she was not dumb woman by any means.

I guess it is just hard for me to relate.

If I had that kind of money, the last thing I'd want is some chick who is only interested in my money. Hot or not. If there isn't that emotional connection, why bother?

With that kind of money I could bang hot chicks all day without having to put a ring on her finger. Then again I guess it is all just a perception thing for them. Make it look like true love, have a family, etc... so it looks better to his boys at the country club.

Anonymous wrote:Do men actually not realize these women are marrying them for their money? Or do they not care and only care about having that trophy skank on their arm?

Nope, they don't care. Works both ways because the man may be ugly as sin. Or the woman may look hot but may be as dumb as door knob.

She gets the lifestyle she wants and he gets an attractive woman.

Look at Rupert Murdoch as an extreme example: what do you think Wendi Deng saw in him? What do you think he saw in her - though she was not dumb woman by any means.

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Anonymous wrote:No, but I dated a few men that I knew could not afford my lifestyle.

It's your lifestyle. You pay for it.

+1

Do men actually not realize these women are marrying them for their money? Or do they not care and only care about having that trophy skank on their arm?

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I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

Kudos to you for being honest.

You are no different than many other women but they would find it difficult to concede it. But the proof is in the pudding: if the guy they were married to were making a fraction of what he is/was when they married him, they would not give him a second look.

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I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.


I need a bath after reading this.

Me too

Most women in this area marry for money to one degree or another.

It is part of the high standards that women here look for when trying to find a mate. It is also the reason why you have so many complaining that it is impossible to find suitable men in this area.

Combine the expectations for money with other pre-requisites and it becomes well nigh impossible to satisfy their requirements. So they stay single until they lower their expectations usually when they are in their thirties and feel they are missing the boat.

Anonymous wrote:People marry for various reasons. if the parties are ok with it, why should anyone care? People who marry for love are often miserable 5 or 10 years in....maybe a business arrangement is not a bad idea.

I disagree. If you marry for LUST, perhaps. For LOVE, you won't be miserable unless you have given up on your marriage. Marriage takes work. If you are not willing to work on your relationship, it will fail.

Married for 10 years.

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Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

I need a bath after reading this.

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+1 Note that the OP said she gives her husband good sex--not that it's mutual...

+1

She also says "we're happy", not that she is happy.
Frankly, I wouldn't want the equivalent of "sloppy seconds." If my guy wanted someone else, he can have her. I would divorce him in a heart beat.
He is faithful to me because I am worth it. And I am faithful to him because HE is worth it.

Anonymous wrote:I married for love, meeting my DH when we were in college. He ended up making a ton of money. I ended up going IPO. I have love and money both his money and mine. I'm rich in love and rich in cash.


Luckily I never had, nor never will have to whore myself out.

+1000

-Married for love and we are comfortable money wise, but I would MUCH rather have my guy who loves me than some jerk who hates me and is putting on appearances.

Anonymous wrote:No, you don't marry for money. If you do you get what you get, misery.

+1

I married for love and I'm happily married 10 years later. I'd much rather have love than $.

I guess your friends learned the hard way, that $ can't buy happiness.

Women on the east coast, or any high cost of living city, probably feel more pressure to marry for money to maintain even a half way decent lifestyle.

In the Midwest, it would be ridiculous to see even the wealthiest of women traipsing around a grocery store in designer pumps, handbags, and sunglasses, with fake eyelashes and hair extensions.

Wealthy people in lower cost of living cities would most likely never allow their children to mingle with or marry a gold digger. They would marry into families they have known for years, from private schools, from same socio economic background.

Anonymous wrote:Does marrying for health insurance count at marrying for money? We got married sooner than we'd planned so I could get health insurance as I have several health problems.

Of course not. Thar's just being practical.