Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Male cheating is NOT a big deal.

Stupid thing to say.

Why?

How has sexual fidelity slip-ups (I'm not talking about Mad Men-style infidelity as a way of life stuff, mind) become worse than similar slipups (e.g. spending $600 on a video game console)?

Marital infidelity is, in your mind, on the same level as buying a video game console? Yikes.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Male cheating is NOT a big deal.

Stupid thing to say.

Why?

How has sexual fidelity slip-ups (I'm not talking about Mad Men-style infidelity as a way of life stuff, mind) become worse than similar slipups (e.g. spending $600 on a video game console)?

Anonymous wrote:I'm in almost the exact same situation. OP - How are you doing a couple months out? How did you get past the anger? I love my husband and really do not want to divorce. But I am so hurt and angry.

Thanks for your original post. It's so helpful to read all these responses when I feel like I have no one to talk to.

Sorry to hear that. It sounds like a very difficult place to be.

I'm not the OP, but my brother and his wife had a very similar situation two years ago. He was out with some guys from work during a business trip, they were all drinking...yada yada yada, he comes home full of remorse and she's devastated and not sure what to do. But they did ultimately work through it and are still together now.

In the end, they didn't think a one-time event was a good reason to break up their otherwise good marriage. He gave up drinking with the guys entirely, which I think went a long way in showing his wife how serious he was about avoiding a repeat situation. And they did some counseling together. I think they are doing quite well now. My sister-in-law and I have a close relationship and we talk a lot, and unless she's hiding it extremely well, she doesn't seem to be hurting over this anymore. But it did take quite a while (a good year, anyway) for her to get to this point. So hopefully, there's some light at the end of this tunnel for you, too.

Anonymous wrote:Male cheating is NOT a big deal.

Stupid thing to say.

Male cheating is NOT a big deal.

I'm in almost the exact same situation. OP - How are you doing a couple months out? How did you get past the anger? I love my husband and really do not want to divorce. But I am so hurt and angry.

Thanks for your original post. It's so helpful to read all these responses when I feel like I have no one to talk to.

Anonymous wrote:Stay with your DH. Forgive him his mistake. Go for therapy. May sure he is free of STDs and STIs.

You decide what the punishment will be. You decide is you want this relationship or not.

Anonymous wrote:Women giving you the advice to divorce your DH are bitter single women who have no hopes of having a family, or bitter married hags whose husbands want to hook up with anybody but their wives.

Yes, your DH made a horrible mistake...and you should be the one who decides what the punishment should be for that one mistake.

However, do not do something that throws away the baby with the bathwater.

Lol 'mistake'...he mistakenly put his dick in another woman? Gtfoh with that. Not being okay with a cheating hoe bag doesn't make a woman a bitter or married hag.

Anonymous wrote:Women giving you the advice to divorce your DH are bitter single women who have no hopes of having a family, or bitter married hags whose husbands want to hook up with anybody but their wives.
Yes, your DH made a horrible mistake...and you should be the one who decides what the punishment should be for that one mistake.

However, do not do something that throws away the baby with the bathwater.

Not true. But I'd guess all the women saying to forgive him and stay are women who lack any self-respect, are needy and desperate, codependent and general pushovers.

Fool me once, with cheating, that's enough.

Women giving you the advice to divorce your DH are bitter single women who have no hopes of having a family, or bitter married hags whose husbands want to hook up with anybody but their wives.

Yes, your DH made a horrible mistake...and you should be the one who decides what the punishment should be for that one mistake.

However, do not do something that throws away the baby with the bathwater.

Divorce, hands down. He can't handle a weekend?
Dump the CPOS!

Get tested. He may say he used a condom, but it sounds like he was drunk and condoms break.

Refer him to AA because it sounds like the tip of the iceberg.

Make him pay but then forgive him!

I wonder if the cabbie gets a kickback from the brothel. It was actually my first thought when I heard the cabbie talked him into it. It's very possible.

Two issues with this.

1) It wasn't his friends who talked him into this but a CAB DRIVER? Wtf. Seriously. What's next, the cashier at Giant talks him into giving all his money to the hobo out front of the store? It's one thing to be convinced by friends, totally another to be such a spineless, brainless schmoe that a perfect stranger can talk you into a life altering decision.

2) People saying they need to "work" on the marriage. People, you work on things that were broken. This wasn't broken, it was perfect until he dropped his dick into a hooker. Totally unforgiveable in my opinion.

Anonymous wrote:Stay with your DH. Forgive him his mistake. Go for therapy. May sure he is free of STDs and STIs.