Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My SIL has issues like OP's when it comes to the family beach house. Word to the wise -- get there before she does and stake your claim on your room. Otherwise you will bet there and she will have put her dd's bag in your room and claim that her dd has her heart set on sharing with you. Undoing it makes you the bad guy.

You are a wise woman.

or agree to the nieve staying in that room (b/c it would just break her heart to move) with her parents.

Easy.

note - I have had a variation of this and highly agree to get there 1st. I was stuck in the small room with 2 kids while my SIL had the big room w 1 kid. We could not even walk around the bed b/c w had an air mattress and a pack and play. I asked my husband to inform them so we could change the 2nd night and got the - oh we are all unpacked already response.

Not OP but I really appreciate other peoples experiences and suggestions. Glad to know we are not alone

Anonymous wrote:My SIL has issues like OP's when it comes to the family beach house. Word to the wise -- get there before she does and stake your claim on your room. Otherwise you will bet there and she will have put her dd's bag in your room and claim that her dd has her heart set on sharing with you. Undoing it makes you the bad guy.

You are a wise woman.

My SIL has issues like OP's when it comes to the family beach house. Word to the wise -- get there before she does and stake your claim on your room. Otherwise you will bet there and she will have put her dd's bag in your room and claim that her dd has her heart set on sharing with you. Undoing it makes you the bad guy.

"I know you are but what am I?"

Really? Funny.

Anonymous wrote:
Wow, I hope I don't employ 11:59. If I do, not for long. Lets check that IP address, shall we?

Really? I think the pp to whom 11:59 is responding is the crazy one.

Snicker.

Anonymous wrote:
Wow, I hope I don't employ 11:59. If I do, not for long. Lets check that IP address, shall we?

Knock yourself out.

Anonymous wrote:PLEASE let us know how this unfolds, OP.

This is insane.

+100000000

Wow, I hope I don't employ 11:59. If I do, not for long. Lets check that IP address, shall we?

PLEASE let us know how this unfolds, OP.

This is insane.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, offer for she and the 4y.o. to sleep in your room, and you sleep in the room with her husband. That seems about as arbitrary as her set-up.

Best suggestion yet. But really isn't there usually one bedroom that's least desirable? I'm sure that's the room where OP will be stuck. That's enough of a sacrifice and about as "fair" as OP should be expected to be.

I think the kids should be stuck in the least desirable room.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, offer for she and the 4y.o. to sleep in your room, and you sleep in the room with her husband. That seems about as arbitrary as her set-up.

Best suggestion yet. But really isn't there usually one bedroom that's least desirable? I'm sure that's the room where OP will be stuck. That's enough of a sacrifice and about as "fair" as OP should be expected to be.

No, no, no. Don't offer to stay in room with her DH. Given the sister's narcissism, she will forever accuse OP of wanting her BIL. Yuck!

Anonymous wrote:Op, offer for she and the 4y.o. to sleep in your room, and you sleep in the room with her husband. That seems about as arbitrary as her set-up.

Best suggestion yet. But really isn't there usually one bedroom that's least desirable? I'm sure that's the room where OP will be stuck. That's enough of a sacrifice and about as "fair" as OP should be expected to be.

Anonymous wrote:

Are you MIL - 15:27?? Wow.

PP here. I am not projecting wildly.

I am sharing my experiences. If you have nothing constructive to add, or are just looking for a fight, thats your problem, not mine.

Did you notice the title of the thread?

OP, vacations are supposed to be pleasant, something you look forward to, not dread. Some ILs (and 15:27!) don't play well with others and try to deflect. They are not very good at it. This seems to be the situation you are in. Call them out and try to come to an agreement ahead of time.

You need to be around negative on your vacation.

Once again, you are projecting wildly. I referred to your incessant postings ranting about the family vacation aspect. You posted an insanely rambling post at 11:25 going on ad nauseum about your own family vacation and the horrors of your MIL. Then, not content with one rant, you post again at 14:21, again irrelevantly rambling about, what, birth order this time? In one sentence, I mildly let you know that your posts have almost nothing to do with the OP, you come back and say I am looking for a fight? What fight? No one has disagreed that the OP should not share a room with her niece. No one. You can check with Jeff, if you wish, because all of my (polite and brief) posts have been entirely supportive of OP. Unlike, say, your own posts, which are bizarrely tangential.

You have many issues, not the least of which is your questionable grip on reality.