I didn't post the "ethical option" comment.

-OP

Anonymous wrote:Well, I think if i was trying to troll, I would start a shitstorm about abortion..... but that's just me...

OP

Riiiight... Which is exactly why you did that by later posting (as if you were someone else) that abortion is the only ethical option.
Nice try, troll.

Not sure if OP is for real or not. But I agree that giving birth and then giving the baby up is a wonderful thing to do. Very selfless. The selfish thing would be to abort.

I can still get pregnant but I don't think I would survive raising an infant/toddler again. I am in my 40s.

I know so many married women who have had a BC failure or assumed they could no longer get pregnant and had a surprise baby.... I think once you know you don't want anymore you should take definitive steps to ensure that you don't, like tubes tied/vasectomy/IUD. Pills, shots and certainly condoms are not reliable. I got my second child thanks to a condom, and the morning after pill failed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only ethical option here is abortion.

That's ridiculous, a huge reach, and I suspect you're trolling. OP, if real (and like others I have doubts) has not indicated that this child would have any major medical issues that might make life very painful. She and her spouse have decided to give this child up to a family who, presumably, would be young enough to better keep up with and help raise a child. They are also planning on an open adoption and keeping in contact.
I'm as pro choice as they come, but the choice made here was life. Now the OP may change their minds, and that's their prerogative.
But the only ethical option? Hardly.

I disagree and stand by what I said, with a clarification: The only option that will not cause pain and hardship to the child is abortion.

Anonymous wrote:The only ethical option here is abortion.

That's ridiculous, a huge reach, and I suspect you're trolling. OP, if real (and like others I have doubts) has not indicated that this child would have any major medical issues that might make life very painful. She and her spouse have decided to give this child up to a family who, presumably, would be young enough to better keep up with and help raise a child. They are also planning on an open adoption and keeping in contact.
I'm as pro choice as they come, but the choice made here was life. Now the OP may change their minds, and that's their prerogative.
But the only ethical option? Hardly.

The only ethical option here is abortion.

Anonymous wrote:This is fake.

No way a 56-year-old would say "none of our kids were planned. We just go with it."

No way they wouldn't have been pushed to do a CVS/amnio/Maternit21 by 15 weeks.

OP, if you're for real, did you have a nuchal test? Where was it done? What were the age-adjusted percentage results?

OP, I really hope you're not just trolling and looking for attention.
If you are legitimate, have you had any nuchal or genetic testing? Will you have this done?
Have you contacted an adoption agency?

Anonymous wrote:If you're having the "baby" regardless of what genetic tests find, do you think maybe it will be hard to find adoptive parents willing to take on a child with severe issues?

+1

troll post.

60 with a kindergartener. YIkes. I had my kids late in life (45) and many times I wake up from a nightmare that I am pregnant, AGAIN. Whew, just a dream.

This is fake.

No way a 56-year-old would say "none of our kids were planned. We just go with it."

No way they wouldn't have been pushed to do a CVS/amnio/Maternit21 by 15 weeks.

OP, if you're for real, did you have a nuchal test? Where was it done? What were the age-adjusted percentage results?

I call bullshit on this one based on the OP's responses.

If you're having the "baby" regardless of what genetic tests find, do you think maybe it will be hard to find adoptive parents willing to take on a child with severe issues?

This is crap. Listen to the OP's voice, it is not that of a 50 something yr old woman. The style is that of a younger Internet user.

Seriously, what 56 yr old writes "wanna"?!

Anonymous wrote:We are having this child regardless of any health problems. Abortion is completely off the table and finding DS, or any chromosomal issue would not change that.

Why?