Anonymous wrote:What's a "spuse"?

1. spuse
verb: to repetitively make the same typo
noun: a repetitively mistyped word
Ben spused the word spouse several times today at work.

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Anonymous wrote:After reading all 8 pages it's clear that OP is hiding in the closet, ashamed of asking for a divorce and a coward hiding from their family/friends.

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After reading all 8 pages it's clear that OP is hiding in the closet, ashamed of asking for a divorce and a coward hiding from their family/friends.

Does he/she love you long time?

How often do you and your Luvah get together?

That'd be... On the Down Low..

Haven't read all the posts but am wondering, are you married heterosexually but cheating with a same sex partner?

How do you handle other people who find out? Do you really never set foot in public with your lover? Even a secluded act of park/car sex could be busted...

I was out with my (married) boyfriend when we ran into colleagues of his, who knew his wife. He endured a lot of teasing the next day at work and finally just played along...

Now, we weren't concerned about his wife finding out because she and I are friendly and everyone was willingly involved in the poly relationship....but in your case that could easily be a huge problem that goes deeper than having a shared laugh/joke with your partner over having been "caught."

Anonymous wrote:He/she still has not definitively answered the question as to whether this is a same-sex affair.

Pretty sure it's a gay affair. By the tone of the thread, I'm thinking it's a woman...but it could also be a man exploring his femininity.

where did you find the lover?

He/she still has not definitively answered the question as to whether this is a same-sex affair.

Even if your spouse never found out, has anyone else ever discovered you, such as your coworkers?

Do you pay your lover for your meetings with him/her?

You think your spouse won't find out -- my ex-husband thought the same thing. I only found out through a fluke. He said a lot of the same things -- separate life, on and off like a switch, still loves me.

He lost everything...his wife, his house, and his children.

I hope you do too.

OP, were you posting from somewhere where this can't be traced when your spouse files for divorce?