Anonymous wrote:OP, I wouldn't assume your kid isn't having sex. In fact, sex oftentimes will bring on the yeast infection.

Given what OP has said, it seems more likely that this is due to masturbation or possibly just poor hygiene. But it might also be a sign of an underlying immune deficiency.

OP, if this is all real, this is an emergency situation. Not necessarily the yeast infection (which is bad enough) but her resistance to seeing a doctor. What if she had spinal meningitis? She could be dead within days. One of my nephews almost died his freshman year from a bacterial lung infection that was just the normal sort of thing college kids get. You cannot send her to college when she is so inhibited in her own self care. Your refusal to recognize this as a real issue is astounding. She needs to get into a therapist immediately. You need to make this a condition of your paying for college or whatever other leverage you have. I would be laying down a ton of conditions — she signs a hipaa waiver, she agrees to at least weekly FaceTime calls with you, etc. Sending her out into the cualdroj of infection that is a college campus, or into the world generally, with this level of health anxiety is really scary.

Also, have you thought about that she might be on the spectrum? From the description, it really sounds like that’s a possibility, and anxieties around these sorts of things are common for kids on the spectrum.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This behavior is pretty typical for her. Telling me to shut up or leave her alone isn't out of the ordinary, so it’s not disordered behavior for her.

I do not believe she's sexually active. She's never had a boyfriend and isn't especially social. She's in high school, and from what I can tell, most of her peers aren't dating or sexually active either.

She comes up with all kinds of reasons for why she hates going to the doctor: it's too far away, appointments take too long, the doctor is annoying, they ask too many questions, it's too cold, she's too busy, she's too tired, she hates filling out forms, she hates sitting in the waiting room, etc.

I told her to stop asking me to about it because I wasn't going to keep telling her the same thing. She got angry, but she has stopped asking now.

She needs to be told in no uncertain terms to grow the eff up. Most people dislike going to the doctor for these reasons. We go anyway, because we take care of our health. Tell her to drop the pathetic pretty princess act and start acting like an adult. Your tone needs to be firm when you tell her this.

OP, I wouldn't assume your kid isn't having sex. In fact, sex oftentimes will bring on the yeast infection.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This behavior is pretty typical for her. Telling me to shut up or leave her alone isn't out of the ordinary, so it’s not disordered behavior for her.

I do not believe she's sexually active. She's never had a boyfriend and isn't especially social. She's in high school, and from what I can tell, most of her peers aren't dating or sexually active either.

She comes up with all kinds of reasons for why she hates going to the doctor: it's too far away, appointments take too long, the doctor is annoying, they ask too many questions, it's too cold, she's too busy, she's too tired, she hates filling out forms, she hates sitting in the waiting room, etc.

I told her to stop asking me to about it because I wasn't going to keep telling her the same thing. She got angry, but she has stopped asking now.

ALL OF IT IS DISORDERED, OP. INCLUDING THE WAY YOU ARE RESPONDING TO THIS SITUATION.

When your child makes a dangerous bad decision, you do, in fact, keep "telling her the same thing" when what you are telling her is "this is not the appropriate way to handle this health situation."

You continue to tell your child what the correct decision is. You do not give up, give them weird meds, let them douche with yogurt, etc. because they tell you to shut up. You don't just stop talking about it because you don't want to be bothered anymore.

All the over the counter meds

She doesn’t want to tell you (or possibly admit to herself) that she’s sexually active or worse, has been SA’d. Remind her that doctors may not tell you anything without her permission since she’s 18, but she needs to see a doctor.

Anonymous wrote:Get Monistat 7 at the drugstore (not any of the shorter regimens). If that doesn’t work, then she needs to see a doctor.

This is the correct answer.

This is a troll.

Would she be more willing to see a midwife?

What color is it? And odor?

OP here. This behavior is pretty typical for her. Telling me to shut up or leave her alone isn't out of the ordinary, so it’s not disordered behavior for her.

I do not believe she's sexually active. She's never had a boyfriend and isn't especially social. She's in high school, and from what I can tell, most of her peers aren't dating or sexually active either.

She comes up with all kinds of reasons for why she hates going to the doctor: it's too far away, appointments take too long, the doctor is annoying, they ask too many questions, it's too cold, she's too busy, she's too tired, she hates filling out forms, she hates sitting in the waiting room, etc.

I told her to stop asking me to about it because I wasn't going to keep telling her the same thing. She got angry, but she has stopped asking now.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 18 year old daughter has a vaginal yeast infection, and she says she's had it for a while now. The issue is she doesn't want to go to the doctor and wants to treat it at home.

Does anyone know any home remedies that actually work? We also have a prescription for Ketoconazole Cream 2% (Fougera) at home, and she wanted to use it. She’s getting conflicting reports online about whether it's okay to use for a vaginal yeast infection.

Can she use it? Has anyone dealt with this before or had success treating a yeast infection at home?

I can't imagine not going to the doctor for this. 1 dose of Diflucan will solve the problem.

She can try Monistat 3 day over the counter. She could try douching with plain yogurt. She could eat a lot of yogurt and cut back on other sources of sugar in her diet. She should wear cotton underwear and change them frequently.

Good luck!

OMG, do not douche with yogurt!

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/do-home-remedies-actually-work-for-yeast-infections

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. She’s never been sexually active before so it can’t be an STD, and she doesn’t want a prescription or over the counter medication. She wants a home remedy.

Former prosecutor here lost count of the number of young women and girls who lost their virginity and didn’t tell their parents - whether they lost it by consensual sexual contact or otherwise.


Don’t mess around with vaginal infections, don’t let your daughter. If there is any possibility she wants to have children in the future, she needs to get medical attention when there is infection down there.

Figure out why the GYN makes her so anxious she doesn’t want to go, and find her a GYN who doesn’t make her feel that way.

Oh and also - make sure your daughter knows that absolutely anything she has to tell you will not be an obstacle to your unfettered and entire love and support.

Anonymous wrote:My 18 year old daughter has a vaginal yeast infection, and she says she's had it for a while now. The issue is she doesn't want to go to the doctor and wants to treat it at home.

Does anyone know any home remedies that actually work? We also have a prescription for Ketoconazole Cream 2% (Fougera) at home, and she wanted to use it. She’s getting conflicting reports online about whether it's okay to use for a vaginal yeast infection.

Can she use it? Has anyone dealt with this before or had success treating a yeast infection at home?

I can't imagine not going to the doctor for this. 1 dose of Diflucan will solve the problem.

She can try Monistat 3 day over the counter. She could try douching with plain yogurt. She could eat a lot of yogurt and cut back on other sources of sugar in her diet. She should wear cotton underwear and change them frequently.


Good luck!

I wonder if this 18yo is so adamant about not seeing a doctor is that she is afraid that it actually is an STI, because she isn't being honest about no sexual activity. An actual yeast infection is maddening -- so itchy and uncomfortable -- that most people would be beating down the door to the doctor's office to get rid of it, however much they didn't like doctors in general. Supposedly she's had weeks of symptoms and she won't even try Monistat? It makes no sense.