Anonymous wrote:I thought WOHM life was fantastic and these supermoms did everything that a SAHM does and more?? 🤔

- SAHM

Unnecessary passive and aggressive, toxic. Please go away.

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Anonymous wrote: Try being one parent who works two jobs and holds it all down solo. That is real fatigue. I would kill to have just one job or to have a second parent and income in our household. You’ve got both. Please realize how lucky you are!

Was all of the above - not a result of your own life-choices? Why are you deciding to be a single parent or even a parent - without full planning?

You relinquish all rights to complain when you become a parent because you signed up for this. Unless, of course, you were trafficked and you were bred forcefully without your consent and had no recourse to BC/abortion.

My DH dying was not my choice or his. Things happen in life and they aren't always planned.

Life insurance? And don’t the kids get social security from him?

And I’m pretty sure the SS is tax free.

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Anonymous wrote: Try being one parent who works two jobs and holds it all down solo. That is real fatigue. I would kill to have just one job or to have a second parent and income in our household. You’ve got both. Please realize how lucky you are!

Was all of the above - not a result of your own life-choices? Why are you deciding to be a single parent or even a parent - without full planning?

You relinquish all rights to complain when you become a parent because you signed up for this. Unless, of course, you were trafficked and you were bred forcefully without your consent and had no recourse to BC/abortion.

My DH dying was not my choice or his. Things happen in life and they aren't always planned.

Life insurance? And don’t the kids get social security from him?

Anonymous wrote:Unless husnand and wife both have high paid meaningful jobs or both low paid jobs that need both incomes it is selfish to both work
with young kids at home.

I think you have this backwards? 2 high paid jobs and 2 low paid jobs both mean that the wife should stay at home. In the former, the husband can support the family. In the latter, her salary doesn’t pay for daycare.

Dh and I are stuck with two middle jobs where one job isn’t enough, but I still make way more than daycare (150k each). Frankly I’d be pissed if my dh leaned in, made more money and then we never saw him or have him home for dinner. I didn’t marry to have a spouse who wasn’t present.

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Anonymous wrote: Try being one parent who works two jobs and holds it all down solo. That is real fatigue. I would kill to have just one job or to have a second parent and income in our household. You’ve got both. Please realize how lucky you are!

Was all of the above - not a result of your own life-choices? Why are you deciding to be a single parent or even a parent - without full planning?

You relinquish all rights to complain when you become a parent because you signed up for this. Unless, of course, you were trafficked and you were bred forcefully without your consent and had no recourse to BC/abortion.

My DH dying was not my choice or his. Things happen in life and they aren't always planned.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless husnand and wife both have high paid meaningful jobs or both low paid jobs that need both incomes it is selfish to both work
with young kids at home.

Needing both incomes is not binary, and a lot of wage growth comes after your first kid is born, but only if you stick to working. I would not have had kids if it meant not working, and you can look to South Korea for an example of how that plays out.

That’s a myth for most. My wife’s career hit a dead end at 34. Working 14 years on Wall Street. Same major bank she was in mgt. training program. She left at 35 and had kids 35, 37 and 42. She was never making it to next level. Her career was at tail end by 32. It is up or out. In banking, Wall Street, big 4 by 36, 90 percent of people career is over. Continue to work is silly if spouse has big job

I worked with lots of “career women” who did not figure it out till 45 and missed the boat on kids.

Anonymous wrote:I thought WOHM life was fantastic and these supermoms did everything that a SAHM does and more?? 🤔

- SAHM

The argument that working parents still manage to fully parent their kids is not an argument that it's always easy or fun. The trade-off is less leisure time in return for more income (and income stability as a family) and financial independence. I have the career I have because I put in that time when my kids were little, and I'm also glad that I get to model paid employment for them. But, you do you.

Anonymous wrote:Along with the question of " how does it work?" that also has to be asked is the number of children?

It is usually 3 or more. 1 or 2 kids is manageable.

Oh, and these people also have dogs, cats and a chaotic household.

Anonymous wrote: Try being one parent who works two jobs and holds it all down solo. That is real fatigue. I would kill to have just one job or to have a second parent and income in our household. You’ve got both. Please realize how lucky you are!

Was all of the above - not a result of your own life-choices? Why are you deciding to be a single parent or even a parent - without full planning?

You relinquish all rights to complain when you become a parent because you signed up for this. Unless, of course, you were trafficked and you were bred forcefully without your consent and had no recourse to BC/abortion.

I thought WOHM life was fantastic and these supermoms did everything that a SAHM does and more?? 🤔

- SAHM

It is getting easier for us now that our kids are old enough to car pool with other families. It cuts the driving at least in half.

It gets easier as they get older and can do more and more basic care for themselves. Activities will always take up time but it's easier when they can help in planning and prep.

One thing I have noticed is that parents of teenagers that don't want to learn how to drive have a harder time with the later years. I know it's not economically feasible for all families, but having a teen get license and car can really help out.

Anonymous wrote:Unless husnand and wife both have high paid meaningful jobs or both low paid jobs that need both incomes it is selfish to both work
with young kids at home.

Got it 100% of men are selfish.

Anonymous wrote:Unless husnand and wife both have high paid meaningful jobs or both low paid jobs that need both incomes it is selfish to both work
with young kids at home.

Needing both incomes is not binary, and a lot of wage growth comes after your first kid is born, but only if you stick to working. I would not have had kids if it meant not working, and you can look to South Korea for an example of how that plays out.

Unless husnand and wife both have high paid meaningful jobs or both low paid jobs that need both incomes it is selfish to both work
with young kids at home.