Anonymous
Post 02/20/2026 21:36     Subject: No proposal/ring on Valentines Day

Your daughter is is going to alone for a long time.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2026 21:25     Subject: No proposal/ring on Valentines Day

Good for her - f him
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2026 21:24     Subject: No proposal/ring on Valentines Day

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP never came back


I came back several times. I am shocked and confused by the responses.


Why? Your baby can't possibly be spoiled right?


? If a woman is sure of what she wants and she asks for it, you think that is being spoiled?
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2026 13:48     Subject: No proposal/ring on Valentines Day

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP never came back


I came back several times. I am shocked and confused by the responses.


Why? Your baby can't possibly be spoiled right?
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2026 13:23     Subject: No proposal/ring on Valentines Day

Anonymous wrote:I see “ultimatums” as a form of being clear about expectations, Why do they get such a bad rap?

My DH and I (married 18 years) dated almost 10 years before we got married. We got engaged the day after our 9th dating anniversary. We had started dating in our teens as freshman in college and hadn’t felt the need to marry young.

The Sept I was about to turn 28 we went to a wedding. I said after “I felt jealous and that made me feel sad. I don’t want to go to any more weddings as your girlfriend. We can go engaged or separately but I’m done going as your date. Also, if we’re on the same page and want to get married, I’d really like to marry before I’m 30 and it might take awhile to plan a wedding all my close relatives can attend.”

He said “cool! When’s the next wedding?” And I said “June”

I March, channeling some pressure from my mom, I said “I’ll be 29 in the fall, we’re dated all our 20s, and I’m getting worried we don’t want the same thing” and he said “you told me I had until June to propose.” Lol. He proposed in early May.


I did something similar but I was 32 and we had dated for two years. He popped the question two months later. Married 12 years, two kids, all great now. He just needed to know what I was thinking.

If your daughter communicated with her boyfriend about her plans and needs, and he didn’t step up, then it’s a good thing they parted ways. If she expected him to read her mind, then that’s very unfair to him.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2026 13:18     Subject: No proposal/ring on Valentines Day

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP never came back


I came back several times. I am shocked and confused by the responses.

What exactly are you shocked and confused by? Perhaps people can justify their answers if you respond to them.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2026 13:08     Subject: No proposal/ring on Valentines Day

I'm glad she moved on. Plenty of men who won't waste her time.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2026 13:06     Subject: No proposal/ring on Valentines Day

Anonymous wrote:My daughter broke up with her boyfriend because he didn’t give her an engagement ring and propose on Valentines Day. She was disappointed that he didn’t propose at Christmas, so she gave him until Valentines Day. He didn’t and that’s over. They were together over two years and it seems to me that she's so sad. What is a normal length of time to just date someone now?


It's 2026. Did she consider asking him instead of waiting for him to make a move?
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2026 11:21     Subject: No proposal/ring on Valentines Day

Anonymous wrote:OP never came back


I came back several times. I am shocked and confused by the responses.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2026 12:28     Subject: No proposal/ring on Valentines Day

Anonymous wrote:Good for her, he was wasting her time

This!