Anonymous
Post 01/27/2026 15:07     Subject: would a kid who is quiet and academic like UVa
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is the oddest thread, even for DCUM. UVA is a public university in VIRGINIA. If your daughter doesn’t like “Virginian” culture, she’s probably trying to tell you that she doesn’t want to go to college in Virginia. It’s not that deep. Too sophisticated? Find a more urbane atmosphere in a more urban setting. Likely not a state flagship. Or head overseas like a previous poster has suggested.

UVA has a very private feel. You would never know it's public.


This made me chuckle. As if all public universities are dumps, except..UVA

Not all public universities are dumps. Not at all. I'm just saying that there are some public universities that don't feel like they're public and that UVA happens to be one of them. Some private universities feel public. It's a spectrum. UVA is on the far end of the 'is public feels private' spectrum.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2026 11:05     Subject: would a kid who is quiet and academic like UVa
We are middle class from Northern Virginia. I am glad my kid can meet those students from wealthy OOS families. They get to see what kind of lifestyle they can have through hard work, focus on academics and networking.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2026 10:54     Subject: would a kid who is quiet and academic like UVa
Anonymous wrote:I don't think the "it has a private feel" comment was meant to be a flex. My child is at UVA and wishes it had more of a public school feel. Almost all OOS students are private/boarding school kids and are overwhelmingly white and wealthy.


That view does not comport with UVA’s diversity statistics
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2026 10:43     Subject: would a kid who is quiet and academic like UVa
Anonymous wrote:did OP ever let us know if her D is in fact a Virginian?

OP seems to have left the chat after being shocked — simply shocked — that people reacted negatively to the disdain of her sophisticated and worldly daughter.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2026 10:40     Subject: would a kid who is quiet and academic like UVa
did OP ever let us know if her D is in fact a Virginian?
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2026 08:38     Subject: would a kid who is quiet and academic like UVa
Anonymous wrote:I don't think the "it has a private feel" comment was meant to be a flex. My child is at UVA and wishes it had more of a public school feel. Almost all OOS students are private/boarding school kids and are overwhelmingly white and wealthy.


That didn’t get into an Ivy school, and now are helping support my in-state student with their OOS $$$$. No need to socialize with the wealthy private boarding high school kids. There are enough public VA kids to hang out with. My kid is in a sorority, and most of her friends are VA public school grads, some from rural areas as well, who have side jobs to help pay their sorority dues.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2026 08:29     Subject: would a kid who is quiet and academic like UVa
I don't think the "it has a private feel" comment was meant to be a flex. My child is at UVA and wishes it had more of a public school feel. Almost all OOS students are private/boarding school kids and are overwhelmingly white and wealthy.