Anonymous
Post 01/30/2026 15:58     Subject: In-laws want to go see ds in college
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DS is a freshman and about 7 hours away from us, no direct flights so driving is best way to get there. In-laws have said they really want to visit him. They are only 75 so not super elderly, but don't feel comfortable with very long distances anymore. The other option is a train that would get them 2 hours away or a bus (a comfortable one, not Greyhound) which could get them to the small town where college is. They've basically said they do not want to do the train or bus so dh and I would have to drive them.

We had not planned a trip at all because we went twice in the fall (drop off and parents weekend) and are going to move him out in early May. DS has to come to us for an event in February and has Spring break in March so we will see him this term as well. How would you deal with this? I am really dreading the idea of planning this whole overnight trip with in-laws with hotel rooms and hanging out the whole entire weekend and long drive back and forth.


I find this very weird or a troll post

They need to get a life.


It is cultural? Some cultures the grand parents are way way over kill and way too involved in my opinion. It depends on what you/they are accustomed to.


What culture is that???

Most people don’t even go to college.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2026 00:29     Subject: In-laws want to go see ds in college
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Why can’t your adult college child coordinate this with his adult grandparents?

Why are OP/Parents wedged in the middle of this.

Ugh.


Never saw this in college.

This has got to be a troll joke.

Never saw babies or grandparents on campus.

Maybe at some alumni donor event or big sec or big 10 football game.

My parents wanted to visit while their grandson was in college. We decided to fly out a few days early from winter break his sophomore year. It was nice to be on campus when everything was quiet. So easy to park and walk around. And my son wasn't stressed with classes. Worked out well and we all had a good time.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2026 23:56     Subject: In-laws want to go see ds in college
Anonymous wrote:
Why can’t your adult college child coordinate this with his adult grandparents?

Why are OP/Parents wedged in the middle of this.

Ugh.


Never saw this in college.

This has got to be a troll joke.

Never saw babies or grandparents on campus.

Maybe at some alumni donor event or big sec or big 10 football game.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2026 23:54     Subject: In-laws want to go see ds in college
And they don’t drive or take trips or stay in hotels anymore??

wtf are they even thinking?
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2026 23:54     Subject: In-laws want to go see ds in college
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DS is a freshman and about 7 hours away from us, no direct flights so driving is best way to get there. In-laws have said they really want to visit him. They are only 75 so not super elderly, but don't feel comfortable with very long distances anymore. The other option is a train that would get them 2 hours away or a bus (a comfortable one, not Greyhound) which could get them to the small town where college is. They've basically said they do not want to do the train or bus so dh and I would have to drive them.

We had not planned a trip at all because we went twice in the fall (drop off and parents weekend) and are going to move him out in early May. DS has to come to us for an event in February and has Spring break in March so we will see him this term as well. How would you deal with this? I am really dreading the idea of planning this whole overnight trip with in-laws with hotel rooms and hanging out the whole entire weekend and long drive back and forth.


I find this very weird or a troll post

They need to get a life.


It is cultural? Some cultures the grand parents are way way over kill and way too involved in my opinion. It depends on what you/they are accustomed to.


No

Most of us here went to college. It’s busy and an independent time.

I never had, saw nor heard of any grandparents flying in to see any of my friends or peers. And certainly not to “hang out” for 2-4 days solid.

Even if parents “visited” or happened to be in town, at most people had time for a dinner or catch a game together (buy tix way ahead of time).
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2026 18:16     Subject: In-laws want to go see ds in college
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DS is a freshman and about 7 hours away from us, no direct flights so driving is best way to get there. In-laws have said they really want to visit him. They are only 75 so not super elderly, but don't feel comfortable with very long distances anymore. The other option is a train that would get them 2 hours away or a bus (a comfortable one, not Greyhound) which could get them to the small town where college is. They've basically said they do not want to do the train or bus so dh and I would have to drive them.

We had not planned a trip at all because we went twice in the fall (drop off and parents weekend) and are going to move him out in early May. DS has to come to us for an event in February and has Spring break in March so we will see him this term as well. How would you deal with this? I am really dreading the idea of planning this whole overnight trip with in-laws with hotel rooms and hanging out the whole entire weekend and long drive back and forth.


I find this very weird or a troll post

They need to get a life.


It is cultural? Some cultures the grand parents are way way over kill and way too involved in my opinion. It depends on what you/they are accustomed to.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2026 18:14     Subject: In-laws want to go see ds in college
Anonymous wrote:DS is a freshman and about 7 hours away from us, no direct flights so driving is best way to get there. In-laws have said they really want to visit him. They are only 75 so not super elderly, but don't feel comfortable with very long distances anymore. The other option is a train that would get them 2 hours away or a bus (a comfortable one, not Greyhound) which could get them to the small town where college is. They've basically said they do not want to do the train or bus so dh and I would have to drive them.

We had not planned a trip at all because we went twice in the fall (drop off and parents weekend) and are going to move him out in early May. DS has to come to us for an event in February and has Spring break in March so we will see him this term as well. How would you deal with this? I am really dreading the idea of planning this whole overnight trip with in-laws with hotel rooms and hanging out the whole entire weekend and long drive back and forth.


Are they overbearing or just a sweet visit?