Anonymous wrote:So, some friends invited to a family party. A party of both sides of the family. Imo, it's a pretty unique friend who will willingly socialize with your family. It's a very close friend who would do this, make it a priority to show up. Because they know it's important to you.

For other ordinary friends, this guest list would feel odd and I wouldn't want to come.

Good for you? I don’t think you understand the OP very well.

So, some friends invited to a family party. A party of both sides of the family. Imo, it's a pretty unique friend who will willingly socialize with your family. It's a very close friend who would do this, make it a priority to show up. Because they know it's important to you.

For other ordinary friends, this guest list would feel odd and I wouldn't want to come.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe that's a bad date? I just attended a party yesterday that had been rescheduled from originally the 21st because too many people were going to be out of town on the original date.

That has nothing to do with RSVP-ing to an event. If you can’t attend, RSVP no.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m having a holiday party Saturday, the 27th. I sent out thirty invitations last Monday, and asked invitees to RSVP via text by the 13th. So far I have received three responses. Is this normal?

yes, it is normal--adults choose what events they want to go to and whether to respond to a request for attendance. No one is required to respond to every question asked of them.

That is literally what RSVP MEANS.

This is OP and I do not think racism is the issue. So far, I have gotten five yes RSVPs and five nos - I already know members of my husbands and my family are attending (about five combined RSVPs), although they haven’t actually RSVPd. I’m still annoyed with the ~15 parties who haven’t responded, especially those who’ve indicated they received the invite.

I didn’t invite people who don’t text me normally, so I don’t really get why they wouldn’t indicate their plans to attend or not. It’s rude not to RSVP. Period.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - you can set the evite to stop accepting “yes” after a date of your choosing.

Maybe make 12/22 is deadline to rsvp

Didn't OP mail the invitations and ask people to respond by text?

Oops - guilty of not reading it all.

That’s a pickle OP. Invites not even being viewed?

It’s not too close to 27th to scrap the plan. Your “yes” rsvps can pivot to something else or attend what is his a more intimate gathering.


I would not want the uncertainty of last minute “yes” if there are so many potentially throwing things off.

The obvious reason they are not responding is racism against the op

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Anonymous wrote:OP - you can set the evite to stop accepting “yes” after a date of your choosing.

Maybe make 12/22 is deadline to rsvp

Didn't OP mail the invitations and ask people to respond by text?

Oops - guilty of not reading it all.

That’s a pickle OP. Invites not even being viewed?

It’s not too close to 27th to scrap the plan. Your “yes” rsvps can pivot to something else or attend what is his a more intimate gathering.


I would not want the uncertainty of last minute “yes” if there are so many potentially throwing things off.

Anonymous wrote:OP - you can set the evite to stop accepting “yes” after a date of your choosing.

Maybe make 12/22 is deadline to rsvp

Didn't OP mail the invitations and ask people to respond by text?

OP - you can set the evite to stop accepting “yes” after a date of your choosing.

Maybe make 12/22 is deadline to rsvp

I still think the real reason people are not coming to the OP s party is because of racism.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this people with children, or older people? People with children are all going to be out of town by then.

People just get on here and say whatever, I swear

Do you really know multiple families who will just be home without plans over winter vacation?

Uh, yeah, it's end-of-year close for a lot of people

On Saturday? OP’s party is the Saturday after Christmas. Most people are not free that Saturday because of vacation. If you’re not free because of work, ok… but either way you’re not available for the party right?

It's typical DCUM bubble speak. "Oh, everyone's traveling, Larla!" No, they really aren't.

Right?? lol. I'm going to be home that day with my kids and so will most people I know. I'd come to your party, OP, And if I couldn't I'd have the decency to RSVP no in a timely fashion. I'm sorry.

Op, if I sent out 30 invitations, I'd expect no more than 15 to come. Much less during the week between Christmas and New Years - I'd expect 10, maybe.

How about this, change the type of party to reflect the number.. Have a dinner party. Why not call each you haven't heard from and leave a message if you have to. Say, due to a smaller turnout, this is the new plan, and if they'd like to be included they need to let you know by ____ date.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe that's a bad date? I just attended a party yesterday that had been rescheduled from originally the 21st because too many people were going to be out of town on the original date.

That has nothing to do with RSVP-ing to an event. If you can’t attend, RSVP no.

I would rsvp No through an online invite but I’m not sure I would actually proactively text a party giver a No RSVP. It somehow feels ruder, more self important. I don’t know. Texting feels like an intrusion and j wouldn’t want to do it unless RSVping Yes.