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Anonymous wrote:Tons a single Jewish women in their 30s and 40s

I’m not into them but that’s the majority of my matches on hinge

How do you know that they are single? I’m not Jewish but I’m a married (semi-separated) woman in my 40s on Hinge 😀
I’ve met several men in their 30s and 40s through Hinge who look good and have decent jobs but haven’t dated for a year or more. They say that there is a shortage of women who want to date - many of them ignore their invitations to meet even once.

Late 40s woman. I dated 4 so-called "high quality" men in spring-summer simultaneously. Every single of them had all formal attributes of high value: I would classify them 6-7-7-6. All of them were within 5-10 years of my age, in either direction. Two of them complained they were unable to find a woman who would commit. Anyone they were interested in wouldn't commit to date exclusively

I'm 5'7; 20 BMI ; 48 yo; high NW divorced F.

The men you describe are exceeding rare, statistically. Like low single digit percentage. You dated 4 over the course of 6 months?

1 might be, might be believable. Try harder at lying.

I am not that poster but she is NOT lying. I assure you. I recognize the poster because we are both the same age. She is higher net worth than I am, but I am also 48. When I date, I date early 30s men. I have four who call me constantly (no I am not sleeping with them but of course they want to). I am not lying. She is not lying. If you are attractive, it is not hard to date.

Two women this morning dating multiple men in a small-fraction-of-1% of the population category.

I'm buying a lottery ticket.

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Anonymous wrote:I am (47) recently divorced and finally checked out the apps for the first time. I am interested in women 37 and older. I was very surprised by the huge number of single women in this age bracket. Of course, it doesn't mean I am who they are looking for and it's probably more likely than I am not. But I went through a lot of well put together profiles and I am just surprised all these women are single. Yes there are probably more women than men in this age group, but it's as if all of them are single.

If I were to lower my age range to 30, it's probably going to be a similar story. But 10 years age gap is the most I'll go for as I am looking beyond just hooking up.

So guys out there who are single and looking, you have choices.

Speaking as a fellow divorced guy, you're missing the reason why these women are single: Higher standards. Women don't see being single the way they did back when you were last on the market.

20 years ago, a woman single in her 30s and 40s would settle for some guy she wasn't particularly attracted to and knew she was going to end up divorcing. The goal was just to get a marriage under the belt because "divorced" at 40 was better than never married at 40.

Nowadays, women are happy to stay single the rest of their lives rather than settle. This is triply true for women who are divorced. A lot of them hated being married and living with a man, and need a really, really, really good offer to consider going back to it.

So, while there are a lot of single women on the market, your chances are probably worse nowadays than they were 20 years ago. The lady who is going to want to get serious and actually stay with you isn't going to be as hot, smart, or emotionally stable as the one who would've wanted you 20 years ago. The woman you think is ideal will break up with you after three to six months today, if she even shows up to date #2.

I'm not going to give my take on whether women's standards today make sense or if the problem is men or whatever. Just laying out the scene.

Might be true for some women, but not as widespread as you assert.

OP: Many men have an age limit beyond which they will not consider dating / not entering into a serious relationship.

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That's adorable.

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Anonymous wrote:Tons a single Jewish women in their 30s and 40s

I’m not into them but that’s the majority of my matches on hinge

How do you know that they are single? I’m not Jewish but I’m a married (semi-separated) woman in my 40s on Hinge 😀
I’ve met several men in their 30s and 40s through Hinge who look good and have decent jobs but haven’t dated for a year or more. They say that there is a shortage of women who want to date - many of them ignore their invitations to meet even once.

Late 40s woman. I dated 4 so-called "high quality" men in spring-summer simultaneously. Every single of them had all formal attributes of high value: I would classify them 6-7-7-6. All of them were within 5-10 years of my age, in either direction. Two of them complained they were unable to find a woman who would commit. Anyone they were interested in wouldn't commit to date exclusively

I'm 5'7; 20 BMI ; 48 yo; high NW divorced F.

Did you end up with any of them or what happened?

Also, what's 6776?

6 pack, 7 P, 7 figures income, 6 height. They wanted a GF/cook for them, participate in social calendar, maintain joint household plan retirements together. Exclusive means each wanted me only to date them. Yes, I left all 4 as I didn't fall into any of them seriously. It's very easy for me to date whoever I want and meet men of similar parameters

Are men really out here measuring their penises or is this their unverified claim? Is 7" even a big deal? Of course they wanted a girlfriend to cook for them. That's one thing I'm making a point of never doing again for a man. Great way to weed out men who'll get even lazier once they're comfortable.

I never met a single man who didn't know the size of his P. It's like a woman not knowing her bra size.

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Anonymous wrote:Women should marry women to have a raise a family. Can you imagine? Two actual functional adults participating in their kids lives and executing all household duties evenly while excelling in their careers? The sex would be great too because, finally, someone who understands a woman’s body. Total utopia, right?

Unfortunately, when women marry women what follows is an extremely high divorce rate - much higher than a hetero marriage or a male/male gay marriage (which is actually the lowest).

This is likely because women actually experience what its like to be married to a woman.

Women can be hyper-critical - the 95% of things that you do right don’t matter. Only the 5% of things that you do wrong matter and they will build up a toxic level of resentment over those things. Try to fix that other 5% and they will be hypercritical over how you’re fixing it and hate the patheticness of your character who cowtowed. They’ll gaslight you about what a bad person you are (read the posts in this thread above for examples). Then, all of a sudden, they shut off all intimacy and sex (google lesbian bed death) and it makes their skin crawl to even consider sleeping with you leaving you feeling disgusting, not good enough and rejected. After that, its on with the subtle mind games where they try to make sure that everything you find enjoyment in is minimized because there’s nothing they hate more than that stupid smile on your face. Because, she’s a great multi-tasker, she also creates friction in your family on a rotating basis. Your dad, your mom, your ahole brother and snob sister. The only reprieve you get is when her hate is zero’d in on her work nemesis. And she manages to do all of this while her friends feed her self-righteousness while really only hoping to sabotage her life because its too perfect.

Being married to this is not easy for anyone but women should try it first before marrying men.

Someone needs a Xanax stat

Anyone married to a DCUM woman probably does.

No one held a knife to your throat to date or marry anybody, dude. If you’re a bad partner and unhappy that’s on you and you’re the one dealing with the consequences.

And the same answer goes for the ladies out here complaining. Its on them.

Of course it is. But a lot of men on this thread seem flabbergasted that women don’t want them or aren’t happy with them.

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Anonymous wrote:Tons a single Jewish women in their 30s and 40s

I’m not into them but that’s the majority of my matches on hinge

How do you know that they are single? I’m not Jewish but I’m a married (semi-separated) woman in my 40s on Hinge 😀
I’ve met several men in their 30s and 40s through Hinge who look good and have decent jobs but haven’t dated for a year or more. They say that there is a shortage of women who want to date - many of them ignore their invitations to meet even once.

Late 40s woman. I dated 4 so-called "high quality" men in spring-summer simultaneously. Every single of them had all formal attributes of high value: I would classify them 6-7-7-6. All of them were within 5-10 years of my age, in either direction. Two of them complained they were unable to find a woman who would commit. Anyone they were interested in wouldn't commit to date exclusively

I'm 5'7; 20 BMI ; 48 yo; high NW divorced F.

Did you end up with any of them or what happened?

Also, what's 6776?

6 pack, 7 P, 7 figures income, 6 height. They wanted a GF/cook for them, participate in social calendar, maintain joint household plan retirements together. Exclusive means each wanted me only to date them. Yes, I left all 4 as I didn't fall into any of them seriously. It's very easy for me to date whoever I want and meet men of similar parameters

So you didn't fall for any of them seriously, but know they all have a 7 P?

Overall, lets look at the numbers:

1-2% of men have a six pack (and this include younger men not in the age demo you're describing)
5% or fewer men have a 7 P
less than 1% of men earn 7 figures
14% of men 6 foot or taller

And you found all of these in 4 men? And very easily?

Yes, we believe you.

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Anonymous wrote:Tons a single Jewish women in their 30s and 40s

I’m not into them but that’s the majority of my matches on hinge

How do you know that they are single? I’m not Jewish but I’m a married (semi-separated) woman in my 40s on Hinge 😀
I’ve met several men in their 30s and 40s through Hinge who look good and have decent jobs but haven’t dated for a year or more. They say that there is a shortage of women who want to date - many of them ignore their invitations to meet even once.

Late 40s woman. I dated 4 so-called "high quality" men in spring-summer simultaneously. Every single of them had all formal attributes of high value: I would classify them 6-7-7-6. All of them were within 5-10 years of my age, in either direction. Two of them complained they were unable to find a woman who would commit. Anyone they were interested in wouldn't commit to date exclusively

I'm 5'7; 20 BMI ; 48 yo; high NW divorced F.

Did you end up with any of them or what happened?

Also, what's 6776?

6 pack, 7 P, 7 figures income, 6 height. They wanted a GF/cook for them, participate in social calendar, maintain joint household plan retirements together. Exclusive means each wanted me only to date them. Yes, I left all 4 as I didn't fall into any of them seriously. It's very easy for me to date whoever I want and meet men of similar parameters

Are men really out here measuring their penises or is this their unverified claim? Is 7" even a big deal? Of course they wanted a girlfriend to cook for them. That's one thing I'm making a point of never doing again for a man. Great way to weed out men who'll get even lazier once they're comfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:Tons a single Jewish women in their 30s and 40s

I’m not into them but that’s the majority of my matches on hinge

How do you know that they are single? I’m not Jewish but I’m a married (semi-separated) woman in my 40s on Hinge 😀
I’ve met several men in their 30s and 40s through Hinge who look good and have decent jobs but haven’t dated for a year or more. They say that there is a shortage of women who want to date - many of them ignore their invitations to meet even once.

Late 40s woman. I dated 4 so-called "high quality" men in spring-summer simultaneously. Every single of them had all formal attributes of high value: I would classify them 6-7-7-6. All of them were within 5-10 years of my age, in either direction. Two of them complained they were unable to find a woman who would commit. Anyone they were interested in wouldn't commit to date exclusively

I'm 5'7; 20 BMI ; 48 yo; high NW divorced F.

Did you end up with any of them or what happened?

Also, what's 6776?

6 pack, 7 P, 7 figures income, 6 height. They wanted a GF/cook for them, participate in social calendar, maintain joint household plan retirements together. Exclusive means each wanted me only to date them. Yes, I left all 4 as I didn't fall into any of them seriously. It's very easy for me to date whoever I want and meet men of similar parameters

So you didn't fall for any of them seriously, but know they all have a 7 P?

Overall, lets look at the numbers:

1-2% of men have a six pack (and this include younger men not in the age demo you're describing)
5% or fewer men have a 7 P
less than 1% of men earn 7 figures
14% of men 6 foot or taller

And you found all of these in 4 men? And very easily?

Yes, we believe you.

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Anonymous wrote:The slang term "hoeflation" is a blend of the words "hoe" (a derogatory term for a promiscuous person, usually a woman) and "inflation". It is primarily used in online communities and dating forums by men.
The term is used to describe the perceived increase in effort, money, or self-improvement a man must invest to meet the "inflated" standards or expectations of modern women, particularly those considered to be superficial.
The concept essentially suggests that:
Women have an exaggerated sense of their own attractiveness and value in the dating market.
Average men are "left in the dust" because these women only pursue men perceived as high-value (e.g., very attractive or wealthy), who may be "out of their league".
The overall "cost" (both financial and in terms of effort) for an average man to find a partner has therefore increased significantly.

If you're going to import economics into dating, then you should start with the basics.

For instance, there is no such thing as intrinsic value in economics. The value of an item is simply what buyers are willing to pay to acquire it. Sellers who would be successful must price their wares accordingly.

If your target buyers (the women you consider your equals) don't consider you worth acquiring, then you are a lower value item than you would like to think. The simplest answer is to target buyers at a lower end of the market (the women you erroneously think are beneath you). If you insist on targeting high-end buyers, then you must do market research to figure out what other items valuable to these buyers you can include along with yourself in the hopes that the overall package might be of sufficient value for those buyers. Some items of extra value on the dating market include being extremely courteous, being very attentive to her preferences and needs, being very pleasant company, learning the housekeeping and household running skills that everyone can pick up on but men refuse to etc. This approach, however, requires you to first accept that you're actually not good enough as you are, instead of resenting the higher end buyers that don't want you.

You could also wait and hope for a market disruption that will force higher-end buyers to accept lower value goods. For instance, laws that made women property and stole the value of their labor from them for centuries disrupted the open dating market in favor of men. I don't think those laws are coming back, but I guess you can hope.

Very much enjoyed reading this.

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Anonymous wrote:Tons a single Jewish women in their 30s and 40s

I’m not into them but that’s the majority of my matches on hinge

How do you know that they are single? I’m not Jewish but I’m a married (semi-separated) woman in my 40s on Hinge 😀
I’ve met several men in their 30s and 40s through Hinge who look good and have decent jobs but haven’t dated for a year or more. They say that there is a shortage of women who want to date - many of them ignore their invitations to meet even once.

Late 40s woman. I dated 4 so-called "high quality" men in spring-summer simultaneously. Every single of them had all formal attributes of high value: I would classify them 6-7-7-6. All of them were within 5-10 years of my age, in either direction. Two of them complained they were unable to find a woman who would commit. Anyone they were interested in wouldn't commit to date exclusively

I'm 5'7; 20 BMI ; 48 yo; high NW divorced F.

Did you end up with any of them or what happened?

Also, what's 6776?

6 pack, 7 P, 7 figures income, 6 height. They wanted a GF/cook for them, participate in social calendar, maintain joint household plan retirements together. Exclusive means each wanted me only to date them. Yes, I left all 4 as I didn't fall into any of them seriously. It's very easy for me to date whoever I want and meet men of similar parameters

Anonymous wrote:Women should marry women to have a raise a family. Can you imagine? Two actual functional adults participating in their kids lives and executing all household duties evenly while excelling in their careers? The sex would be great too because, finally, someone who understands a woman’s body. Total utopia, right?

Unfortunately, when women marry women what follows is an extremely high divorce rate - much higher than a hetero marriage or a male/male gay marriage (which is actually the lowest).

This is likely because women actually experience what its like to be married to a woman.

Women can be hyper-critical - the 95% of things that you do right don’t matter. Only the 5% of things that you do wrong matter and they will build up a toxic level of resentment over those things. Try to fix that other 5% and they will be hypercritical over how you’re fixing it and hate the patheticness of your character who cowtowed. They’ll gaslight you about what a bad person you are (read the posts in this thread above for examples). Then, all of a sudden, they shut off all intimacy and sex (google lesbian bed death) and it makes their skin crawl to even consider sleeping with you leaving you feeling disgusting, not good enough and rejected. After that, its on with the subtle mind games where they try to make sure that everything you find enjoyment in is minimized because there’s nothing they hate more than that stupid smile on your face. Because, she’s a great multi-tasker, she also creates friction in your family on a rotating basis. Your dad, your mom, your ahole brother and snob sister. The only reprieve you get is when her hate is zero’d in on her work nemesis. And she manages to do all of this while her friends feed her self-righteousness while really only hoping to sabotage her life because its too perfect.

Being married to this is not easy for anyone but women should try it first before marrying men.

Anonymous wrote:Women should marry women to have a raise a family. Can you imagine? Two actual functional adults participating in their kids lives and executing all household duties evenly while excelling in their careers? The sex would be great too because, finally, someone who understands a woman’s body. Total utopia, right?

Unfortunately, when women marry women what follows is an extremely high divorce rate - much higher than a hetero marriage or a male/male gay marriage (which is actually the lowest).

This is likely because women actually experience what its like to be married to a woman.

Women can be hyper-critical - the 95% of things that you do right don’t matter. Only the 5% of things that you do wrong matter and they will build up a toxic level of resentment over those things. Try to fix that other 5% and they will be hypercritical over how you’re fixing it and hate the patheticness of your character who cowtowed. They’ll gaslight you about what a bad person you are (read the posts in this thread above for examples). Then, all of a sudden, they shut off all intimacy and sex (google lesbian bed death) and it makes their skin crawl to even consider sleeping with you leaving you feeling disgusting, not good enough and rejected. After that, its on with the subtle mind games where they try to make sure that everything you find enjoyment in is minimized because there’s nothing they hate more than that stupid smile on your face. Because, she’s a great multi-tasker, she also creates friction in your family on a rotating basis. Your dad, your mom, your ahole brother and snob sister. The only reprieve you get is when her hate is zero’d in on her work nemesis. And she manages to do all of this while her friends feed her self-righteousness while really only hoping to sabotage her life because its too perfect.

Being married to this is not easy for anyone but women should try it first before marrying men.

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Anonymous wrote:Women should marry women to have a raise a family. Can you imagine? Two actual functional adults participating in their kids lives and executing all household duties evenly while excelling in their careers? The sex would be great too because, finally, someone who understands a woman’s body. Total utopia, right?

Unfortunately, when women marry women what follows is an extremely high divorce rate - much higher than a hetero marriage or a male/male gay marriage (which is actually the lowest).

This is likely because women actually experience what its like to be married to a woman.

Women can be hyper-critical - the 95% of things that you do right don’t matter. Only the 5% of things that you do wrong matter and they will build up a toxic level of resentment over those things. Try to fix that other 5% and they will be hypercritical over how you’re fixing it and hate the patheticness of your character who cowtowed. They’ll gaslight you about what a bad person you are (read the posts in this thread above for examples). Then, all of a sudden, they shut off all intimacy and sex (google lesbian bed death) and it makes their skin crawl to even consider sleeping with you leaving you feeling disgusting, not good enough and rejected. After that, its on with the subtle mind games where they try to make sure that everything you find enjoyment in is minimized because there’s nothing they hate more than that stupid smile on your face. Because, she’s a great multi-tasker, she also creates friction in your family on a rotating basis. Your dad, your mom, your ahole brother and snob sister. The only reprieve you get is when her hate is zero’d in on her work nemesis. And she manages to do all of this while her friends feed her self-righteousness while really only hoping to sabotage her life because its too perfect.

Being married to this is not easy for anyone but women should try it first before marrying men.

Someone needs a Xanax stat

Anyone married to a DCUM woman probably does.

No one held a knife to your throat to date or marry anybody, dude. If you’re a bad partner and unhappy that’s on you and you’re the one dealing with the consequences.

And the same answer goes for the ladies out here complaining. Its on them.