Anonymous
12/05/2025 05:09
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Well it def sounds like you guys aren’t a good fit. Worth it to do a little introspection to figure out what you need to feel love and how you can communicate that to your next partner instead of just waiting and hoping they will figure it out. You may think it’s obvious but everyone has very different needs.
Also, time to be brutally honest with yourself about the immaturity and ineffectiveness of the silent treatment. It’s manipulative and gross. You need to outgrow it.
WT ever-loving F. Are you reading the same OP? She DID communicate clearly, she DID express her needs. There is nothing pathological about wanting to spend time with her BF on her birthday (or any day).
But I do agree they’re a bad match. Simple as that.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 23:12
Subject: I deserve better
I think the OP and her boyfriend are like 17 years old.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 11:08
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
He did try to make a plan. And OP was MIA. Did you miss that part?
She asked him a week in advance and he couldn't bother just making a plan with her then. Why?
Because they are both playing games. That's why.
He knows it. She knows it. We know it. Everyone knows it but you.
Maybe you know it because you're the same shitty person as her soon to be ex. I don't treat people I am supposed to care about that way. Something tells me you do which is why you're excusing this kind of behavior.
Not excusing anything. They are both game players, playing different games.
One communicated very clearly in plenty of time. The other one played games. They are not the same.
One communicated very clearly he didn’t know if he was free. They both played passive aggressive games.
Right, he didn't know if he was free. Because clearly she is not important to him and he is playing games. She failed to answer his message the moment it arrived and by the time she said "ok" he has already moved on to other plans.
I'm not disputing she is not important to him. She is not important to him.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 11:06
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
He did try to make a plan. And OP was MIA. Did you miss that part?
She asked him a week in advance and he couldn't bother just making a plan with her then. Why?
Because they are both playing games. That's why.
He knows it. She knows it. We know it. Everyone knows it but you.
Maybe you know it because you're the same shitty person as her soon to be ex. I don't treat people I am supposed to care about that way. Something tells me you do which is why you're excusing this kind of behavior.
Not excusing anything. They are both game players, playing different games.
One communicated very clearly in plenty of time. The other one played games. They are not the same.
One communicated very clearly he didn’t know if he was free. They both played passive aggressive games.
Right, he didn't know if he was free. Because clearly she is not important to him and he is playing games. She failed to answer his message the moment it arrived and by the time she said "ok" he has already moved on to other plans.
OP, if you're still reading, you absolutely deserve better. He is a man child and doesn't deserve to be in an adult relationship.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 11:02
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
He did try to make a plan. And OP was MIA. Did you miss that part?
She asked him a week in advance and he couldn't bother just making a plan with her then. Why?
Because they are both playing games. That's why.
He knows it. She knows it. We know it. Everyone knows it but you.
Maybe you know it because you're the same shitty person as her soon to be ex. I don't treat people I am supposed to care about that way. Something tells me you do which is why you're excusing this kind of behavior.
Not excusing anything. They are both game players, playing different games.
One communicated very clearly in plenty of time. The other one played games. They are not the same.
One communicated very clearly he didn’t know if he was free. They both played passive aggressive games.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 10:58
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
He did try to make a plan. And OP was MIA. Did you miss that part?
She asked him a week in advance and he couldn't bother just making a plan with her then. Why?
Because they are both playing games. That's why.
He knows it. She knows it. We know it. Everyone knows it but you.
Maybe you know it because you're the same shitty person as her soon to be ex. I don't treat people I am supposed to care about that way. Something tells me you do which is why you're excusing this kind of behavior.
Not excusing anything. They are both game players, playing different games.
One communicated very clearly in plenty of time. The other one played games. They are not the same.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 10:57
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
He did try to make a plan. And OP was MIA. Did you miss that part?
She asked him a week in advance and he couldn't bother just making a plan with her then. Why?
Because they are both playing games. That's why.
He knows it. She knows it. We know it. Everyone knows it but you.
Maybe you know it because you're the same shitty person as her soon to be ex. I don't treat people I am supposed to care about that way. Something tells me you do which is why you're excusing this kind of behavior.
Not excusing anything. They are both game players, playing different games.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 10:51
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
He did try to make a plan. And OP was MIA. Did you miss that part?
She asked him a week in advance and he couldn't bother just making a plan with her then. Why?
Because they are both playing games. That's why.
He knows it. She knows it. We know it. Everyone knows it but you.
Maybe you know it because you're the same shitty person as her soon to be ex. I don't treat people I am supposed to care about that way. Something tells me you do which is why you're excusing this kind of behavior.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 10:50
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
Then why did she say OK hours after it was sent?
Maybe that's when she saw it. I'm not glued to my phone, especially when I'm at work. Why couldn't he just make a plan with her when she asked him the week before? I would never be with someone who treats me like that.
But the time stamp is right there. It wasn't "last minute" it was hours in advance. Some people are more spontaneous. Sounds like they just aren't a good match with different personalities.
Oh please!!!! She ASKED him a week before to spend time with her and he was playing coy with "i don't know if something more important will come up. I don't want to commit because one of my buddies might be available to play video games." He brushed her off, knowing it was important.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 10:47
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
He did try to make a plan. And OP was MIA. Did you miss that part?
She asked him a week in advance and he couldn't bother just making a plan with her then. Why?
Because they are both playing games. That's why.
He knows it. She knows it. We know it. Everyone knows it but you.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 10:47
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
He did try to make a plan. And OP was MIA. Did you miss that part?
She asked him a week in advance and he couldn't bother just making a plan with her then. Why? Then on the DAY he sent her a last minute text. I didn't miss anything. Did you?
She said OK and then, again, was annoyed he said he waited all day and it was too late. The games people play.
Oh please, the only playing games is him. He wanted to keep his options open and when she didn't respond within seconds, he rushed over to do what he wanted to do in the first place. So what that he didn't hear from her for a couple of hours? He knew it was her brithday and should have waited until he heard from her with a definite no to make other plans. He is a man child and she is not his priority. Dump the MOFO.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 10:46
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
Then why did she say OK hours after it was sent?
Maybe that's when she saw it. I'm not glued to my phone, especially when I'm at work. Why couldn't he just make a plan with her when she asked him the week before? I would never be with someone who treats me like that.
But the time stamp is right there. It wasn't "last minute" it was hours in advance. Some people are more spontaneous. Sounds like they just aren't a good match with different personalities.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 10:45
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
Then why did she say OK hours after it was sent?
Maybe that's when she saw it. I'm not glued to my phone, especially when I'm at work. Why couldn't he just make a plan with her when she asked him the week before? I would never be with someone who treats me like that.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 10:45
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
He did try to make a plan. And OP was MIA. Did you miss that part?
She asked him a week in advance and he couldn't bother just making a plan with her then. Why? Then on the DAY he sent her a last minute text. I didn't miss anything. Did you?
She said OK and then, again, was annoyed he said he waited all day and it was too late. The games people play.
Anonymous
12/04/2025 10:44
Subject: I deserve better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You played a little hard to get. He didn't make plans immediately and then when he tried to, you ignored your phone all day and then got annoyed when he gave up waiting for you? Two peas in a pod.
Nope. He refused to make any kind of a plan, like a normal, caring person would after his partner told him that something was important to her. Then he tried to make last minute plans and she was supposed to jump like a puppy and respond the second he sent a test. GTFOH
He did try to make a plan. And OP was MIA. Did you miss that part?
She asked him a week in advance and he couldn't bother just making a plan with her then. Why? Then on the DAY he sent her a last minute text. I didn't miss anything. Did you?