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Post 11/16/2025 19:14     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

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I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.


I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.


Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?


These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?


Are you mad at food insecure people not being classy enough?


OP said they have plenty of money.


Now but what about before? The scarcity mindset is real. Bit OP would rather get pissy about 4 day old mashed potatoes.


Well to be fair, the mashed potatoes are only 4 days old bc ILs boxed them up to take home rather than let everyone eat them the next day. Don't you find that weird???


How big was that box? Just make more potatoes. It’s the cheapest thing.


I don't know about OP, but I personally only have one refrigerator and a small freezer drawer. We gladly host every holiday with multiple guests staying up to 5 days. My fridge and freezer are crammed to the gills with groceries and food for the holiday meal, as well as breakfasts, lunches, snacks, and other dinners. I literally would not have the space to also double quantities for people to take home on that Sunday. I know some people have multiple refrigerators, but that isn't most of us. Being a host doesn't mean you have to be an absolute marty. Some of ya'll are crazy!


You could actually go out to eat for a meal or two. Talk about being a martyr.


We actually do that too.
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Post 11/16/2025 18:57     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

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+1
I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.


I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.


Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?


These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?


Are you mad at food insecure people not being classy enough?


OP said they have plenty of money.


Now but what about before? The scarcity mindset is real. Bit OP would rather get pissy about 4 day old mashed potatoes.


Well to be fair, the mashed potatoes are only 4 days old bc ILs boxed them up to take home rather than let everyone eat them the next day. Don't you find that weird???


How big was that box? Just make more potatoes. It’s the cheapest thing.


I don't know about OP, but I personally only have one refrigerator and a small freezer drawer. We gladly host every holiday with multiple guests staying up to 5 days. My fridge and freezer are crammed to the gills with groceries and food for the holiday meal, as well as breakfasts, lunches, snacks, and other dinners. I literally would not have the space to also double quantities for people to take home on that Sunday. I know some people have multiple refrigerators, but that isn't most of us. Being a host doesn't mean you have to be an absolute marty. Some of ya'll are crazy!


You could actually go out to eat for a meal or two. Talk about being a martyr.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2025 18:52     Subject: Re:ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

OMG. I thought my family was dysfunctional but I can’t even imagine fighting over leftovers. You all sound low class.
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Post 11/16/2025 17:45     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

Dear OP - I'll say something no one else has. I think you have OCD. That's the only explanation for the fact that you went and took the portions put in the IN-law's Tupperware containers back! No one in their right mind would do that - especially without husband support, which you never admit.
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Post 11/16/2025 15:43     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

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Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?


+1
I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.


I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.


Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?


These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?


Are you mad at food insecure people not being classy enough?


OP said they have plenty of money.


Now but what about before? The scarcity mindset is real. Bit OP would rather get pissy about 4 day old mashed potatoes.


Well to be fair, the mashed potatoes are only 4 days old bc ILs boxed them up to take home rather than let everyone eat them the next day. Don't you find that weird???


How big was that box? Just make more potatoes. It’s the cheapest thing.


I don't know about OP, but I personally only have one refrigerator and a small freezer drawer. We gladly host every holiday with multiple guests staying up to 5 days. My fridge and freezer are crammed to the gills with groceries and food for the holiday meal, as well as breakfasts, lunches, snacks, and other dinners. I literally would not have the space to also double quantities for people to take home on that Sunday. I know some people have multiple refrigerators, but that isn't most of us. Being a host doesn't mean you have to be an absolute marty. Some of ya'll are crazy!
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Post 11/16/2025 15:08     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

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Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?


+1
I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.


I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.


Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?


These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?


Are you mad at food insecure people not being classy enough?


OP said they have plenty of money.


Now but what about before? The scarcity mindset is real. Bit OP would rather get pissy about 4 day old mashed potatoes.


Well to be fair, the mashed potatoes are only 4 days old bc ILs boxed them up to take home rather than let everyone eat them the next day. Don't you find that weird???


How big was that box? Just make more potatoes. It’s the cheapest thing.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2025 15:05     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

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Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?


+1
I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.


I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.


Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?


These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?


Are you mad at food insecure people not being classy enough?


OP said they have plenty of money.


Now but what about before? The scarcity mindset is real. Bit OP would rather get pissy about 4 day old mashed potatoes.


Well to be fair, the mashed potatoes are only 4 days old bc ILs boxed them up to take home rather than let everyone eat them the next day. Don't you find that weird???
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2025 15:03     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?


+1
I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.


I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.


Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?


These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?


Are you mad at food insecure people not being classy enough?


OP said they have plenty of money.


Now but what about before? The scarcity mindset is real. Bit OP would rather get pissy about 4 day old mashed potatoes.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2025 14:40     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

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Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?


+1
I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.


I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.


Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?


These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?


No. That is sweet and thoughtful. Imagine that your thanksgiving meal is so anticipated by family members that they are getting their own tupperware to take the leftovers. How sweet!!


Imagine asking and saying “please” and “thank you” instead of literally just taking. That would be actually sweet.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2025 14:40     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

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Anonymous wrote:Thank god I am not from one of those stingy food cultures where I feel territorial over leftover food going to the two old people who raised my husband.


I think the issue is OP is hosting her ILs in her home- not just for Thanksgiving dinner. After all that work, she wants to put the leftovers out for everyone (including ILs) to eat during the visit. Nobody wants to cook a meal - especially for houseguests- the day after Thanksgiving.


Then get takeout. You can even ask the ILs to pay. Give them a nice big doggie bag and ask them to order the takeout the next day. Make a tradition that actually works instead of Leftover Wars


I don't see how asking the ILs to pay for takeout the next day moves the ball forward. It's crazy to box up leftovers to take home when you're a houseguest staying for days after the meal.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2025 14:38     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?


+1
I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.


I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.


Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?


These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?


Are you mad at food insecure people not being classy enough?


OP said they have plenty of money.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2025 14:36     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?


+1
I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.


I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.


Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?


These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?


Yes, it’s not the wanting the leftovers, it’s the sense of entitlement to them.

My MIL makes a delicious roast every Xmas and I hope every year that she gives me some to take home, but I would never bustle into the kitchen, slice off a hunk, and wrap it up.
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Post 11/16/2025 14:35     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?


+1
I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.


I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.


Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?


These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?


Are you mad at food insecure people not being classy enough?
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2025 14:32     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

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Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?


+1
I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.


Your crock also runneth over with shit.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2025 14:31     Subject: ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if this is regional or what but I used to be a guest and was never offered leftovers. Massachusetts.

I never heard of this before DCUM.


I was also born in MA, and in general nobody was sent home with leftovers, but if a kid REALLY liked something they were often given a ziplock of a couple extra. You liked this new pumpkin cookie I made? Here are two for the ride home. You decided this year that you actually love carrot cake? Here's an extra slice for tomorrow.