Anonymous wrote:Honestly who cares? I see people driving 50k cars and I don’t care. I’ve worn many purses for longer than I’ve had cars.

Good point. My SIL was being a bit nasty about my LV Speedy the other night at dinner, making comments about "How much did my brother spend on that?" when she knows full well I make my own money and buy my own things. Rambling the way some on here have with this "I would never spend that much money on a bag -- my $60 bag is fine, but I don't care about appearances...blah blah." I didn't think about this at the time at all, but I drive a 2017 Subaru (paid for in cash, by me, and not by her brother lol) and she buys a new car every 4 years and is currently in a Cadillac Escalade. I don't tend to notice cars so couldn't have told you this other than the fact that there was also a big conversation about cars that night as her son is having issues with his ... Lincoln Navigator.

People enjoy different things and have different priorities. Some people don't understand this (or perhaps they do and just enjoy being judgmental and nasty to others any chance they get?).

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly who cares? I see people driving 50k cars and I don’t care. I’ve worn many purses for longer than I’ve had cars.

The average car is 50k now, and people take loans.

OP

Pp here. Ok? Well my car was 35k, I paid cash and would never take out a loan for a car. I have multiple purses that I’ve paid 5k+ for. I do agree that you should never take out a loan for a purse.

Anonymous wrote:I just got a “nice purse” = a Longchamp tote. I plan to get a bag charm or two from local places. That’s nice enough for me!

What is a "bag charm"?

Anonymous wrote:Are many of these $50 bag women using private schools?

No.

I just got a “nice purse” = a Longchamp tote. I plan to get a bag charm or two from local places. That’s nice enough for me!

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Anonymous wrote:I have a couple of $3k purses and also several that are in the $200 range. I tend to grab whatever best suits my outfit. The expensive ones I bought because I liked them and could easily afford them - I didn’t save up for them, or go into debt for them, or forego savings or investments or otherwise sacrificing for them. They are not any better than the $200 purses, quality-wise, and I think most people probably wouldn’t clock that they are $3k or afford me any status because of them. I just bought them because I liked them, could afford them, and decided to treat myself. I think you're overthinking this, OP. It’s not that serious.

You could be right. I was noticing that I didn’t feel anything about the purse one way or the other. I wondered if I was a bit unusual or odd.

OP

It’s unusual to care about nice purses for the average person. I mean, they might care as in enjoying the Devil Wears Prada as a movie, and reading fashion mags in doctor’s offices, but they don’t buy $3k purses.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend dropped her purse in a puddle while we were talking by phone. She mentioned the brand and how it had been given to her as a gift.

The purse is around $3k. I can’t make myself interested in an expensive purse and wondered if anyone felt the same?

I’m happy for my friend that she likes her purse. But I don’t value purses and barely notice what purses people use.

My friend and I are very different and I love that we respect each other. She grew up extremely wealthy, and she is my window into the one percent life…

Am I a weirdo for feeling this way? And should I be better at recognizing status symbols?

Of course, you are not a werriodo.

I happen to have some of those and I love them for their pockets/zippers/craftmanship, however I also have a lulu bag I use almost daily.

There is no need at all to buy a purse that costs that much.

Unless it is Channel or Birken which hold their value better than almost all others.

To your point, I love good craftsmanship. That might attract me. I've inherited purses made by individuals (not big companies), and I've liked those. Funny, though, because I don't use them. I prefer pockets for now.

OP

I can’t fit everything I need in pockets. I have chronic migraines and my son has an anaphylactic allergy, so even very streamlined I don’t go anywhere without two medical pens (best migraine meds are shots like an EpiPen). I keep it pretty simple but a purse is necessary.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly who cares? I see people driving 50k cars and I don’t care. I’ve worn many purses for longer than I’ve had cars.

The average car is 50k now, and people take loans.

OP

Smart people don’t. Car loans are a horrid “investment.” Never had a note on a car myself, never will. And I am a $50 purse tops girl.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend dropped her purse in a puddle while we were talking by phone. She mentioned the brand and how it had been given to her as a gift.

The purse is around $3k. I can’t make myself interested in an expensive purse and wondered if anyone felt the same?

I’m happy for my friend that she likes her purse. But I don’t value purses and barely notice what purses people use.

My friend and I are very different and I love that we respect each other. She grew up extremely wealthy, and she is my window into the one percent life…

Am I a weirdo for feeling this way? And should I be better at recognizing status symbols?

Of course, you are not a werriodo.

I happen to have some of those and I love them for their pockets/zippers/craftmanship, however I also have a lulu bag I use almost daily.

There is no need at all to buy a purse that costs that much.

Unless it is Channel or Birken which hold their value better than almost all others.

To your point, I love good craftsmanship. That might attract me. I've inherited purses made by individuals (not big companies), and I've liked those. Funny, though, because I don't use them. I prefer pockets for now.

OP

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Anonymous wrote:My friend dropped her purse in a puddle while we were talking by phone. She mentioned the brand and how it had been given to her as a gift.

The purse is around $3k. I can’t make myself interested in an expensive purse and wondered if anyone felt the same?

I’m happy for my friend that she likes her purse. But I don’t value purses and barely notice what purses people use.

My friend and I are very different and I love that we respect each other. She grew up extremely wealthy, and she is my window into the one percent life…

Am I a weirdo for feeling this way? And should I be better at recognizing status symbols?

I mean ... I'm not trying "to make myself interested" in anything. I like nice bags, for multiple reasons, but I do't care what other people carry, or even notice most of the time.

Sounds like you are simply feeling the need to engage in a bit of reverse-snobbery to feel superior. Not a great look.

I disagree with you here. The fact I am not interested in purses does not equal “reverse snobbery.” That’s not logical.

OP

Anonymous wrote:I have a couple of $3k purses and also several that are in the $200 range. I tend to grab whatever best suits my outfit. The expensive ones I bought because I liked them and could easily afford them - I didn’t save up for them, or go into debt for them, or forego savings or investments or otherwise sacrificing for them. They are not any better than the $200 purses, quality-wise, and I think most people probably wouldn’t clock that they are $3k or afford me any status because of them. I just bought them because I liked them, could afford them, and decided to treat myself. I think you're overthinking this, OP. It’s not that serious.

You could be right. I was noticing that I didn’t feel anything about the purse one way or the other. I wondered if I was a bit unusual or odd.

OP

Anonymous wrote:Honestly who cares? I see people driving 50k cars and I don’t care. I’ve worn many purses for longer than I’ve had cars.

The average car is 50k now, and people take loans.

OP

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a couple of $3k purses and also several that are in the $200 range. I tend to grab whatever best suits my outfit. The expensive ones I bought because I liked them and could easily afford them - I didn’t save up for them, or go into debt for them, or forego savings or investments or otherwise sacrificing for them. They are not any better than the $200 purses, quality-wise, and I think most people probably wouldn’t clock that they are $3k or afford me any status because of them. I just bought them because I liked them, could afford them, and decided to treat myself. I think you're overthinking this, OP. It’s not that serious.

+1000 this
And there are people a lot wealthier than I am who think this exact way about handbags that aren’t in my budget. And that’s okay - I’m probably never going to have tech billionaire F you money.
As for OP and all the other hypocritical reverse snobs on this post, you all sound petty and jealous. Deluding yourselves that you’re opting out of this chain isn’t bestowing any moral high ground upon you all. Meanwhile someone else making far less than you is looking at your $120 bag (or other spending that you either think nothing of or justify to yourself as being HiGh QuALiTy) and thinking that it seems like an unreasonable luxury.

No, I’m not jealous of a handbag. I use pockets like a man and have my shoulders and hands free.

I figure you are projecting. By calling us petty and jealous, I see you are the petty and jealous one.

You seem really angry calling people here “hypocritical reverse snobs” and other names. Maybe look inside yourself and ask why a question (or a person questioning how they view something) has you so angry with strangers.

OP

Anonymous wrote:I used to care and loved my expensive purses but then they became too expensive $2K is now $4K+. Now I’m more likely to buy a $500 bag from Staud or Veronica Beard, Rag & Bone, Mansur Gavriel

Same girl. I would love a beige CF or a blush last Dior, but I can’t do the $4k purse life. My personal limit is $3k.

No.