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Anonymous wrote:I think there are a lot of things that people seek support for as disabilities in college but not in the real world. My kid has severe, but well controlled asthma. Since avoiding environmental triggers is part of that control, he will submit disability paperwork to ensure he is placed in a dorm room with AC or allowed to install a window unit, and not asked to share a room or suite with an emotional support cat.

As an adult he will look for an apartment with AC and not choose to get a cat. No disability paperwork will be involved.

I think people who need emotional support animals should live off-campus. And not get priority for singles. That's a hotbutton issue for me. The ESA declarations are pretty fraudulent. Dog people particularly seem okay with lying so they can take dogs wherever.

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Anonymous wrote:Debated getting DD checked for slow processing speed at beginning of MS because she definitely has that. But decided against it because even with accomodations in school, jobs won't extend that. So best to learn how to work with the brain you have in the system we have and push the brain to the max capacity. Much easier to do that when young and brain is most plastic and also when young because there is the support and safety net of parents.

I thought to have extra time accommodations when in school and then not have it suddenly as an adult will be a rude awakening. This way DD will force her brain to adapt a bit and also she will find a career path that suits her.

In my field of work, slow processing wouldn't work and their can be no accommodations. I work at top speed everyday with massive amounts of information, and critically make judgements and decisions that affect other people's wellbeing. DD won't end up in my job but that's ok. She will find her way.

She's near the end of MS now, and the processing speed has gotten better in my assessment, and same with her memory and ability to connect information. She's not the brightest or the fastest by any means, but the improvement as been marked!

The brain can adapt and rise to the occassion more than many parents are allowing for their kids. For me it is more important to expand her brain's abilities and struggle right now while I can support her than it is for me for her to get straight As. I decided accommodations may help her grades now but would not be in her best interest in the long run. Forcing her brain to make and strengthen these neuronal connections will serve her much better for her life.

This is a damaging perspective. I feel bad for kid. A parent so cold and arrogant that they over look their kids mental health and harm their ability to learn.

Parent of a kid with LDs here and I totally agree with you. The parent risks sever psychological damage and for sure a lack of confidence. Her kid just thinks she is stupid when she has a disability. My kid was not diagnosed until 4th grade and it was such a relief to her to know she was not stupid but her brain processes differently. As a college student she has been very successful but that never would have happened if we had let her tough it out.