Anonymous wrote:If the grandparents have money, they should give you a break and paybfor a few nights at a hotel, especially if they’re inviting themselves.

But if they “gifted” you money for your house when you bought it, sorry, they’re partial owners claiming their space.

Anonymous wrote:I agree that this is only a little bit about sleeping arrangements and more about how they pushed back when you gently suggested alternatives. That’s what’s weird here.

Are they your parents or your in laws, OP?

And, have you said if you have a 4 BR house or are we all assuming? If so, then the two big kids (whatever, boy/ girl doesn’t matter) and the little one is on an air mattress in your room. Grandparents are in the other room.. on a twin and an air mattress if you don’t have a full/queen.

And why not tell them that the TV is a little loud?

Sorry, though, OP- sounds hard.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like there are a lot of entitled boomer grandparents posting on here Op. Grandparents/family should want to help and lighten the load of the parents, not be catered to and put on a pedestal. 5 days is too much for any type of visit and your kids need their rooms. Letting your kids share a bed with a grandparent?! What?! That is beyond crazy.

Yet another poster attacking an entire generation indiscriminately while ignoring the fact that every next generation poster on here is nasty AF.

Nasty because our parents (now boomers) took no responsibility in raising us and could not care what happened to us and now want us to lay down at their feet and do what they want. They did not want the respect they think they are entitled too. My sister or my friends could come stay in my room and I would sleep on the couch but my parents and ILs can F off to a hotel.

You might be surprised to hear how abused your parents (boomers) were growing up. Most were treated like dirt.

Anonymous wrote:Grandparents here. One of our kids lives in a large house w guest quarters. They told us the only time they have together is after the kids are in bed and asked us to stay in a hotel. We took it upon ourselves to rent a car as well. They are crazy busy and I’m grateful they were honest.
A lot (most) of our friends do not realize the stress on young families and that it is not the same world we raised our kids in.
to them. No one wants to stay where they’re not wanted. If they get angry, they’ll get over it.

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Anonymous wrote:I think 95% of the global population would be amazed at the lack of resilience here where the idea of the inconvenience of not having your own room for a night or two is such a major stressor that children and families would not be able to cope or function and people’s lives would be incredibly disrupted.

95% of the global population is raised to value family. But this site skews towards takers and if the gparents aren’t doing everything to help their fragile children, then the gparents can go eff themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like there are a lot of entitled boomer grandparents posting on here Op. Grandparents/family should want to help and lighten the load of the parents, not be catered to and put on a pedestal. 5 days is too much for any type of visit and your kids need their rooms. Letting your kids share a bed with a grandparent?! What?! That is beyond crazy.

Yet another poster attacking an entire generation indiscriminately while ignoring the fact that every next generation poster on here is nasty AF.

Nasty because our parents (now boomers) took no responsibility in raising us and could not care what happened to us and now want us to lay down at their feet and do what they want. They did not want the respect they think they are entitled too. My sister or my friends could come stay in my room and I would sleep on the couch but my parents and ILs can F off to a hotel.

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not just letting them stay in her kid’s room at their house, it’s that they are also bad, inflexible guests. Running the TV at all hours at a high volume when there are little kids trying to sleep? Or waking up at 5 and puttering around while, again, kids are trying to sleep? During the school/work week on top of that?? That’s just bad manners. If they were respectful of the kids schedule and quiet at night, and helpful with the kids when they visited - that would be another story.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like there are a lot of entitled boomer grandparents posting on here Op. Grandparents/family should want to help and lighten the load of the parents, not be catered to and put on a pedestal. 5 days is too much for any type of visit and your kids need their rooms. Letting your kids share a bed with a grandparent?! What?! That is beyond crazy.

Yet another poster attacking an entire generation indiscriminately while ignoring the fact that every next generation poster on here is nasty AF.

Nasty because our parents (now boomers) took no responsibility in raising us and could not care what happened to us and now want us to lay down at their feet and do what they want. They did not want the respect they think they are entitled too. My sister or my friends could come stay in my room and I would sleep on the couch but my parents and ILs can F off to a hotel.

I can’t wait until your kids treat you exactly the same way. Which they will. Because you’re modeling the behavior for them.

I'm a young boomer parent and just got back from a trip to the West Coast, where DH and I visited our son and daughter-in-law. They have an extra bedroom and we stayed in a hotel. That way we had our own space and we could all see each other frequently for fun things and good meals, but not be in each others' faces all the time.