Anonymous
09/14/2025 20:21
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Tup, not many anti-Episcopalian trolls on DCUM.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 19:54
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
This whole thread makes me grateful to be an Episcopalian.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 19:41
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, my kids already go to mass on fridays. How many times do they have to go per week? 2? 10?
Sunday is a holy day of obligation. Friday is not.
Neither is Saturday. Yet I know dozens of Catholics -- very devout ones — who go to Saturday Mass instead of Sunday.
So why doesn’t the school-required Friday Mass count?
They are going to the Vigil Mass on Saturday, which the Church has said counts for the Sunday obligation. If they went on Saturday morning that would not qualify as satisfying the Sunday obligation.
If you are Catholic and you do not know about the Sunday obligation then you should talk to a priest about it. It’s honestly kind of silly to identify as Catholic and then make only minimal effort to figure out exactly what that means. It would be like identifying as a German but making no effort to learn about the language or culture. If you are not Catholic, it doesn’t really apply to you, so no need to debate it with internet strangers.
This is totally false. Have been Catholic my life, as have have family generations before me, and any Saturday Mass is fine.
I’m embarrassed for you. You’re wrong. Saturday morning, even a Saturday afternoon wedding, do not count as your Sunday obligation. Only the designated Saturday evening vigil mass.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 19:30
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:When does “Saturday evening” begin?
This is such a stupid discussion. Catholics are so fixated and obsessed with form over substance.
Just go to Mass once a week, be a kind/good person, and stop judging everyone else. Such sanctimonious a-holes on this board.
Some are, some aren’t. Just like everyone else.
Unless you think all Catholics are the same?
Anonymous
09/14/2025 19:28
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
I would never expect a non Catholic family to attend Sunday Mass (or a Catholic family). But, I would assume the first are not getting the parish subsidies.
We are not getting the parishioner rate. But we are Protestant and with the kids attending Mass once or twice a week at school, it might be nice for us to attend as a family once a month. That was my thinking. I have been to Mass before at this parish church as well as several others, but never regularly, which is why I asked about being recognized and then having people being confused as to a why a non-Catholic is attending a Catholic mass regularly.
The school will find many reasons to get your to Mass as a family. This isn't even something you have to think about. Your kids may be asked to do readings, sing, carry the gifts, usher, or whatever. There is always something going on and for people who think they are going to send their kids to a Catholic school and never have to set foot in the Church then they will be disappointed. Nobody is going to ask you whether you are actually Catholic or not. How would they even know?
Actually the kids will never be asked to do readings or participate in mass beyond as a lay participant. They can't, since they aren't Catholic. At least that is how it works at our parish school.
Completely untrue.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 19:25
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
When does “Saturday evening” begin?
This is such a stupid discussion. Catholics are so fixated and obsessed with form over substance.
Just go to Mass once a week, be a kind/good person, and stop judging everyone else. Such sanctimonious a-holes on this board.
This is such a stupid discussion. Catholics are so fixated and obsessed with form over substance.
Just go to Mass once a week, be a kind/good person, and stop judging everyone else. Such sanctimonious a-holes on this board.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 18:50
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, my kids already go to mass on fridays. How many times do they have to go per week? 2? 10?
Sunday is a holy day of obligation. Friday is not.
Neither is Saturday. Yet I know dozens of Catholics -- very devout ones — who go to Saturday Mass instead of Sunday.
So why doesn’t the school-required Friday Mass count?
They are going to the Vigil Mass on Saturday, which the Church has said counts for the Sunday obligation. If they went on Saturday morning that would not qualify as satisfying the Sunday obligation.
If you are Catholic and you do not know about the Sunday obligation then you should talk to a priest about it. It’s honestly kind of silly to identify as Catholic and then make only minimal effort to figure out exactly what that means. It would be like identifying as a German but making no effort to learn about the language or culture. If you are not Catholic, it doesn’t really apply to you, so no need to debate it with internet strangers.
This is totally false. Have been Catholic my life, as have have family generations before me, and any Saturday Mass is fine.
No. You should learn about your religion.
To be fair, catechesis has been garbage for decades. When I was in grad school a Catholic student in the American history section I was teaching had no idea who Moses was (important for African American history). Unbelievable that someone could grow up going to Mass for 18 years and never have heard of Moses before…
Anonymous
09/14/2025 16:50
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, my kids already go to mass on fridays. How many times do they have to go per week? 2? 10?
Sunday is a holy day of obligation. Friday is not.
Neither is Saturday. Yet I know dozens of Catholics -- very devout ones — who go to Saturday Mass instead of Sunday.
So why doesn’t the school-required Friday Mass count?
They are going to the Vigil Mass on Saturday, which the Church has said counts for the Sunday obligation. If they went on Saturday morning that would not qualify as satisfying the Sunday obligation.
If you are Catholic and you do not know about the Sunday obligation then you should talk to a priest about it. It’s honestly kind of silly to identify as Catholic and then make only minimal effort to figure out exactly what that means. It would be like identifying as a German but making no effort to learn about the language or culture. If you are not Catholic, it doesn’t really apply to you, so no need to debate it with internet strangers.
This is totally false. Have been Catholic my life, as have have family generations before me, and any Saturday Mass is fine.
No. You should learn about your religion.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 16:45
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Saturday morning mass =Saturday daily mass. Saturday vigil mass = Sunday mass.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 14:37
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, my kids already go to mass on fridays. How many times do they have to go per week? 2? 10?
Sunday is a holy day of obligation. Friday is not.
Neither is Saturday. Yet I know dozens of Catholics -- very devout ones — who go to Saturday Mass instead of Sunday.
So why doesn’t the school-required Friday Mass count?
They are going to the Vigil Mass on Saturday, which the Church has said counts for the Sunday obligation. If they went on Saturday morning that would not qualify as satisfying the Sunday obligation.
If you are Catholic and you do not know about the Sunday obligation then you should talk to a priest about it. It’s honestly kind of silly to identify as Catholic and then make only minimal effort to figure out exactly what that means. It would be like identifying as a German but making no effort to learn about the language or culture. If you are not Catholic, it doesn’t really apply to you, so no need to debate it with internet strangers.
This is totally false. Have been Catholic my life, as have have family generations before me, and any Saturday Mass is fine.
Nope. Saturday morning Mass does not count for the Sunday HDO. Ask your priest.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 14:20
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
lol no
Anonymous
09/14/2025 14:14
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, my kids already go to mass on fridays. How many times do they have to go per week? 2? 10?
Sunday is a holy day of obligation. Friday is not.
Neither is Saturday. Yet I know dozens of Catholics -- very devout ones — who go to Saturday Mass instead of Sunday.
So why doesn’t the school-required Friday Mass count?
They are going to the Vigil Mass on Saturday, which the Church has said counts for the Sunday obligation. If they went on Saturday morning that would not qualify as satisfying the Sunday obligation.
If you are Catholic and you do not know about the Sunday obligation then you should talk to a priest about it. It’s honestly kind of silly to identify as Catholic and then make only minimal effort to figure out exactly what that means. It would be like identifying as a German but making no effort to learn about the language or culture. If you are not Catholic, it doesn’t really apply to you, so no need to debate it with internet strangers.
This is totally false. Have been Catholic my life, as have have family generations before me, and any Saturday Mass is fine.
Can. 1248 §1. A person who assists at a Mass celebrated anywhere in a Catholic rite either on the feast day itself or in the evening of the preceding day satisfies the obligation of participating in the Mass.
Source: https://www.vatican.va/archive/cod-iuris-canonici/eng/documents/cic_lib4-cann1244-1253_en.html
Anonymous
09/14/2025 13:58
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, my kids already go to mass on fridays. How many times do they have to go per week? 2? 10?
Sunday is a holy day of obligation. Friday is not.
Neither is Saturday. Yet I know dozens of Catholics -- very devout ones — who go to Saturday Mass instead of Sunday.
So why doesn’t the school-required Friday Mass count?
They are going to the Vigil Mass on Saturday, which the Church has said counts for the Sunday obligation. If they went on Saturday morning that would not qualify as satisfying the Sunday obligation.
If you are Catholic and you do not know about the Sunday obligation then you should talk to a priest about it. It’s honestly kind of silly to identify as Catholic and then make only minimal effort to figure out exactly what that means. It would be like identifying as a German but making no effort to learn about the language or culture. If you are not Catholic, it doesn’t really apply to you, so no need to debate it with internet strangers.
This is totally false. Have been Catholic my life, as have have family generations before me, and any Saturday Mass is fine.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 13:32
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, my kids already go to mass on fridays. How many times do they have to go per week? 2? 10?
Sunday is a holy day of obligation. Friday is not.
Neither is Saturday. Yet I know dozens of Catholics -- very devout ones — who go to Saturday Mass instead of Sunday.
So why doesn’t the school-required Friday Mass count?
They are going to the Vigil Mass on Saturday, which the Church has said counts for the Sunday obligation. If they went on Saturday morning that would not qualify as satisfying the Sunday obligation.
If you are Catholic and you do not know about the Sunday obligation then you should talk to a priest about it. It’s honestly kind of silly to identify as Catholic and then make only minimal effort to figure out exactly what that means. It would be like identifying as a German but making no effort to learn about the language or culture. If you are not Catholic, it doesn’t really apply to you, so no need to debate it with internet strangers.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 13:14
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, my kids already go to mass on fridays. How many times do they have to go per week? 2? 10?
Sunday is a holy day of obligation. Friday is not.
Neither is Saturday. Yet I know dozens of Catholics -- very devout ones — who go to Saturday Mass instead of Sunday.
So why doesn’t the school-required Friday Mass count?