Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 20:01     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:OP, if you get your BMI down to 20 and get better pics you will get plenty of interest. Sorry to say it, but I get way more attention from men with a BMI of 19 than I got when I had a BMI of 23. They are so shallow.


Maybe. Or: "Being fat is so important to me that I refuse to slim down to be more attractive."

Okay. Your call I guess.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:57     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
OP, if you get your BMI down to 20 and get better pics you will get plenty of interest. Sorry to say it, but I get way more attention from men with a BMI of 19 than I got when I had a BMI of 23. They are so shallow.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:53     Subject: Re:38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
To OP: I have only read a few posts in this thread, but the issue is your age.

I know about a dozen single men in the DC area who are in their late 30s none of whm would consider a serious relationship with a female above her early 30s. Sad, but true.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:49     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Make a new profile. After a few days your existing profile is matched with similar profile- ie no or little matches.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:40     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
I am surprised OP. All a woman has to do is say she is a woman and a bunch of men will show up.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:23     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did you set your filters

What do your photos look like

What does your profile say


My filters are:

Must have undergrad and/or graduate degree
Height: 5’9 - 6’4
Open to children
Distance: 30 miles

I have recent photos from my trip in Europe; full body shots of me sight seeing; a picture of me with my niece; picture of me in a dress on the beach


Remove the photo of you with your niece, or remove niece from the photo. Men think you are a single mom and/or have bad judgment to put a minor's photo on line on a dating site.


I'm surprised she's not getting matches with guys angling for the package deal.


Guy here. Of my single guy friends in their 30s, none have ever said "If I get married, it will only be to a woman who already has kids." Men don't really have a big desire to pay to raise some other man's kid. Life may end up that way, but they dont' seek it out.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:22     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Wow white beauty standards are crazy. I was today years old when I learned I'm not "slim."

5'3. 135 lbs.


That's a BMI of 23.0, same as OP's BMI.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:19     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did you set your filters

What do your photos look like

What does your profile say


My filters are:

Must have undergrad and/or graduate degree
Height: 5’9 - 6’4
Open to children
Distance: 30 miles

I have recent photos from my trip in Europe; full body shots of me sight seeing; a picture of me with my niece; picture of me in a dress on the beach


Remove the photo of you with your niece, or remove niece from the photo. Men think you are a single mom and/or have bad judgment to put a minor's photo on line on a dating site.


I'm surprised she's not getting matches with guys angling for the package deal.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:18     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did you set your filters

What do your photos look like

What does your profile say


My filters are:

Must have undergrad and/or graduate degree
Height: 5’9 - 6’4
Open to children
Distance: 30 miles

I have recent photos from my trip in Europe; full body shots of me sight seeing; a picture of me with my niece; picture of me in a dress on the beach


"Open to children" at age 38?

You need to make an honest Yes or No call
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:17     Subject: Re:38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Contact support -maybe your profile is not activated for some reason


Hah.. the people in customer support on the dating site would have a laugh about that one. I wonder if they post up their best "I'm not getting matches, your site must be broken!" greatest hits on the wall in the office!
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:16     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:I'm a bit shocked at the lack of interest in OP as well. Maybe it's just hinge? I'm 35 and was very briefly on tinder and bumble and was basically beating men off with a stick. I do think removing the picture with the child is good, but no need to drastically increase your age range (I'm guessing it's all the gross old men on here encouraging that so they think they have a change with 30's women). Also fine to drop the height filter - you can always decline them if you dont like their profile AND theyre short.

Also your weight is fine. Men have no clue about womens weight and just think anything over 100 is fat. So just ignore their comments, theyre used to anime children and have no idea what real women look like.



Sure, OP can date a woman. But if she wants a man, she has to attract a man.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:14     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Which apps? Different apps have different vibes.

Are you in DC or the burbs?

Slim pickings in the burbs.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:11     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Wow white beauty standards are crazy. I was today years old when I learned I'm not "slim."

5'3. 135 lbs.

I'm slim and toned since I work out a lot but most of my weight is in my thighs/booty.

Anyway, OP ignore the people trying to make you look like a stick. Your weight is fine.


If she works out and has a big @ss she looks like Mrs. Incredible. Which suits me just fine. Sounds fun.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:11     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Didn't read the whole thread.


5'0 118, OP, are you a weightlifter or are you chunky?

Younger women can get away with being a little plump because the skin looks nicer.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 19:07     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
38f and interested in kids is like rush delivery on 5 years a go deadline