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Anonymous wrote:It's weird but it's not a big deal. Do you feel left out Op?

I don’t feel left out, but if it’s OK for her, shouldn’t it be OK for me?

Anonymous wrote:It's weird but it's not a big deal. Do you feel left out Op?

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Anonymous wrote:Touching yourself is not cheating. No matter how little you touch someone else. Get over yourself.

Right?! A person would have to feel very entitled to someone else’s body to think that any touching of that body, even by the body’s owner, is cheating.

Touching herself is not the issue. Involving another person in it is the issue. Everyone saying it’s no problem would be perfectly fine with their partner involving somebody else in sexting and masturbating?

I would have a problem with sexting and masturbating. This is not that.

You sound unhinged.

OP
Telling each other they’re going to do it, texting about what they’re going to use, letting each other know they’ve started, and when they have had an O, but going for another, etc is not sexting and masturbating? What is it then? I have no issue with it, but her telling me she’d be angry if I did the exact same thing is comical. Why is it different?

That’s the sticking point in this discussion, she thinks it’s no big deal only because it’s 2 women and "that’s different". Ok, what’s different? She can’t say what is different, just that "it is"

We are not arguing about it, neither has an issue if it happens again, I just think the double standard is odd.

Did I miss the post where you said you asked her how she'd feel about you doing this, no more nor less than exactly what she did, with a dude?

This sounds like a joke between old friends that you decided to flip out about, mostly because you felt excluded. You're not entitled to her sexuality like that, and no, talking about it isn't cheating. Talking about it a lot still isn't cheating. Talking about it in detail? Not fscking cheating.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Touching yourself is not cheating. No matter how little you touch someone else. Get over yourself.

Right?! A person would have to feel very entitled to someone else’s body to think that any touching of that body, even by the body’s owner, is cheating.

Touching herself is not the issue. Involving another person in it is the issue. Everyone saying it’s no problem would be perfectly fine with their partner involving somebody else in sexting and masturbating?

I would have a problem with sexting and masturbating. This is not that.

You sound unhinged.

OP
Telling each other they’re going to do it, texting about what they’re going to use, letting each other know they’ve started, and when they have had an O, but going for another, etc is not sexting and masturbating? What is it then? I have no issue with it, but her telling me she’d be angry if I did the exact same thing is comical. Why is it different?

That’s the sticking point in this discussion, she thinks it’s no big deal only because it’s 2 women and "that’s different". Ok, what’s different? She can’t say what is different, just that "it is"

We are not arguing about it, neither has an issue if it happens again, I just think the double standard is odd.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Touching yourself is not cheating. No matter how little you touch someone else. Get over yourself.

Right?! A person would have to feel very entitled to someone else’s body to think that any touching of that body, even by the body’s owner, is cheating.

Touching herself is not the issue. Involving another person in it is the issue. Everyone saying it’s no problem would be perfectly fine with their partner involving somebody else in sexting and masturbating?

I would have a problem with sexting and masturbating. This is not that.

You sound unhinged.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Touching yourself is not cheating. No matter how little you touch someone else. Get over yourself.

Right?! A person would have to feel very entitled to someone else’s body to think that any touching of that body, even by the body’s owner, is cheating.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Touching yourself is not cheating. No matter how little you touch someone else. Get over yourself.

Right?! A person would have to feel very entitled to someone else’s body to think that any touching of that body, even by the body’s owner, is cheating.

Touching herself is not the issue. Involving another person in it is the issue. Everyone saying it’s no problem would be perfectly fine with their partner involving somebody else in sexting and masturbating?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW (50) had lunch with a friend she sees a few time a month. Apparently there was some hot topic brought up, and the friend said she can’t wait to get home and "take care of business". Somehow this became a game of they both went home to do so as a race to see who could finish first. She showed me texts where they both started, who "won" etc.

I thought it was kind of hot, but did say it’s slightly cheating, she disagrees and says it’s more common than I’d think, and just harmless fun. It’s cheating right?

You think it's hot for your wife to cheat on you?

Anonymous wrote:DW (50) had lunch with a friend she sees a few time a month. Apparently there was some hot topic brought up, and the friend said she can’t wait to get home and "take care of business". Somehow this became a game of they both went home to do so as a race to see who could finish first. She showed me texts where they both started, who "won" etc.

I thought it was kind of hot, but did say it’s slightly cheating, she disagrees and says it’s more common than I’d think, and just harmless fun. It’s cheating right?

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Anonymous wrote:Touching yourself is not cheating. No matter how little you touch someone else. Get over yourself.

Agreed, is texting someone that is not your spouse while doing so ok though? Why does everyone seem to be ignoring that part?

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Anonymous wrote:Touching yourself is not cheating. No matter how little you touch someone else. Get over yourself.

Maybe not. But if the extent of the wife’s sexual activity is solo and is discrete about it, it’s just a level below. This assumes that the husband doesn’t lack interest. Regardless, the couples sex life isn’t together in this scenario.

Anonymous wrote:Touching yourself is not cheating. No matter how little you touch someone else. Get over yourself.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Touching yourself is not cheating. No matter how little you touch someone else. Get over yourself.

Right?! A person would have to feel very entitled to someone else’s body to think that any touching of that body, even by the body’s owner, is cheating.