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Anonymous wrote:You don't want a connection or really any relationship, and you aren't patient, really. You aren't exclusive and don't expect your dates to be. This isn't dating, you want an escort for sex. You want just sex, and apparently a lot of it. Just buy it. I really don't get what the problem is here.

Going forward...come back here in about 10 or 13 years. Story will be reversed.

How can I commit to one man if he’s not making me entirely happy and satisfied ? I do want a fulfilling relationship which includes the physical part.
In 10-13 years I won’t be dating plain simple

I think you will be dating, because the relationship part really isn't a priority for you. No judgment here, you are just wanting sex. If I were dating for a relationship, and a guy said he wants more of a connection, that's a green flag for me, not red. If he's trying to move quickly, I that's red. This is of course because I would be looking long term. And yeah, most men need a pill or something. Everyone knows this. You will too in 10 years.

I don't think you're being fair to OP. She's emotionally close to one guy and maybe two. She's in real relationships. She's not JUST having sex. She's also not ready to settle for either one of them exclusively. She's saying she might find a man she's ready to be with exclusively at some point.

Here's the thing that some women in their late 40s or 50s sometimes say. They have trouble finding a man who they connect with mentally, physically, and emotionally AND who doesn't have big problems (like job or financial or alcohol issues). But that's not the whole story sometimes. When they do find a guy who checks all the boxes, he's so popular that it's hard to be sure he'll be there for the long haul. Attractive , smart, financially secure women in their late 40s and 50s have lots of options but they still can feel a little insecure about the long term.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't want a connection or really any relationship, and you aren't patient, really. You aren't exclusive and don't expect your dates to be. This isn't dating, you want an escort for sex. You want just sex, and apparently a lot of it. Just buy it. I really don't get what the problem is here.

Going forward...come back here in about 10 or 13 years. Story will be reversed.

How can I commit to one man if he’s not making me entirely happy and satisfied ? I do want a fulfilling relationship which includes the physical part.
In 10-13 years I won’t be dating plain simple

I think you will be dating, because the relationship part really isn't a priority for you. No judgment here, you are just wanting sex. If I were dating for a relationship, and a guy said he wants more of a connection, that's a green flag for me, not red. If he's trying to move quickly, I that's red. This is of course because I would be looking long term. And yeah, most men need a pill or something. Everyone knows this. You will too in 10 years.

Do you read? They say they can't take the pill because of a medical condition

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Anonymous wrote:You don't want a connection or really any relationship, and you aren't patient, really. You aren't exclusive and don't expect your dates to be. This isn't dating, you want an escort for sex. You want just sex, and apparently a lot of it. Just buy it. I really don't get what the problem is here.

Going forward...come back here in about 10 or 13 years. Story will be reversed.

How can I commit to one man if he’s not making me entirely happy and satisfied ? I do want a fulfilling relationship which includes the physical part.
In 10-13 years I won’t be dating plain simple

I think you will be dating, because the relationship part really isn't a priority for you. No judgment here, you are just wanting sex. If I were dating for a relationship, and a guy said he wants more of a connection, that's a green flag for me, not red. If he's trying to move quickly, I that's red. This is of course because I would be looking long term. And yeah, most men need a pill or something. Everyone knows this. You will too in 10 years.

Anonymous wrote:"In 10-13 years I won’t be dating plain simple."

Because you think you'll be settled down with a new man by then? Or because you think you won't be interested in men and dating anymore? Or because you think men capable of having sex and fun won't be interested in you anymore?

Because I won't be interested in dating and most likely will be settled. Or, if not settled, just not found what I was looking for and it would be time to focus on other things in life. I'm confident though that I will be able to meet someone at any age the question is only whether that person would meet all my needs.

I’m 48 and dating a 62 year old. He’s very fit but he doesn’t get an instant erection like much younger guys but I really enjoy the process of getting him there. Once he does he’s just fine. What I really like is that he will do sexually whatever I want him to do so it’s not all about his needs.

"In 10-13 years I won’t be dating plain simple."

Because you think you'll be settled down with a new man by then? Or because you think you won't be interested in men and dating anymore? Or because you think men capable of having sex and fun won't be interested in you anymore?

Anonymous wrote:I understand where this woman is coming from. She wants emotional and physical satisfaction. Nothing wrong with that. I'm guessing she's also got different sides to her personality, so different men are more compatible for some parts of her life than others. Just a guess.

She probably feels very close to multiple men. That's a lot more common than people realize.

Yes, I’m very attached to both men . We do different things both physically and in day to day life. It would be hard to break it off with either of them and they want to stay. One even said he wouldn’t be dating anyone but I can if I want to

I understand where this woman is coming from. She wants emotional and physical satisfaction. Nothing wrong with that. I'm guessing she's also got different sides to her personality, so different men are more compatible for some parts of her life than others. Just a guess.

She probably feels very close to multiple men. That's a lot more common than people realize.

Anonymous wrote:You don't want a connection or really any relationship, and you aren't patient, really. You aren't exclusive and don't expect your dates to be. This isn't dating, you want an escort for sex. You want just sex, and apparently a lot of it. Just buy it. I really don't get what the problem is here.

Going forward...come back here in about 10 or 13 years. Story will be reversed.

How can I commit to one man if he’s not making me entirely happy and satisfied ? I do want a fulfilling relationship which includes the physical part.
In 10-13 years I won’t be dating plain simple

You don't want a connection or really any relationship, and you aren't patient, really. You aren't exclusive and don't expect your dates to be. This isn't dating, you want an escort for sex. You want just sex, and apparently a lot of it. Just buy it. I really don't get what the problem is here.

Going forward...come back here in about 10 or 13 years. Story will be reversed.

Anonymous wrote:Here's another suggestion when the guy is older and having trouble performing. Take your time. Tease him. Coax what you need out of him by touching him slowly and patiently in ways he likes.

Some men could perform with none of that when they were young. Seeing a naked woman was all the stimulation necessary. They may need more foreplay when they're older.

This might not help for every older man but it will help some of them. Obviously some women do not enjoy this kind of sex. Some women need it fast or rough. Or they need the instant validation of a hard man and can't get excited if they don't see or feel that right away. Those women need to find a different solution, like the young fireman another woman mentioned in the thread about her daughter walking in on her.

I’m very patient and experienced in sex. We tried it multiple times and while sometimes it works it’s a changing success…. The reality is no PIV for extended periods of time, if I stay with the man I’m romantically attached to

Here's another suggestion when the guy is older and having trouble performing. Take your time. Tease him. Coax what you need out of him by touching him slowly and patiently in ways he likes.

Some men could perform with none of that when they were young. Seeing a naked woman was all the stimulation necessary. They may need more foreplay when they're older.

This might not help for every older man but it will help some of them. Obviously some women do not enjoy this kind of sex. Some women need it fast or rough. Or they need the instant validation of a hard man and can't get excited if they don't see or feel that right away. Those women need to find a different solution, like the young fireman another woman mentioned in the thread about her daughter walking in on her.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

You obviously intimidate these men. Just pick some that are more on your level.

Are you saying they would perform flawlessly with an average slightly overweight woman ? If so, why are they so stuck on seeing me ?

Anonymous wrote:I would have a hard time dating a guy who didn’t want to get it on by the 3rd date. Late 40s female. Have not dated older though.

Thanks - this is a valuable input, that’s what I suspect as well. Men who need regular sex would at least suggest taking you to their place by date 3.

Anonymous wrote:Do your dates know you are not exclusive?

Yes