Anonymous
06/15/2025 17:24
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you want to save the marriage?
I don't know. It hurts. I would never be able to forgive her.
I'm so sorry OP. This must be soul crushing.
Staying in the marriage is absolutely an option if you wish, I have seen it work. I would assume once confronted, most wives would quit cheating, but husband cheaters not so much.
Umm. No. Women cheaters can be worse. I know several caught more than once.
Wrong. Women cheaters, when caught, realize that they made terrible mistakes, become better people, and never cheat again. They become the trustworthy people they always were before circumstances got in the way. Men, on the other hand, rarely change.
HaaaaaaHaaaaaa!!!
My ex wife certainly didn’t do that. She was back on the dating apps 1 year after I was told about her affair—which I found out wasn’t even her first one. She has a group of married friends- now mostly divorced that were serial cheaters on AM. Glad to be rid of her
You obviously weren't meeting her needs. You really should take a long, hard look at yourself. Were you controlling? Abusive? She obviously cheated for a reason, and that reason was likely you. You're the problem. Are you going to be man enough to work on yourself?
Anonymous
06/15/2025 17:22
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Anonymous wrote:^resident MRA
Yep, so toxic.
Anonymous
06/15/2025 17:02
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would try to save the marriage. People make mistakes. You owe it to your children to see if it can salvaged.
NP.
Cheating on your marriage is not a "mistake." It's a deliberate move to hurt someone you no longer care about or value. And no, spare me some BS on how people can cheat and still "love" their spouse. Loving someone doesn' involve intentionally hurting them because of your selfish wants.
I love how black and white everyone likes to make out this is. But life is long and difficult and complicated. People get into situations that they don’t intend to. They make bad decisions. They lose their way. They hurt people without meaning to.
A lot of marriages recover from infidelity. Sometimes, perhaps rarely, they even end up stronger.
Calling names and seizing the moral high ground feels good, but OP needs to find the best way forward as a mature adult with responsibilities. Most notably, the kids.
^ The only mature response so far. Everyone else replying to OP is living in some kind of fantasyland about human behavior.
You sound like you think mature people don't divorce over affairs. That minimizes the harm done to the person being cheated on and lied to.
Anonymous
06/15/2025 16:42
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would try to save the marriage. People make mistakes. You owe it to your children to see if it can salvaged.
NP.
Cheating on your marriage is not a "mistake." It's a deliberate move to hurt someone you no longer care about or value. And no, spare me some BS on how people can cheat and still "love" their spouse. Loving someone doesn' involve intentionally hurting them because of your selfish wants.
I love how black and white everyone likes to make out this is. But life is long and difficult and complicated. People get into situations that they don’t intend to. They make bad decisions. They lose their way. They hurt people without meaning to.
A lot of marriages recover from infidelity. Sometimes, perhaps rarely, they even end up stronger.
Calling names and seizing the moral high ground feels good, but OP needs to find the best way forward as a mature adult with responsibilities. Most notably, the kids.
^ The only mature response so far. Everyone else replying to OP is living in some kind of fantasyland about human behavior.
Anonymous
06/15/2025 11:17
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you want to save the marriage?
I don't know. It hurts. I would never be able to forgive her.
I'm so sorry OP. This must be soul crushing.
Staying in the marriage is absolutely an option if you wish, I have seen it work. I would assume once confronted, most wives would quit cheating, but husband cheaters not so much.
Umm. No. Women cheaters can be worse. I know several caught more than once.
Wrong. Women cheaters, when caught, realize that they made terrible mistakes, become better people, and never cheat again. They become the trustworthy people they always were before circumstances got in the way. Men, on the other hand, rarely change.
HaaaaaaHaaaaaa!!!
My ex wife certainly didn’t do that. She was back on the dating apps 1 year after I was told about her affair—which I found out wasn’t even her first one. She has a group of married friends- now mostly divorced that were serial cheaters on AM. Glad to be rid of her
Anonymous
06/15/2025 05:50
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
^resident MRA
Anonymous
06/14/2025 23:37
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you want to save the marriage?
I don't know. It hurts. I would never be able to forgive her.
I'm so sorry OP. This must be soul crushing.
Staying in the marriage is absolutely an option if you wish, I have seen it work. I would assume once confronted, most wives would quit cheating, but husband cheaters not so much.
Umm. No. Women cheaters can be worse. I know several caught more than once.
Wrong. Women cheaters, when caught, realize that they made terrible mistakes, become better people, and never cheat again. They become the trustworthy people they always were before circumstances got in the way. Men, on the other hand, rarely change.
You are so full of shit
Anonymous
06/14/2025 23:34
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Hire a PI & lawyer very quickly before you tell her anything. In Virginia, the PI can get you evidence that is admissible in court. If you have proof of the affair, VA law says she isn’t entitled to alimony. Half of assets earned together and possibly child support - yes.
Anonymous
06/14/2025 22:40
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Ho fo sho.
Anonymous
06/14/2025 22:32
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Hire a private investigator. Get photos, videos, etc.
Anonymous
06/14/2025 22:14
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you want to save the marriage?
I don't know. It hurts. I would never be able to forgive her.
I'm so sorry OP. This must be soul crushing.
Staying in the marriage is absolutely an option if you wish, I have seen it work. I would assume once confronted, most wives would quit cheating, but husband cheaters not so much.
Umm. No. Women cheaters can be worse. I know several caught more than once.
Wrong. Women cheaters, when caught, realize that they made terrible mistakes, become better people, and never cheat again. They become the trustworthy people they always were before circumstances got in the way. Men, on the other hand, rarely change.
Anonymous
06/14/2025 22:07
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Update ?
Anonymous
06/03/2025 15:30
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When the call transfered to the car it probably interrupted what she could hear, I think. Not that she knows you know, but she may be worried.
+1
I've had the same thing happen and the call can only be on one device at a time. So if it connected to your car then it disconnected from her phone...
Op, did you hear your wife talking? What was said that makes you think she was cheating?
Anonymous
06/03/2025 10:55
Subject: Re:Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
^chasing
Anonymous
06/03/2025 10:55
Subject: Caught wife of 18 years cheating.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you want to save the marriage?
I don't know. It hurts. I would never be able to forgive her.
I'm so sorry OP. This must be soul crushing.
Staying in the marriage is absolutely an option if you wish, I have seen it work. I would assume once confronted, most wives would quit cheating, but husband cheaters not so much.
Umm. No. Women cheaters can be worse. I know several caught more than once.
Yeah- they are charging exit affairs. Their APs dump them, they move onto the next. They gaslight their husbands. Go dark a year or so then back on the apps.