Anonymous wrote:On our second date, my husband asked me if I planned on having a big career. I said I wasn't sure, watching the women at work around me working long hours. I was having my doubts if that's what I wanted. He offered me an engagement ring six months later. We've been married for 30 years. I've never had to work unless I wanted to. I worked for some years, and then became a SAHM. Now retired. I manage my stock portfolio online, and do my own thing. I have no regrets. You ladies can work for the man, I'll take care of my man.

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Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

I'm a woman, but who wouldn't want a wife with a pedigree - think a big trust fund, family vacation homes, club memberships, and access to upper-echelon people? She could easily be a self-sustaining SAHM, and you could focus on your car (or leisure). Such a woman is a unicorn and will mate with another unicorn!

Anonymous wrote:Yes, they care and have for decades. Men are most likely to have serious relationships with equal earners or close to it. Long gone are the days where they would just marry anybody.

My ex ex-husband had $100,000 income requirement for a potential wife 20 years ago. I am late 40s now and divorced.

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Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

Are you the same poster who always posts something like this. How “high value men” (gag) care about pedigree?

I’m not that PP but - yes - they do care. “Associative mating” is a thing. People come from the same cities/suburbs, attend one of a few very $$$ private schools or boarding schools, attend the same colleges (their parents and grandparents went there as well!), the same grad schools in the same fields, and eventually marry someone in this exact same circle. The days of the rich big time law partner marrying a pretty but lower social class secretary or waitress are long gone.

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Anonymous wrote:Rich men do not care. Average guys do.

You are so wrong ! I dated rich (20m+ NW) and uber rich (probably a billionaire). It was very important for them that I was a “full package” . The under rich was lovingly calling me a “sl…t of substance”.

You are right. PP was wrong. It is not about rich men vs. poor men. It is about alpha vs. beta men. Many rich men are not the alpha type.

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Anonymous wrote:Rich men do not care. Average guys do.

You are so wrong ! I dated rich (20m+ NW) and uber rich (probably a billionaire). It was very important for them that I was a “full package” . The under rich was lovingly calling me a “sl…t of substance”.

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Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

Are you the same poster who always posts something like this. How “high value men” (gag) care about pedigree?

I’m not that PP but - yes - they do care. “Associative mating” is a thing. People come from the same cities/suburbs, attend one of a few very $$$ private schools or boarding schools, attend the same colleges (their parents and grandparents went there as well!), the same grad schools in the same fields, and eventually marry someone in this exact same circle. The days of the rich big time law partner marrying a pretty but lower social class secretary or waitress are long gone.

Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

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Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

Are you the same poster who always posts something like this. How “high value men” (gag) care about pedigree?

Anonymous wrote:My DH works in IB with a salary + bonus of around 4M/year, and he does not care about how much I make. FWIW, my salary is $0 because I am an artist, and I have not made any money in the past ten years. My DH is a true alpha.