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Anonymous wrote:She picked it because she felt it was the right college for her. I don’t understand justifying it to anyone but her parents who are most likely paying for it.

That’s perfect. She will ditch her small southern town and be living in the sophisticated city why her hs friends never leave that south. It’s ok. It’s her choice. Who cares what they think?

Most NE LACs are not in cities. Most are hamlets with a distinct town and gown divide.

Why would you care about what some dumb MAGA rube in the south thinks OP? Every year, southern states rank in the bottom tier for education.

OP this is a problem you created

You are a snob

Tell your kid they need to know how to express to future employers why they went to a small slac .

It’s not like your kid went to Liberty or some other place of indoctrination and not academic s

You put this idea in your kids head.

Awesome schools and your DD will have so many great opportunities. I still regret turning Bowdoing down for Yale 20 years later, and now I live in a major west coast city next door to a Bowdoin alum. FWIW, he is way more successful than I am! I did get to live in Maine briefly for work as an adult so I got it out of my system, and now I would be so proud if my DD got into any of those 3 schools.

My DH is Canadian and doesn’t really understand NESCAC or SLACs or frankly most state schools. I’ve learned from having that kind of ignorance under my own roof that you can’t look to people’s reactions for validation and have to just live your life. But as PP said, it is a litmus test and a great way to screen out a certain layer of people.

I went to William & Mary, I mainly got why are you going to a Catholic school.

One child went to Grinnell, all he got is Wow you are going to an Ivy. No Grinnell not Cornell. So usually just said a small school in Iowa.

One child went to one of the Maine schools. Doesn't care who has heard of it or not, they know the quality of education they are getting and the doors it has opened.

The only issue was when the Lewistown shootings were going on and the shooter was from Bowdoin. All the family that had learned where child went to school freaked out about child's safety because the all assumed Bowdoin was in Bowdoin not Brunswick. Mine and his phone range off the hook for a few days.

Your daughter will grow in college and stop caring if people have heard of the school she attends/attended.

Anonymous wrote:Listen OP for high school I went to one of the top boarding schools in the country. Everyone on this board would recognize it. My friends and their families in my midwestern hometown all were shocked because I was such a nice girl and good student. In their limited world, the only boarding schools they had heard of were reform schools for delinquent kids.

Exeter?

Listen OP for high school I went to one of the top boarding schools in the country. Everyone on this board would recognize it. My friends and their families in my midwestern hometown all were shocked because I was such a nice girl and good student. In their limited world, the only boarding schools they had heard of were reform schools for delinquent kids.

Not everyone targets SLACs. My DC and friends wanted bigger schools. Therefore they didn’t research SLACs and don’t know much about them. Sorry if that bothers you and you feel slighted that she’s not impressed and knows all about your school. It didn’t make her less influential. It makes you insecure.

I went to a NESCAC school less than two hours away from my home town and the vast majority of people there had never heard of it. Selective small colleges are not on most people’s radar. The school still opened doors for me academically and professionally.

I went to a little liberal arts school nobody has ever heard of. Still got me into Harvard Law. Life is what you make it.

Newsflash - most people could not care less about your college. They only care where they went. You want people to slobber all over themselves about where you and your kids went to college? You need therapy.

Anonymous wrote:Remind yourself that apart from a tiny handful of options, she'd have had to justify her choice anyway. It's the same everywhere.

Nobody has to justify their college choice to anyone. What are you talking about?

Anonymous wrote:The higher the SES, the more likely a person will know of these schools. It's not just about whether a person grew up with money, it's about whether a person was exposed to elite educational circles. Frankly, I would not care about the people who have never heard of these NESCAC schools - they are not going to be the ones who will be influencing her future.

Bless your heart! You haven't gotten out much, I see.

I never heard of JMU until I’d lived in VA for years

The higher the SES, the more likely a person will know of these schools. It's not just about whether a person grew up with money, it's about whether a person was exposed to elite educational circles. Frankly, I would not care about the people who have never heard of these NESCAC schools - they are not going to be the ones who will be influencing her future.