Anonymous wrote:I got about 7-8 texts, and only responded to the mothers — I didn’t initiate.

But, I wonder if it’s because women feel like they don’t get enough appreciation from their family and society that they are then showing support to their awesome friends. I’m not going to complain about women supporting women, and am not sure how that’s performative. But, maybe I look on the bright side.

I texted a few of my good friends who are moms to let them know that I was thinking of them. Each of them has something significant impacting their lives right now, and I was sincerely hoping that they would have a good day, because they deserve and need it.

You all are out of control debating this.

I got about 7-8 texts, and only responded to the mothers — I didn’t initiate.

But, I wonder if it’s because women feel like they don’t get enough appreciation from their family and society that they are then showing support to their awesome friends. I’m not going to complain about women supporting women, and am not sure how that’s performative. But, maybe I look on the bright side.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SNL needs to do a sketch about this as a PSA to the clueless.

While you can send an email at any time of the day or night, you simply cannot call or text someone late at night or first thing in the morning unless it’s an emergency. Period.

Why can't you send a text to someone late at night or first thing in the morning?

Why are you so lazy about your phone settings? Do you not have friends and family that ever travel? Live in different time zones? Don't work a 9-5, or DO work a 9-5, but are busy during the work day?

You might want to rethink when you text since it sounds like you might be annoying your family, friends, coworkers, etc.

ICYMI: it’s really rude (and weird) to randomly text someone at 8am on a weekend. Period.

And doubling down to defend the bizarre behavior while attempting to shift the blame to the recipient for not silencing their phone underscores cluelessness.

DP. Nah, your stance is the weird one. 8:00? What time are you grown-ass adults sleeping in til?

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Anonymous wrote:SNL needs to do a sketch about this as a PSA to the clueless.

While you can send an email at any time of the day or night, you simply cannot call or text someone late at night or first thing in the morning unless it’s an emergency. Period.

Why can't you send a text to someone late at night or first thing in the morning?

Why are you so lazy about your phone settings? Do you not have friends and family that ever travel? Live in different time zones? Don't work a 9-5, or DO work a 9-5, but are busy during the work day?

You might want to rethink when you text since it sounds like you might be annoying your family, friends, coworkers, etc.

ICYMI: it’s really rude (and weird) to randomly text someone at 8am on a weekend. Period.

And doubling down to defend the bizarre behavior while attempting to shift the blame to the recipient for not silencing their phone underscores cluelessness.

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Anonymous wrote:SNL needs to do a sketch about this as a PSA to the clueless.

While you can send an email at any time of the day or night, you simply cannot call or text someone late at night or first thing in the morning unless it’s an emergency. Period.

They will be making fun about the people not knowing how to use DND.

This. You think SNL, a show that comes on late at night, is going to make fun of people who text late at night? No, they're doing to make fun of the narcissistic ding dongs who expect everyone to know their own personal schedule and not text outside of those times.

Your device, your controls. Learn them and use them.

Anonymous wrote:SNL needs to do a sketch about this as a PSA to the clueless.

While you can send an email at any time of the day or night, you simply cannot call or text someone late at night or first thing in the morning unless it’s an emergency. Period.

They will be making fun about the people not knowing how to use DND.

Anonymous wrote:SNL needs to do a sketch about this as a PSA to the clueless.

While you can send an email at any time of the day or night, you simply cannot call or text someone late at night or first thing in the morning unless it’s an emergency. Period.

Why can't you send a text to someone late at night or first thing in the morning?

Why are you so lazy about your phone settings? Do you not have friends and family that ever travel? Live in different time zones? Don't work a 9-5, or DO work a 9-5, but are busy during the work day?

Anonymous wrote:SNL needs to do a sketch about this as a PSA to the clueless.

While you can send an email at any time of the day or night, you simply cannot call or text someone late at night or first thing in the morning unless it’s an emergency. Period.

No no no. Learn to use DND!!!

I set my phone on DND at night and only calls and texts from numbers that I choose come through (DH and DCs). Yes, there is a chance that someone else might call or text with and emergency, but I am ok with the risk that I will sleep through it given that other random stuff might wake me up.

Also I have an Apple Watch so during the day my alerts buzz on my arm and my phone hasn’t made a noise in years. If your phone is dinging loudly for texts you are annoying everyone all day long, and waking up to a text could be karma. Just sayin.

Anonymous wrote:SNL needs to do a sketch about this as a PSA to the clueless.

While you can send an email at any time of the day or night, you simply cannot call or text someone late at night or first thing in the morning unless it’s an emergency. Period.

Thank you! You are reasonable!

I agree! I apologize to my mom friends on the West Coast. I sent a text at a normal time but you may have received it at a not so normal time. So sorry!

SNL needs to do a sketch about this as a PSA to the clueless.

While you can send an email at any time of the day or night, you simply cannot call or text someone late at night or first thing in the morning unless it’s an emergency. Period.

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Anonymous wrote:I go to sleep at 7:30-8pm, and wake up at 4am.

I used to pause and think if I shouldn't respond to my missed-evening texts when I woke up at 4am. Then I thought, if you're too stupid or lazy to set up specific alerts on your phone, then you deserve to be woken up.

If you have a cellphone, YOU ALONE are responsible for it. Not everyone else. Set your own damn alerts/silencing.

You sound crazy. People are not responsible for the texts they send? Only the recipient is responsible? Delulu land.

You are responsible for how you handle your phone. My DND allows my favorites to always get through. I can make anyone my favorite or remove anyone at anytime.

Haven't read all these but... I am so grateful for the texts I got from the mothers and no mothers in my life today. Every single one of them is part of the community (village if you prefer) that I'm parenting in, and I welcome any chance to strengthen that bond.

To OP and every other mother on this thread - Happy Mother's Day (I'll refrain from the bouquet emoji haha)

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Anonymous wrote:I go to sleep at 7:30-8pm, and wake up at 4am.

I used to pause and think if I shouldn't respond to my missed-evening texts when I woke up at 4am. Then I thought, if you're too stupid or lazy to set up specific alerts on your phone, then you deserve to be woken up.

If you have a cellphone, YOU ALONE are responsible for it. Not everyone else. Set your own damn alerts/silencing.

You sound crazy. People are not responsible for the texts they send? Only the recipient is responsible? Delulu land.

People aren't responsible for how you feel about the time of day texts are sent. Of course the recipient is responsible for their own alerts. You think everyone should remember your personal schedule? Now that's extreme delulu.