Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 21:07     Subject: What do you think of destination weddings?
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Anonymous wrote:Because I'm not going to ask my young adult kids to pay their own way to attend their cousin's wedding in the Caribbean, the event will cost me $5,000 to $7,000. That's for two or three hotel rooms for four nights and plane fare. It doesn't even count the wedding gift. Fortunately, we can afford this at the moment, but I hate that we're going to shell out that kind of money to go somewhere I wouldn't choose to go on my own. It's close family, though, so we would never want to miss it.


Many many weddings take place where you would never necessarily want to go on your own. That it’s a destination wedding makes no difference.


Sure, we've attended weddings in places we wouldn't want to go, but they don't generally cost us thousands of dollars.


+1
I find destination weddings really selfish. I am not a fan.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 18:55     Subject: What do you think of destination weddings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because I'm not going to ask my young adult kids to pay their own way to attend their cousin's wedding in the Caribbean, the event will cost me $5,000 to $7,000. That's for two or three hotel rooms for four nights and plane fare. It doesn't even count the wedding gift. Fortunately, we can afford this at the moment, but I hate that we're going to shell out that kind of money to go somewhere I wouldn't choose to go on my own. It's close family, though, so we would never want to miss it.


Many many weddings take place where you would never necessarily want to go on your own. That it’s a destination wedding makes no difference.


Sure, we've attended weddings in places we wouldn't want to go, but they don't generally cost us thousands of dollars.


Airfares are weird. Cost me more to visit family in Seattle than to go to Europe. But some small Caribbean island might be more than either.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 15:15     Subject: What do you think of destination weddings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because I'm not going to ask my young adult kids to pay their own way to attend their cousin's wedding in the Caribbean, the event will cost me $5,000 to $7,000. That's for two or three hotel rooms for four nights and plane fare. It doesn't even count the wedding gift. Fortunately, we can afford this at the moment, but I hate that we're going to shell out that kind of money to go somewhere I wouldn't choose to go on my own. It's close family, though, so we would never want to miss it.


Many many weddings take place where you would never necessarily want to go on your own. That it’s a destination wedding makes no difference.


Sure, we've attended weddings in places we wouldn't want to go, but they don't generally cost us thousands of dollars.


So don’t go then. Problem solved.


DP, but skipping the wedding of a niece or nephew is unlikely to go well. I mean, if you are a close family, skipping a wedding like that isn't a viable option. You want to be there and would probably feel bad/uncomfortable/guilty if you didn't go. I personally find the whole "just skip the wedding/no one cares if you don't attend" odd. Do so many people hate their families that they honestly don't care if their aunts, uncles, cousins, or other family members don't attend?

Dp.. I had a destination wedding, and many of my friends and some nieces/nephews couldn't come. Why on earth would I take offense to that? I knew it would be hard for some people but sorry, this is my wedding. If you cannot come, I totally understand.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 15:12     Subject: What do you think of destination weddings?
We had a destination wedding because we have family and friends on different continents. So, we made everyone who could do so travel. Yes, that meant some people missed our wedding.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 15:08     Subject: What do you think of destination weddings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because I'm not going to ask my young adult kids to pay their own way to attend their cousin's wedding in the Caribbean, the event will cost me $5,000 to $7,000. That's for two or three hotel rooms for four nights and plane fare. It doesn't even count the wedding gift. Fortunately, we can afford this at the moment, but I hate that we're going to shell out that kind of money to go somewhere I wouldn't choose to go on my own. It's close family, though, so we would never want to miss it.


Many many weddings take place where you would never necessarily want to go on your own. That it’s a destination wedding makes no difference.


Sure, we've attended weddings in places we wouldn't want to go, but they don't generally cost us thousands of dollars.


So don’t go then. Problem solved.


DP, but skipping the wedding of a niece or nephew is unlikely to go well. I mean, if you are a close family, skipping a wedding like that isn't a viable option. You want to be there and would probably feel bad/uncomfortable/guilty if you didn't go. I personally find the whole "just skip the wedding/no one cares if you don't attend" odd. Do so many people hate their families that they honestly don't care if their aunts, uncles, cousins, or other family members don't attend?


Exactly. This is our beloved nephew. We really don't have a choice.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 14:47     Subject: What do you think of destination weddings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because I'm not going to ask my young adult kids to pay their own way to attend their cousin's wedding in the Caribbean, the event will cost me $5,000 to $7,000. That's for two or three hotel rooms for four nights and plane fare. It doesn't even count the wedding gift. Fortunately, we can afford this at the moment, but I hate that we're going to shell out that kind of money to go somewhere I wouldn't choose to go on my own. It's close family, though, so we would never want to miss it.


Many many weddings take place where you would never necessarily want to go on your own. That it’s a destination wedding makes no difference.


Sure, we've attended weddings in places we wouldn't want to go, but they don't generally cost us thousands of dollars.


So don’t go then. Problem solved.


DP, but skipping the wedding of a niece or nephew is unlikely to go well. I mean, if you are a close family, skipping a wedding like that isn't a viable option. You want to be there and would probably feel bad/uncomfortable/guilty if you didn't go. I personally find the whole "just skip the wedding/no one cares if you don't attend" odd. Do so many people hate their families that they honestly don't care if their aunts, uncles, cousins, or other family members don't attend?
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 14:31     Subject: What do you think of destination weddings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because I'm not going to ask my young adult kids to pay their own way to attend their cousin's wedding in the Caribbean, the event will cost me $5,000 to $7,000. That's for two or three hotel rooms for four nights and plane fare. It doesn't even count the wedding gift. Fortunately, we can afford this at the moment, but I hate that we're going to shell out that kind of money to go somewhere I wouldn't choose to go on my own. It's close family, though, so we would never want to miss it.


Many many weddings take place where you would never necessarily want to go on your own. That it’s a destination wedding makes no difference.


Sure, we've attended weddings in places we wouldn't want to go, but they don't generally cost us thousands of dollars.


So don’t go then. Problem solved.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 14:29     Subject: What do you think of destination weddings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because I'm not going to ask my young adult kids to pay their own way to attend their cousin's wedding in the Caribbean, the event will cost me $5,000 to $7,000. That's for two or three hotel rooms for four nights and plane fare. It doesn't even count the wedding gift. Fortunately, we can afford this at the moment, but I hate that we're going to shell out that kind of money to go somewhere I wouldn't choose to go on my own. It's close family, though, so we would never want to miss it.


Many many weddings take place where you would never necessarily want to go on your own. That it’s a destination wedding makes no difference.


Sure, we've attended weddings in places we wouldn't want to go, but they don't generally cost us thousands of dollars.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 14:01     Subject: What do you think of destination weddings?
I like them. They're at least usually in a cool place. I'd much rather travel to the Yucutan than spme random hometown in nowheresville Ohio.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 13:49     Subject: Re:What do you think of destination weddings?
Destination weddings are the best. I feel zero obligation to attend because it is very clear that the guests are not the important part of the wedding. So, I usually skip these weddings.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 13:36     Subject: What do you think of destination weddings?
Anonymous wrote:Because I'm not going to ask my young adult kids to pay their own way to attend their cousin's wedding in the Caribbean, the event will cost me $5,000 to $7,000. That's for two or three hotel rooms for four nights and plane fare. It doesn't even count the wedding gift. Fortunately, we can afford this at the moment, but I hate that we're going to shell out that kind of money to go somewhere I wouldn't choose to go on my own. It's close family, though, so we would never want to miss it.


Many many weddings take place where you would never necessarily want to go on your own. That it’s a destination wedding makes no difference.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2025 13:30     Subject: What do you think of destination weddings?
Because I'm not going to ask my young adult kids to pay their own way to attend their cousin's wedding in the Caribbean, the event will cost me $5,000 to $7,000. That's for two or three hotel rooms for four nights and plane fare. It doesn't even count the wedding gift. Fortunately, we can afford this at the moment, but I hate that we're going to shell out that kind of money to go somewhere I wouldn't choose to go on my own. It's close family, though, so we would never want to miss it.