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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

Very few people are trigger happy – at least not in this thread. Suggestions to talk to a lawyer to find out the various paths ahead is smart. One person suggested filing first. One. So maybe take your BS elsewhere and stop giving crap advice and lecturing people who have been badly hurt by someone they trusted.

Situations like OPs are not typical. When someone gets blindsided, their spouse has already formulated an exit plan and checked out long ago. This is not a situation where there has been a two way discussion that resulted in a separation. This is an FYI on the way out the door.

Recommending that someone "work on their personality" in hopes of winning back someone who has clearly spelled out that they no longer want to be there is not better than divorce. Sorrynotsorry, you insufferable POS.

Or it's just a threat because he doesn't know how else to fix a problem in the marriage. Has he actually moved out? Not arguing that OP should win him back or change herself, but trying to get to the bottom of the issue. OP should treat it, at minimum, as a serious warning and take protective measures around finances and other logistics.

She says he’s likely having an affair, so the reason for his departure is logical. It doesn’t seem a big mystery to OP.

Just because she says/thinks doesn’t make it true. There’s no proof

Yet. There's no proof yet.

What proof does she need of anything other than he literally told her he wants a divorce?

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

Very few people are trigger happy – at least not in this thread. Suggestions to talk to a lawyer to find out the various paths ahead is smart. One person suggested filing first. One. So maybe take your BS elsewhere and stop giving crap advice and lecturing people who have been badly hurt by someone they trusted.

Situations like OPs are not typical. When someone gets blindsided, their spouse has already formulated an exit plan and checked out long ago. This is not a situation where there has been a two way discussion that resulted in a separation. This is an FYI on the way out the door.

Recommending that someone "work on their personality" in hopes of winning back someone who has clearly spelled out that they no longer want to be there is not better than divorce. Sorrynotsorry, you insufferable POS.

Or it's just a threat because he doesn't know how else to fix a problem in the marriage. Has he actually moved out? Not arguing that OP should win him back or change herself, but trying to get to the bottom of the issue. OP should treat it, at minimum, as a serious warning and take protective measures around finances and other logistics.

She says he’s likely having an affair, so the reason for his departure is logical. It doesn’t seem a big mystery to OP.

Just because she says/thinks doesn’t make it true. There’s no proof

Yet. There's no proof yet.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

HOW DO YOU STAY MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO INITIATES DIVORCE???????

You can’t! Need both sides to think outside the box to make it work. Separation is better than divorce, specially when kids are involved.

Both parties have to agree to that though. When one person in the marriage wants out, they are both out. I don't know why so many people seem to think that you can just say no and stay married.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

HOW DO YOU STAY MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO INITIATES DIVORCE???????

Yeah, I don’t know if it’s one dim bulb who doesn’t get this or multiple people actually think you can stay married to someone who’s already left the building.

If he left the building due to op’s terrible personality, she can stay married by improving her personality

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

Very few people are trigger happy – at least not in this thread. Suggestions to talk to a lawyer to find out the various paths ahead is smart. One person suggested filing first. One. So maybe take your BS elsewhere and stop giving crap advice and lecturing people who have been badly hurt by someone they trusted.

Situations like OPs are not typical. When someone gets blindsided, their spouse has already formulated an exit plan and checked out long ago. This is not a situation where there has been a two way discussion that resulted in a separation. This is an FYI on the way out the door.

Recommending that someone "work on their personality" in hopes of winning back someone who has clearly spelled out that they no longer want to be there is not better than divorce. Sorrynotsorry, you insufferable POS.

Or it's just a threat because he doesn't know how else to fix a problem in the marriage. Has he actually moved out? Not arguing that OP should win him back or change herself, but trying to get to the bottom of the issue. OP should treat it, at minimum, as a serious warning and take protective measures around finances and other logistics.

She says he’s likely having an affair, so the reason for his departure is logical. It doesn’t seem a big mystery to OP.

Just because she says/thinks doesn’t make it true. There’s no proof

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

HOW DO YOU STAY MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO INITIATES DIVORCE???????

You can’t! Need both sides to think outside the box to make it work. Separation is better than divorce, specially when kids are involved.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

Very few people are trigger happy – at least not in this thread. Suggestions to talk to a lawyer to find out the various paths ahead is smart. One person suggested filing first. One. So maybe take your BS elsewhere and stop giving crap advice and lecturing people who have been badly hurt by someone they trusted.

Situations like OPs are not typical. When someone gets blindsided, their spouse has already formulated an exit plan and checked out long ago. This is not a situation where there has been a two way discussion that resulted in a separation. This is an FYI on the way out the door.

Recommending that someone "work on their personality" in hopes of winning back someone who has clearly spelled out that they no longer want to be there is not better than divorce. Sorrynotsorry, you insufferable POS.

Or it's just a threat because he doesn't know how else to fix a problem in the marriage. Has he actually moved out? Not arguing that OP should win him back or change herself, but trying to get to the bottom of the issue. OP should treat it, at minimum, as a serious warning and take protective measures around finances and other logistics.

She says he’s likely having an affair, so the reason for his departure is logical. It doesn’t seem a big mystery to OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

Very few people are trigger happy – at least not in this thread. Suggestions to talk to a lawyer to find out the various paths ahead is smart. One person suggested filing first. One. So maybe take your BS elsewhere and stop giving crap advice and lecturing people who have been badly hurt by someone they trusted.

Situations like OPs are not typical. When someone gets blindsided, their spouse has already formulated an exit plan and checked out long ago. This is not a situation where there has been a two way discussion that resulted in a separation. This is an FYI on the way out the door.

Recommending that someone "work on their personality" in hopes of winning back someone who has clearly spelled out that they no longer want to be there is not better than divorce. Sorrynotsorry, you insufferable POS.

Or it's just a threat because he doesn't know how else to fix a problem in the marriage. Has he actually moved out? Not arguing that OP should win him back or change herself, but trying to get to the bottom of the issue. OP should treat it, at minimum, as a serious warning and take protective measures around finances and other logistics.

You should try arguing with him to change his mind

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

Very few people are trigger happy – at least not in this thread. Suggestions to talk to a lawyer to find out the various paths ahead is smart. One person suggested filing first. One. So maybe take your BS elsewhere and stop giving crap advice and lecturing people who have been badly hurt by someone they trusted.

Situations like OPs are not typical. When someone gets blindsided, their spouse has already formulated an exit plan and checked out long ago. This is not a situation where there has been a two way discussion that resulted in a separation. This is an FYI on the way out the door.

Recommending that someone "work on their personality" in hopes of winning back someone who has clearly spelled out that they no longer want to be there is not better than divorce. Sorrynotsorry, you insufferable POS.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

HOW DO YOU STAY MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO INITIATES DIVORCE???????

Yeah, I don’t know if it’s one dim bulb who doesn’t get this or multiple people actually think you can stay married to someone who’s already left the building.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

HOW DO YOU STAY MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO INITIATES DIVORCE???????

apparently by working on your personality, not taking your share of the assets, and making yourself available for s*x on his whim.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

HOW DO YOU STAY MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO INITIATES DIVORCE???????

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

What are you afraid of? When someone tells you they don't love you anymore, that's all you need to know. Good grief. You seem really damaged and afraid. My divorce made me fearless. You can't put a price on that. It's better for the kids not to live in a house with parents who don't love or respect each other.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.