Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think perhaps OP’s reaction to this is more traumatic for her daughter than what the bit did. I’m not trying to minimize this at all. Inappropriate touching is not ok. But if you go scorched earth over something relatively minor like this you aren’t helping your child process, you are further traumatizing them.
She is very sensitive so it not about holding grudges she just can't get over it. I just want to do everything I can to help.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What will the report do for your DD? If it's that important, why don't you write the report yourself and then give it to her as a way to heal? My point is that her healing will come from within, not through a report.
She can't see him free and get away with it just because of his age and the severity. If he was an adult, he probably would of gotten legal consequences already. The fact that something considered SA is left alone without being reported won't help her heal ever.
OP: Is the earlier characterization in this thread that he lightly touched her thigh accurate? Because, if so, I think you should focus on the mental health issues/environment that are making your daughter have this large of a reaction to a pretty innocuous, reasonably characterized as annoying incident. If she is really having PTSD over this, there are either underlying mental health issues or the PTSD is related to the level of attention/how everything has played out and not the incident itself. No HSer should be having PTSD because someone lightly touched their thigh once.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What will the report do for your DD? If it's that important, why don't you write the report yourself and then give it to her as a way to heal? My point is that her healing will come from within, not through a report.
She can't see him free and get away with it just because of his age and the severity. If he was an adult, he probably would of gotten legal consequences already. The fact that something considered SA is left alone without being reported won't help her heal ever.
OP: Is the earlier characterization in this thread that he lightly touched her thigh accurate? Because, if so, I think you should focus on the mental health issues/environment that are making your daughter have this large of a reaction to a pretty innocuous, reasonably characterized as annoying incident. If she is really having PTSD over this, there are either underlying mental health issues or the PTSD is related to the level of attention/how everything has played out and not the incident itself. No HSer should be having PTSD because someone lightly touched their thigh once.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What will the report do for your DD? If it's that important, why don't you write the report yourself and then give it to her as a way to heal? My point is that her healing will come from within, not through a report.
She can't see him free and get away with it just because of his age and the severity. If he was an adult, he probably would of gotten legal consequences already. The fact that something considered SA is left alone without being reported won't help her heal ever.
Anonymous wrote:What will the report do for your DD? If it's that important, why don't you write the report yourself and then give it to her as a way to heal? My point is that her healing will come from within, not through a report.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So if she is holding grudges and say nothing comes out of you pursuing legal actions then who is going to hold the grudges against? The cops? The school system? The society in general? You and your daughter both need some therapy.
No, people have said nothing will come out of it not my DD. It would make her feel better to have a report filed, even if nothing came out of it . She has a hard time forgiving, and doing any time of restorative justice let alone being anywhere near him would be too traumatizing.
I say this as a victim og sexual assault, you and your daughter need to get some perspective about this.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So if she is holding grudges and say nothing comes out of you pursuing legal actions then who is going to hold the grudges against? The cops? The school system? The society in general? You and your daughter both need some therapy.
No, people have said nothing will come out of it not my DD. It would make her feel better to have a report filed, even if nothing came out of it . She has a hard time forgiving, and doing any time of restorative justice let alone being anywhere near him would be too traumatizing.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So if she is holding grudges and say nothing comes out of you pursuing legal actions then who is going to hold the grudges against? The cops? The school system? The society in general? You and your daughter both need some therapy.
No, people have said nothing will come out of it not my DD. It would make her feel better to have a report filed, even if nothing came out of it . She has a hard time forgiving, and doing any time of restorative justice let alone being anywhere near him would be too traumatizing.
Anonymous wrote:So if she is holding grudges and say nothing comes out of you pursuing legal actions then who is going to hold the grudges against? The cops? The school system? The society in general? You and your daughter both need some therapy.
Anonymous wrote:Why not see if the school could arrange a restorative justice session, OP?
I believe that could be the most therapeutic and uplifting pathway forward for everyone.
Anonymous wrote:So this is about grudges, not something that the boy did or even your daughter experienced. You and your daughter both sound deranged. This I write as a parent of a daughter.