Anonymous
04/14/2026 11:14
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
We are so addicted as a nation, that during Covid, when everything was closed except essential services, liquor stores were allowed to remain open. What does that tell you?
Anonymous
04/14/2026 10:45
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
I’m so sorry, OP.
Anonymous
04/14/2026 10:41
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
Anonymous wrote:When are we going to realize as a society that alcohol is addictive and a toxin? I understand that liquor libby is wealthier and stronger than tobacco lobby but now that science has a strong case, can't physicians, mothers and wives stand against them? So many families suffer the consequences and so does our healthcare system with unnecessary cost and burden.
We tried that before with Prohibition. The lesson we learnt as a society was that it doesn’t work.
Anonymous
04/14/2026 10:34
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
What can be done to raise more awareness to decrease risk and provide support to people who want to quit? What families can do to make their environment alcohol free if there are alcoholics in denial exist in a family?
Anonymous
04/14/2026 10:31
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
Lobby
Anonymous
04/14/2026 10:31
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
When are we going to realize as a society that alcohol is addictive and a toxin? I understand that liquor libby is wealthier and stronger than tobacco lobby but now that science has a strong case, can't physicians, mothers and wives stand against them? So many families suffer the consequences and so does our healthcare system with unnecessary cost and burden.
Anonymous
04/14/2026 10:24
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
Sorry for my naive question but don’t you smell the alcohol on their breath? How can you live with someone and not know? I don’t understand.
Anonymous
04/14/2026 10:13
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
OP, I'm sorry for your loss.
My brother also passed at age 50 from alcoholism.
Dad passed at age 84 from alcoholism.
I found AlAnon helpful for me.
My brother also passed at age 50 from alcoholism.
Dad passed at age 84 from alcoholism.
I found AlAnon helpful for me.
caleb377
04/14/2026 09:59
Subject: Re:My husband died from alcoholism
You start to feel like a ghost in your own home when you’re constantly waiting for the next explosion or another lie to hit.
I spent years mourning a man who was sitting right across from me at the dinner table while our family just slowly crumbled.
Our breakthrough only happened after I stopped trying to "fix" him myself and we saw Dr. Ash Bhatt for the psychiatric side of his addiction. It finally gave us a path that wasn't just built on empty promises and heartbreak.
Pack a bag for yourself tonight even if you don't use it, just knowing you have a way out helps you breathe.
I spent years mourning a man who was sitting right across from me at the dinner table while our family just slowly crumbled.
Our breakthrough only happened after I stopped trying to "fix" him myself and we saw Dr. Ash Bhatt for the psychiatric side of his addiction. It finally gave us a path that wasn't just built on empty promises and heartbreak.
Pack a bag for yourself tonight even if you don't use it, just knowing you have a way out helps you breathe.
Anonymous
02/11/2025 19:11
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
I'm so sorry, OP.
This is uncanny timing. My brother has been an alcoholic for 25 years (probably self medicating a mental illness). He's 47. Just this week, he started an intense decline, and is bedridden with many symptoms of late-stage cirrhosis, like swollen legs and distended abdomen, and he is refusing food, water, and medical treatment. It's horrifying. It feels like a long, slow motion suicide.
I saw your post earlier, before this happened, and thought about him. And now, it happens. It did feel inevitable.
This is uncanny timing. My brother has been an alcoholic for 25 years (probably self medicating a mental illness). He's 47. Just this week, he started an intense decline, and is bedridden with many symptoms of late-stage cirrhosis, like swollen legs and distended abdomen, and he is refusing food, water, and medical treatment. It's horrifying. It feels like a long, slow motion suicide.
I saw your post earlier, before this happened, and thought about him. And now, it happens. It did feel inevitable.
Anonymous
02/10/2025 16:30
Subject: Re:My husband died from alcoholism
Anonymous wrote:I am so so sorry OP. My thoughts with you and your children
My friend's son died of alcoholism at 36. It was shocking.
One thing that is worrying doctors is how many young people are developing cirrhosis--some after just a few years of hard drinking . No one clear answer yet as to why, but the old model of alcoholics only dying from the disease after 30 years of a bottle of vodka a day is a myth. Lots of young people getting cirrhosis and dying as well. The below article mentions a bottle of wine a day or binge drinkers even if its 1x/week.
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2021/03/16/973684753/sharp-off-the-charts-rise-in-alcoholic-liver-disease-among-young-women
People are dying of non alcoholic related cirrhosis more now. It's been on the uptick for young people. One of my cousins just died of it.
Anonymous
02/10/2025 10:00
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op: nobody has mentioned widowhood without alcoholism. I was widowed and I think, regardless of the alcohol alcoholism quotient you need to think about that part. If you go to counseling right now you’re dealing with the immediate after effects of this situation. Please don’t be surprised if you need to revisit going to therapy after a break that’s a year from now or 18 months or two years. I want to also thank you for starting this thread. I’ve been trying to quit since 2019 and I can’t do it.
You absolutely can quit, PP. You are not the exception to recovery. ODAAT
+100
You can do it pp.
Anonymous
02/09/2025 00:25
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
This was my dad. Same age. I was 14, and my 16 yr old brother found him on the kitchen floor. My parents had divorced when I was 3, so it was less of a loss for me since I didn’t see him often, but my brothers lived with him. Unlike you, we all knew he drank a fifth of whisky every night and it was when, not if.
I’m so sorry for your loss and especially for your kids.
I’m so sorry for your loss and especially for your kids.
Anonymous
02/08/2025 20:31
Subject: Re:My husband died from alcoholism
I am so so sorry OP. My thoughts with you and your children
My friend's son died of alcoholism at 36. It was shocking.
One thing that is worrying doctors is how many young people are developing cirrhosis--some after just a few years of hard drinking . No one clear answer yet as to why, but the old model of alcoholics only dying from the disease after 30 years of a bottle of vodka a day is a myth. Lots of young people getting cirrhosis and dying as well. The below article mentions a bottle of wine a day or binge drinkers even if its 1x/week.
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2021/03/16/973684753/sharp-off-the-charts-rise-in-alcoholic-liver-disease-among-young-women
My friend's son died of alcoholism at 36. It was shocking.
One thing that is worrying doctors is how many young people are developing cirrhosis--some after just a few years of hard drinking . No one clear answer yet as to why, but the old model of alcoholics only dying from the disease after 30 years of a bottle of vodka a day is a myth. Lots of young people getting cirrhosis and dying as well. The below article mentions a bottle of wine a day or binge drinkers even if its 1x/week.
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2021/03/16/973684753/sharp-off-the-charts-rise-in-alcoholic-liver-disease-among-young-women
Anonymous
02/08/2025 17:36
Subject: My husband died from alcoholism
Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry, OP. Thank you for sharing your story. It is helpful to me, and reminds me I have so much to lose.
I am a recovering alcoholic, and as a woman was drinking 2-3 bottles of wine a day for years. I could easily be your husband and it reminds me to continue to prioritize my sobriety. Any amount of drinking is not safe for me, because it’s never just one. One turns into two turns into five and more, despite my intentions.
I am sorry your DH did not get out of alcohol’s clutches, and I will not drink with you today. Hugs and do seek out support groups. Your kids might also need them…there are some for ACOAs (adult children of alcoholics) even if they are grown.
What attracted you to alcohol initially and what did you like about it?
No judgment at all, only curiosity. My birth father is/was an alcoholic and has lost relationships and a career behind it. Would love to ask him, but the subject is too sensitive for him and would just bring more shame, which is not my intention.