Oh, and has a sense of humor! I'm not saying there aren't great men who are serious-minded, but his sense of humor makes such a difference to me. Both the hilarious jokes and the humility about life problems.

My husband is a good guy, with some pain and baggage from a dysfunctional family. The baggage made things hard, but the traits I noticed early on meant that he was willing and, eventually, able to resolve these issues.

When we talked about our pasts, he was invariably respectful towards his past girlfriends. I got a clear picture of their intelligence and character, not superficial qualities. Even with actors, etc., he notices looks but responds to character. I was considered very pretty and got a lot of superficial male attention, so it meant a lot to me that he wouldn't pursue me for that reason alone. I'm not worried about growing older with this guy, either.

He was tender with me when I was sick, and was sensitive and thoughtful when some humiliating medical problems developed early in the relationship. He was also amazing with my grandma when I needed his help with her personal care. This was only about three months in and it was just very clear to me that a man who could handle that with such respect and kindness was marriage material.

His mother is horrible. She's just really a disturbed mess, and a lot of people would cut her off. He has boundaries with her, but treats her with respect and kindness. Same with the rest of his train wreck family. He hasn't abandoned them, but he's not caught up in their drama, either.

Was great with my younger siblings, gets along well with them now that they're grown. Has the respect of my parents.

Tips well. Treats his employees like family. Encourages and supports people even when it means he'll lose a great employee.

Nice to my friends, even the ones he doesn't particularly like. And he's always been right about them.

Fixes, cleans up, lifts heavy things without complaint, but has always encouraged me to develop more competence. Raises our child without gender constraints and is an unusually engaged dad.

Is a one-woman man. Is dedicated to me and his family and could not care less if some idiot thinks he's whipped. He's a big, manly guy, and I love the stereotype-busting.

Is never selfish in bed. Ever. Which makes me want to please him even more.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you have to have sex before you marry. If you are not sexually compatible, your marriage is more likely to fail.

If you constantly disregard what the Bible says, your soul is more than likely going to end up in hell.



Besides, if people wouldn't sleep around, they really wouldn't have anything else to compare it to, now would they?

And that right there, people, is why the female orgasm was so elusive for so long.

My husband is a really, really great guy, and we fucked on the second date. Twenty-two years ago.

Anonymous wrote:Would you wAnt your daughter to marry someone just like him?

This. Seriously, this is the bar I set for myself now that I'm single.

if he says he's a "good guy", then most likely, he's not

Would you wAnt your daughter to marry someone just like him?

One who sincerely apologizes when necessary.

Anonymous wrote:I am a great guy, married, raised 4 boys, 2 adopted, one mother in law who was no picnic in house, work, do chores, but am looking for the door because she is one of those millions of women who are on perkaset, oxi, or other heroin style drugs doctors are so happy to prescribe. And a tv freak to boot. whole lot of junkie women out there today. drugs and alcohol are deal breakers.

What kind of woman are you looking for?

Genuinely likes and enjoys children and animals (dogs at least).

Was reminded yesterday of what a good guy is like when I vomited in DHs car while he was driving me home to take care of me with flu. He comforted me through the vomiting spell and later quietly cleaned the car. Stayed home with me for three hours then went back to work and called twice more to check on me before leaving work very early to come home for the night.

We've been together for a quarter century now.

The "in sickness and in health" part matters.

If you are dating someone, notice how they respond when you are sick and need them the most. That's when you know you have a good guy.

He demonstrates tenderness daily and our kids also treat me or each other with tenderness when someone is sick.

That's "disheveled"

Knew it when he came home from work one day a bit disheed and told me how he'd held a homeless man's head in his lap until the ambulance arrived after the man was struck by a car. Ding ding ding - Good guy!

There are no guarantees, "the only constant thing in this world is change". But, he truly love you, that will not change.

I am a great guy, married, raised 4 boys, 2 adopted, one mother in law who was no picnic in house, work, do chores, but am looking for the door because she is one of those millions of women who are on perkaset, oxi, or other heroin style drugs doctors are so happy to prescribe. And a tv freak to boot. whole lot of junkie women out there today. drugs and alcohol are deal breakers.

Oops, just saw this is an old thread - that's an awesome update OP! Congratulations!

Oh well, maybe this was resurrected for a reason and someone else will read it - hate to think I typed all that with 2 fingers for nothing LOL!

Congrats OP, sounds like you got a great one!