Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What advice would you give your daughter regarding how to pick a man that would be a good husband and father? What advice would you give about maintaining a marriage? I need your collective wisdom!
Pay attention to how he treats people when he thinks no one’s watching, how he treats waitstaff, etc. Find someone who makes you laugh, and that you can “just be” with. Don’t marry a guy who won’t be the passenger in a car driven by his wife, or any other LDE stuff like that.
Advice for maintaining a marriage: admit when you’re wrong, and apologize. Forgive the little things, you’re both humans just trying your best. Have lots of sex.
Anonymous wrote:What advice would you give your daughter regarding how to pick a man that would be a good husband and father? What advice would you give about maintaining a marriage? I need your collective wisdom!
Anonymous wrote:Marry someone like your father and grandfathers.
For better or worse, most women marry men just like their fathers. And if they didn't, they had to try really hard not to.
I disagree with the person upthread, if you're having trouble dating, your standards are not too high. It's more likely that you need to work on yourself. Becoming the best you that you can be, loving yourself, having hobbies and educating yourself.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The reality is you are signing a lifelong legal contract with someone and you need to evaluate them separate from the love and more as a business partner who you are legally bound to.
Get a pre-nup. If you can’t have difficult talks about finances, domestic work, and expectations, it’s not the person to marry.
You can always come home and mom will take care of you. I don’t care how old, with how many kids, or how badly you messed up, my door is always open and I will help fix it.
If you are coming in to a marriage with no assets and he has them, isn’t a prenup not in your favor?
Anonymous wrote:Marry someone like your father and grandfathers.
For better or worse, most women marry men just like their fathers. And if they didn't, they had to try really hard not to.
I disagree with the person upthread, if you're having trouble dating, your standards are not too high. It's more likely that you need to work on yourself. Becoming the best you that you can be, loving yourself, having hobbies and educating yourself.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:To be fair, its true that women accept SAHD as they want to focus on their career advancement but as soon as they are in a slightly better position, they dislike that, become controlling and use it to justify affairs and divorce.
All the SAHDs I know could not swing it in the workplace because of ADHD or other mental disorders. I would rather my daughter be single honestly.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:To be honest, most women with unrealistically high expectations, are better off staying single than being disappointed and disappointing. Not worth it.
Their expectations are not unreasonable. It’s the low quality of their dating pool that is.
BY DEFINITION, if these women are having an extremely difficult time finding what they want in the dating market, then their expectations are unreasonable.
If I go around offering 50% of the list price on those houses that appeals to me, I’m going to find it very difficult to end up closing a deal to buy a home. This would mean my approach has been unreasonable. I hope this analogy clears things up for you.
Anonymous wrote:1. You can’t have 100% of what you want or need 100% of the time. Pick what’s really important to you and think about how you are going to deal with the rest.
2. A man is not a plan.
3. Your relationship with your husband is its own living thing and if you want it to bear fruit, it should be nourished and developed independently of what else is going on in your life. If you want to always have a partner, you always have to be one.
Anonymous wrote:What advice would you give your daughter regarding how to pick a man that would be a good husband and father? What advice would you give about maintaining a marriage? I need your collective wisdom!