Anonymous wrote:We’re UMC, but we buy a lot of things used. The kids know we buy some Christmas presents from yard sales, but that’s only for gifts to family. For example, one of my presents was a book I’d picked up from the library sale. It was in great shape. It cost $4. I’m excited to read it. I have a whole room of furniture that I don’t care for, but the sellers left it for free. I’ll never replace it, though we could afford to, because our kids need to see us saving money, even on items that are importantly to us.
We’re also talking about saving/investing/financial stewardship in an organic matter. We’re trying to encourage a good work ethic. We go to a Boy Scout troop in a MC part of town, so our kids have friends beyond our posh neighborhood.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.
That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.
So what does preparing her for real life look like?
There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?
Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.
I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.
Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.
Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.
You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.
But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.
Being an influencer is literally a terrible life decision for 99%+ of people. It is frankly irresponsible to encourage and even pretend that this is a legitimate career path. More than this field goes to the top 1% of earners. So odds are your kid is going to be homeless if you can’t cover their rent.
Much like being an actor, musician, model, athlete etc. But there will always be people who go that route.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.
That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.
So what does preparing her for real life look like?
There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?
Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.
I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.
Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.
Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.
You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.
But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.
Being an influencer is literally a terrible life decision for 99%+ of people. It is frankly irresponsible to encourage and even pretend that this is a legitimate career path. More than this field goes to the top 1% of earners. So odds are your kid is going to be homeless if you can’t cover their rent.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.
That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.
So what does preparing her for real life look like?
There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?
Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.
I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.
Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.
Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.
You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.
But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.
Being an influencer is literally a terrible life decision for 99%+ of people. It is frankly irresponsible to encourage and even pretend that this is a legitimate career path. More than this field goes to the top 1% of earners. So odds are your kid is going to be homeless if you can’t cover their rent.
Much like being an actor, musician, model, athlete etc. But there will always be people who go that route.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.
That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.
So what does preparing her for real life look like?
There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?
Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.
I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.
Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.
Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.
You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.
But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.
Being an influencer is literally a terrible life decision for 99%+ of people. It is frankly irresponsible to encourage and even pretend that this is a legitimate career path. More than this field goes to the top 1% of earners. So odds are your kid is going to be homeless if you can’t cover their rent.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.
If she can’t afford books she has much bigger problems. Teach her to cook from scratch, grow vegetables, or something remotely useful to prepare for hard times or living hand to mouth.
DP here. I love to read and buying books is a huge waste of money and just creates clutter. Libraries are awesome. We are high income and high net worth. Wealthy areas have amazing libraries. If my library doesn’t have a book I want, I literally tell them and they order it!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.
That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.
So what does preparing her for real life look like?
There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?
Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.
I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.
Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.
Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.
You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.
But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.
Being an influencer is literally a terrible life decision for 99%+ of people. It is frankly irresponsible to encourage and even pretend that this is a legitimate career path. More than this field goes to the top 1% of earners. So odds are your kid is going to be homeless if you can’t cover their rent.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.
If she can’t afford books she has much bigger problems. Teach her to cook from scratch, grow vegetables, or something remotely useful to prepare for hard times or living hand to mouth.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.
That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.
So what does preparing her for real life look like?
There’s the rub. Every child is different. What if your daughter wanted to be an influencer?
Now you’re telling her that that pursuit is not to your liking because it’s not “intellectual”.
I have a friend his daughter is a multimillionaire influencer. Everybody told her it was ridiculous. Now she’s an expert in her field.
Also, being a multimillionaire isn’t a goal she just did something she loved.
Your job is to get to know your daughter and support her and her pursuits. Of course you should teach her to be kind and put people first.
You should teach her how to take care of her mental health and physical health.
But telling a person you must pursue intellectual pursuits and get your books from my library. Come on girl.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m raising my daughter to value people over things, and intellectual life rather than “influencer” life. She understands that we can buy books, but when we borrow them from the Library we’re supporting institutions that support our values. If in 45 years she can’t afford books then she’ll know the support of those institutions.
That’s so 1980’s. You’re not preparing your daughter for real life. You’re preparing your daughter for the life you had.
So what does preparing her for real life look like?