When my husband began to have erection problems was when he began to say no. He was pretty open with me that it wasn’t about me. He’s a very solve the problem kind of guy so he talked with his doctor and was prescribed viagra. The first night he took it I was amazed how quickly it took effect and how firm it was. The sex that night was very energetic to say the least and reminded me of our dating days. Now he never says no!

Anonymous wrote:When I started having erection issues my ex wife instead of showing empathy she started dating endlessly asking me to go see an urologist for Viagra. She made it all about herself. She never cared how I felt as a man that suddenly I couldn't get it up. Out of nowhere I filed for divorce. I have been happily remarried for 5 years and for my new wife I happily sought help because she was far more sympathetic. My ex in the meantime is now an alcoholic estranged from our kids.

Cool story.

When I started having erection issues my ex wife instead of showing empathy she started dating endlessly asking me to go see an urologist for Viagra. She made it all about herself. She never cared how I felt as a man that suddenly I couldn't get it up. Out of nowhere I filed for divorce. I have been happily remarried for 5 years and for my new wife I happily sought help because she was far more sympathetic. My ex in the meantime is now an alcoholic estranged from our kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of us with enlarged prostate do have to turn out wives down. It is what it is.

You know there are other things you can do besides the old in/out.

He is likely referring to PIV. When women want sex it's often PIV. If women just want to be eaten out or fingered that's easy because DH is isn't expected to perform.

Men's expectations around sex is that they are ALWAYS expected to perform actively and not passively. Oral/fingering that's passive because not much effort is required of him.

And I will also dad that a lot women associate lack of erection with lack of desire. So even if you please her outside of PIV and you are not erect in her eyes you are falling short of her expectations.

I am sorry to say this but a woman can just lay there use lube to stay wet and fake moan and orgasm if she isn't into the mood. A man cannot do that because if he is not in the mood he can't hide it. His penis isn't going to be erect if he is not in the mood. And if his penis is not erect she is going to question herself put unnecessary pressure on herself create unnecessary stress about her attractiveness. All of this because women are fed the idea that if a man isn't hard or doesn't cum something must be wrong with him or her.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of us with enlarged prostate do have to turn out wives down. It is what it is.

You know there are other things you can do besides the old in/out.

He is likely referring to PIV. When women want sex it's often PIV. If women just want to be eaten out or fingered that's easy because DH is isn't expected to perform.

Men's expectations around sex is that they are ALWAYS expected to perform actively and not passively. Oral/fingering that's passive because not much effort is required of him.

Anonymous wrote:Those of us with enlarged prostate do have to turn out wives down. It is what it is.

You know there are other things you can do besides the old in/out.

Those of us with enlarged prostate do have to turn out wives down. It is what it is.

Anonymous wrote:So how is this thread ok but the thread asking about women’s libido was taken down?

Because this forum is mostly geared towards women.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife has turned me down so many times and I don't find it to be an issue at all. Sometimes she is just not in the mood. Other times she is not feeling well. I mean she is not a sex machine or a sex slave.

I assume wives view it similarly when they are turned down no?

If you think so, you don't know women very well. They do not take being turned down for sex well at all.

Why not? If the husband has a legitimate reason why would they be upset?

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Anonymous wrote:My wife has turned me down so many times and I don't find it to be an issue at all. Sometimes she is just not in the mood. Other times she is not feeling well. I mean she is not a sex machine or a sex slave.

I assume wives view it similarly when they are turned down no?

No, they don’t.

+1...the fact that I never turn her down makes it easier for her to turn me down...she knows I'll be ready to go next time she is.

Anonymous wrote:My wife has turned me down so many times and I don't find it to be an issue at all. Sometimes she is just not in the mood. Other times she is not feeling well. I mean she is not a sex machine or a sex slave.

I assume wives view it similarly when they are turned down no?

If you think so, you don't know women very well. They do not take being turned down for sex well at all.