Anonymous wrote:My ex cheated with someone 15 years older, 50+ lbs heavier, had metal braces, and was a dog walker. It made zero sense to me

You must have been extraordinarily frigid.

Anonymous wrote:Why do it? A guy I'm dating cheating on his ex wife who he said was beautiful with a one time affair. He said he never cheated before. His reasoning was that he didn't feel needed or wanted. Which seems like a sorry excuse.

Show me the hottest woman on earth and I will show you a man who is tired of banging her.

Anonymous wrote:Here are were the options:

Sex with wife: had to beg for it; was vanilla when I could get it; she always complained about something; she never had an orgasm

Sex with AP: beautiful; 18 years younger; would do anything sexually; was submissive; gorgeous body; had multiple orgasms

Which would you choose?

I wonder if you were my AP!

feeling needed or wanted is pretty basic relationship stuff so if you’re failing at that then I can see how it would happen. Looks aren’t everything - maybe she’s a cold B who thinks her sh_t doesn’t stink and is terrible in bed, as most “beautiful” women are.

Anonymous wrote:Here ya go

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/topics/558762/honey-they-always-affair-down/

What a bunch of sad sacks on that site. Obsessing over the other woman as though that helps somehow.

But what a great address without word separators.

"Surviving In Fidelity."

Should have a section training husbands how to not cheat.

Anonymous wrote:For crying out loud, does anyone have a happy marriage with no cheating? No wonder my DD doesn't want to get married.

Do you think these people hang out on DCUM all day?
The Internet is for people with miserable offline lives.

Anonymous wrote:Why do it? A guy I'm dating cheating on his ex wife who he said was beautiful with a one time affair. He said he never cheated before. His reasoning was that he didn't feel needed or wanted. Which seems like a sorry excuse.

If you're willing not cheat, why would the besuty of your spouse matter? What would a guy cheat on a rich woman, or an excellent cook?

When it rains it pours. A guy who can catch a beautiful woman can catch (or be caught bt) many women. And same for other gender scenarios.

Why are you dating a guy who brags about cheating and talks about how beautiful is ex wife is? Lots of women like you around apparently, chasing this guy for the same reason you are.

For crying out loud, does anyone have a happy marriage with no cheating? No wonder my DD doesn't want to get married.

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Anonymous wrote:As long as a person meets with person of the opposite gender in private who is not their blood relative, there’s always a chance of adultry. Not everyone does it but the odds increase. Doesn’t matter if they look better or worse than their spouse.
Mike Pence approach is the right approach!

In my mid 50s and seeing the rash of recent divorces from cheating (some the wives, some the men doing it)- I agree. So many great couples I’ve known well for over 25 years, a few truly unexpected.

is the cheating because of mid-life crisis? where these one night stands or longer term affairs? don't most wives forgive their spouses and say married?

Anonymous wrote:Here are were the options:

Sex with wife: had to beg for it; was vanilla when I could get it; she always complained about something; she never had an orgasm

Sex with AP: beautiful; 18 years younger; would do anything sexually; was submissive; gorgeous body; had multiple orgasms

Which would you choose?

Sounds like you didn't do a good job of figuring out your true priorities while dating and weren't very considerate (no O's ever!!!???!!!). But maybe then you were looking for an intellectual equal and a prospective great mom. Or just a household manager. So now you have 2 people supporting your needs because you're too selfish to keep your vows to 1.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a very beautiful friend and her one-time boyfriend cheated on her. I am fully convinced that he felt very inferior to her (he was), and that was his way of elevating himself and putting her down, take her off the pedestal. Probably it was subconscious but to me it was obvious.

You are nuts!

No, that’s exactly why he cheated on her - he had an inferiority complex and thought that was the way to feed his ego. It didn’t help and they eventually broke up.

Yep. Studies show marriages were the wife out earns the man — husband more likely to cheat. It’s also very passively aggressive

I think it’s also bc marriages like this start out oftentimes as a woman who thinks she can change the bad boy or free spirit. And she can’t so he continues to do what he did before they were together which is pick up women and not have a steady job!

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Anonymous wrote:As long as a person meets with person of the opposite gender in private who is not their blood relative, there’s always a chance of adultry. Not everyone does it but the odds increase. Doesn’t matter if they look better or worse than their spouse.
Mike Pence approach is the right approach!

In my mid 50s and seeing the rash of recent divorces from cheating (some the wives, some the men doing it)- I agree. So many great couples I’ve known well for over 25 years, a few truly unexpected.

A lot of these people have probably been cheating for years and their spouse is well aware. They are just divorcing now because of the kids being out of the house.

Yup 👍🏽 I agree…..

Just a sorry excuse.

Why in the world would someone voluntarily disclose this to their mate??!

Anonymous wrote:Here are were the options:

Sex with wife: had to beg for it; was vanilla when I could get it; she always complained about something; she never had an orgasm

Sex with AP: beautiful; 18 years younger; would do anything sexually; was submissive; gorgeous body; had multiple orgasms

Which would you choose?

Uh maybe she wasn't interested in sex with you because you weren't interested in her pleasure? What a crazy concept. Sad that you'll put effort in for an AP, but not your wife.

Anonymous wrote:As long as a person meets with person of the opposite gender in private who is not their blood relative, there’s always a chance of adultry. Not everyone does it but the odds increase. Doesn’t matter if they look better or worse than their spouse.
Mike Pence approach is the right approach!

In my mid 50s and seeing the rash of recent divorces from cheating (some the wives, some the men doing it)- I agree. So many great couples I’ve known well for over 25 years, a few truly unexpected.