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Anonymous wrote:How to deal with coach favoritism?

We don’t want to leave the team because this is a top team in a big club.

If your kid is playing top team, they can probably make the top team at another club. Tryout for different clubs. If you don't get a top team offer, you just have to deal with it. Coachedms will always have their favorite player on a team.

Being top team on one club doesn't equate to being on top team for another club. Look at Alexandria. They pick up all of SYC's second team players and play them on their top team. The result, you have a top team with second team results.

The problem with Alexandria is not the players. The issues are the coaches and the broken system behind closed doors. Though agreed, SYC has stronger teams across all ages.

Can you elaborate more about the asa system behind closed doors? Considering having my DD tryout and make a move to ASA mls next team. Pointless to move from one broken system to another.

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Anonymous wrote:How to deal with coach favoritism?

We don’t want to leave the team because this is a top team in a big club.

If your kid is playing top team, they can probably make the top team at another club. Tryout for different clubs. If you don't get a top team offer, you just have to deal with it. Coachedms will always have their favorite player on a team.

Being top team on one club doesn't equate to being on top team for another club. Look at Alexandria. They pick up all of SYC's second team players and play them on their top team. The result, you have a top team with second team results.

The problem with Alexandria is not the players. The issues are the coaches and the broken system behind closed doors. Though agreed, SYC has stronger teams across all ages.

Anonymous wrote:Was able to confirm that the coach is texting players 1on1 without their parents on the text threads.

I've spoken with my kid and explained to her that what's going on is not acceptable. I also showed her the safesport link below.

https://uscenterforsafesport.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/MAAPP_OnePagers_Communication.pdf

Don't coaches need to go through a safesport background check and don't they also go through a yearly 1 hour class on safesport rules?

Anonymous wrote:Seriously is this the best platform for this, you seem legitimately concerned, do something substantive

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Anonymous wrote:So I've been able to confirm that our coach is texting directly with players. He's not texting with my kid and I don't think anything inappropriate is happening. But this makes me very uncomfortable. We're already jumping in on sessions at other clubs looking for an out.

The way I was able to confirm is one of the players (who is very good and a Talent ID invite) has been riding the bench. I have a feeling that it's happening because she's on scholorship not because of ability. Apparently she texted the coach earlier this week asking how she can improve and what he suggested she improve. The coach texted back that she's not going to be on his roster this weekend but she can play with the 09s. Something happened with her mom and the mom took her phone away. Our coach got pissed because she wasn't responding about the 09s. But this was happening because her mom took her phone away.

Today she showed up at an away game 1.5 hour drive when she wasn't on the roster. This happened because her mom took her phone away and she didn't know what to do because our coach is texting players directly about if they are/aren't on the roster that week.

Not really sure what to do. Our coach is also a teacher and should know that texting directly with players is wrong. It's not happening with my kid and we're trying to find s way out.

A little more info just became available which clouds if our coach is texting with players directly.

Apparently the mom that took her daughters phone away is also getting divorced from the dad. The dad is the one that drove his daughter 1.5 hours to the game only find out that she's not on the roster. What this means is there's a good chance the mom knows about the texts with coach and didn't tell dad just to be vindictive and awful.

Don't want to get involved with coach or divorce drama. Again none of this is happening with my kid and we're looking for an out.

I'm still at 90% that the coach is texting players directly. But I don't know which parents are aware.

The Real housewives of NV - soccer parent drama episode 😆

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Anonymous wrote:So I've been able to confirm that our coach is texting directly with players. He's not texting with my kid and I don't think anything inappropriate is happening. But this makes me very uncomfortable. We're already jumping in on sessions at other clubs looking for an out.

The way I was able to confirm is one of the players (who is very good and a Talent ID invite) has been riding the bench. I have a feeling that it's happening because she's on scholorship not because of ability. Apparently she texted the coach earlier this week asking how she can improve and what he suggested she improve. The coach texted back that she's not going to be on his roster this weekend but she can play with the 09s. Something happened with her mom and the mom took her phone away. Our coach got pissed because she wasn't responding about the 09s. But this was happening because her mom took her phone away.

Today she showed up at an away game 1.5 hour drive when she wasn't on the roster. This happened because her mom took her phone away and she didn't know what to do because our coach is texting players directly about if they are/aren't on the roster that week.

Not really sure what to do. Our coach is also a teacher and should know that texting directly with players is wrong. It's not happening with my kid and we're trying to find s way out.

A little more info just became available which clouds if our coach is texting with players directly.

Apparently the mom that took her daughters phone away is also getting divorced from the dad. The dad is the one that drove his daughter 1.5 hours to the game only find out that she's not on the roster. What this means is there's a good chance the mom knows about the texts with coach and didn't tell dad just to be vindictive and awful.

Don't want to get involved with coach or divorce drama. Again none of this is happening with my kid and we're looking for an out.

I'm still at 90% that the coach is texting players directly. But I don't know which parents are aware.

Anonymous wrote:So I've been able to confirm that our coach is texting directly with players. He's not texting with my kid and I don't think anything inappropriate is happening. But this makes me very uncomfortable. We're already jumping in on sessions at other clubs looking for an out.

The way I was able to confirm is one of the players (who is very good and a Talent ID invite) has been riding the bench. I have a feeling that it's happening because she's on scholorship not because of ability. Apparently she texted the coach earlier this week asking how she can improve and what he suggested she improve. The coach texted back that she's not going to be on his roster this weekend but she can play with the 09s. Something happened with her mom and the mom took her phone away. Our coach got pissed because she wasn't responding about the 09s. But this was happening because her mom took her phone away.

Today she showed up at an away game 1.5 hour drive when she wasn't on the roster. This happened because her mom took her phone away and she didn't know what to do because our coach is texting players directly about if they are/aren't on the roster that week.

Not really sure what to do. Our coach is also a teacher and should know that texting directly with players is wrong. It's not happening with my kid and we're trying to find s way out.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s called life, deal with it. Every team has players playing who should be on the bench.

And a word for the person wanting to tryout for Alexandria . . . Don’t

Yes, please don't. You will regret it for sure. There are much better options around.

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Anonymous wrote:The context of any apparent favoritism is key. Many, many times the "favoritism" is just delusional parents who don't see that their kid is average to below average. They don't see that the kid playing over their kid works harder, is more coachable, and has a better attitude (but they don't score so they suck hahaha).

If there are inappropriate relationships and dynamics with the coach, then report it. If you just think your kid should play more than the other, then you better be damn sure that your kid brings more to the team before you open your mouth. If not, you will be on the club list as one of those parents.

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Parents who talked to the coach a lot, delusional parents whose kids scored the goal because of being a ball hog, Kids who were uncoachable because of every mistake they made their parents on the sideline will say a good job! So that kid will never learn or try to improve anything.

Agree on all except the ball hog. Depends on the age, and depends on the team.

A good player on a crap team always looks like a ball hog. And at certain age groups, that team can look really good because of that 1 ball hog.

Said the ball hog’s parents!

Said the equipment manager’s parents

said the social media manager parent

Can the coaches/directors please stop posting? Disturbing....

Anonymous wrote:Agree with this completely. Hasn’t done me any favors either. Actually coach is harder on my kid.

I must be doing something wrong as a team manager. Been manager for my son's team several times at different age group. Never got him any extra favors, seems like the opposite in that doesn't get picked for captain, selected for events or anything. Coaches would go out of the way to make sure it doesn't look like my son receives any favors.