OP here.

Thank you everyone for your suggestions - still working through some of them. I put the list on last night and had such a good cry my chest hurt this morning. I get that’s not everyone’s thing but I needed it.

As a PP asked, here is the first working of the list. It’s a living thing by and I’m likely to add some of the amazing suggestions I don’t know from here, just don’t have the chance to get there.


So, in no particular order, here’s what I cried my eyes out to for hours last night under the stars-

Purple Rain - Prince & The Revolution
Down Bad - Taylor Swift
Goodbye my Lover - James Blunt
Look Away - Chicago
Someone You Loved - Lewis Capaldi
The Space Between - Dave Matthews Band
Pictures of You - The Cure
The Heart of the Matter - Don Henley
Against All Odds - Phil Collins
One More Try - George Michael
Somebody - Depeche Mode
Open Arms - Journey
Every Rose has its Thorn -Poison
And so it Goes - Billy Joel
How am I Supposed to Live Without You - Michael Bolton
The Flame - Cheap Trick
Right Here Waiting - Richard Marx
Just Another Day - Jon Secada
End of the Road - Boys II Men
All Too Well (10 min) - Taylor Swift
Love Hurts - Nazareth
Nobody Knows - The Tony Rich Project
Un- Break my Heart - Toni Braxton
Glitter in the Air - Pink
Landslide - Fleetwood Mac
All Cried Out - Lisa Lisa
All by Myself - Eric Carmen
I can’t make you love me - Bonnie Raitt
At this Moment - Billy Vera
Your Side of the Bed - Little Big Town
Dancing on My Own - Calum Scott
Never Say Goodbye - Bon Jovi
What Hurts the Most - Rascall Flatts
The Dance - Garth Brooks
Insensitive - Jann Arden
Unloved - Jann Arden
Let him Fly - Patty Griffin
The Rose - Bette Middler
It Must Have Been Love - Roxette
Without You - Harry Nilsson
All out of Love - Air Supply
Come Over - Kenny Chesney
Dark Angel - Blue Rodeo (not a breakup song but always gives me the feels)

Adele – Someone Like You

Don’t Speak — No Doubt

Well I banged my cheating H a few times after I found out for good measure so...

We've got tonight. - Bob Seger

When you are ready for some I'm over you songs post another thread.

Start with Unanswered prayers - that country guy
flowers - the original is the bruno mars
good as hell - lizzo
Ill have to go find my list

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Old school:
Linda Ronstadt - Long, Long Time

Linda Ronstadt’s Poor Poor Pitiful Me and her cover of When Will I Be Loved are also great.

Billy Joel’s And So It Goes

(super cheese alert) I'll Never Get Over You Getting Over Me

For the upbeat list, Part of Me by Katy Perry about her divorce from Russell Brand.

The entire Gaslighter album by the (formerly Dixie) Chicks is outstanding in this capacity.

You gotta name the group, Expose.

Anything from the 2005 Gary Allan album Tough All Over - he recorded it after his wife passed from suicide.

Imogen Heap Hide and Seek

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get a baseball bat and go find him and his ho. lol

Change the locks. Throw his sh@t on the lawn.

I think you need to listen to some country. lol

Yeah. Anger would be my primary reaction.

+100

light em up up up, light em up !!!! I'd be psychotic

Anonymous wrote:Old school:
Linda Ronstadt - Long, Long Time

Linda Ronstadt’s Poor Poor Pitiful Me and her cover of When Will I Be Loved are also great.

Billy Joel’s And So It Goes

(super cheese alert) I'll Never Get Over You Getting Over Me

For the upbeat list, Part of Me by Katy Perry about her divorce from Russell Brand.

The entire Gaslighter album by the (formerly Dixie) Chicks is outstanding in this capacity.

I'm surprised not to see Adèle on this list. She has a lot of sad songs about break up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sad Classic
Fire and Rain - James Taylor
Me and Bobby McGee - Janis Joplin

Sad 80s
Ghost in You - Psychedelic Furs

Sad 90s
China - Tori Amos
Ghost - Indigo Girls
Barely Breathing - Duncan Sheik
Linger - Cranberries

Sad Recent
Someone Like You - Adele
Somebody that I Used to Know - Gotye

Sad Country
You'll Think of Me - Keith Urban

Upbeat Music
Irreplaceable - Beyonce
Best Thing I Never Had - Beyonce
Tubthumping - Chumbawamba
I'm Alright - Kenny Loggins
Live Your Life - T.I. feat. Rihanna
Stronger - Kelly Clarkson

Modern Corny Breakup Music
It Ain't Me - Kygo/Selena Gomez
My Mama Don't Like You - Justin Bieber
What Goes Around Comes Around - Justin Timberlake
Cry Me a River - Justin Timberlake

Moody but inspirational
On the Way Down - Ryan Cabrera
Love Will Come To You - Indigo Girls
Castle on the Hill - Ed Sheeran
Wake Me Up - Avicii

💔

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get a baseball bat and go find him and his ho. lol

Change the locks. Throw his sh@t on the lawn.

I think you need to listen to some country. lol

That would be Carrie Underwood “Before he cheats”

Right now, he's probably slow dancing
With a bleached-blonde tramp
And she's probably getting frisky
Right now, he's probably buying her some fruity little drink
'Cause she can't shoot a whiskey
Right now, he's probably up behind her with a pool-stick
Showing her how to shoot a combo
And he don't know

[Chorus]
I dug my key into the side
Of his pretty little souped up four-wheel drive
Carved my name into his leather seats
I took a Louisville Slugger to both headlights
Slashed a hole in all four tires
Maybe next time, he'll think before he cheats

Verse 2]
Right now, she's probably up singing some
White-trash version of Shania karaoke
Right now, she's probably saying, "I'm drunk"
And he's a thinking that he's gonna get lucky
Right now, he's probably dabbing on
Three dollars worth of that bathroom Polo
Oh, and he don't know

[Chorus]
Oh, that I dug my key into the side
Of his pretty little souped up four-wheel drive
Carved my name into his leather seats
I took a Louisville Slugger to both headlights
Slashed a hole in all four tires
Maybe next time, he'll think before he cheats

[Bridge]
I might've saved a little trouble for the next girl
'Cause the next time that he cheats
Oh, you know it won't be on me
No, not on me

[Chorus]
'Cause I dug my key into the side
Of his pretty little souped up four-wheel drive
Carved my name into his leather seats
I took a Louisville Slugger to both headlights
Slashed a hole in all four tires
Maybe next time, he'll think before he cheats

I’m the PP with the super cheesy list but also wanted to add Carrie Underwood’s Dirty Laundry:
All those midnights sneaking in
"I'm late again, oh, I'm so sorry"
All the Ajax in the world ain't gonna clean your dirty laundry

Nobody does melancholy and depressing like Townes Van Zandt. “Waiting Around to Die” ftw.

Stars - “Your Ex-Lover is Dead”
Depeche Mode - “The Things you Said”
Roxette - “Must have been love (but it’s over now)”
M83 “Too Late”
Robyn “Dancing on my Own”
The Cure “Disintegration”
Joy Division “New Dawn Fades”
Belle and Sebastian “Seeing Other People”
Goyte “Somebody that Used to Know”

To end on an upbeat note
Whitney “It’s not right(but it’s ok)”

It Can't Rain All the Time, from The Crow soundtrack