Anonymous
Post 09/17/2024 22:00     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m very confused about why being married makes it impossible to go to graduate school or have a good job? I found it much easier to achieve things in life with a spouse as support.


It’s not impossible, but usually you are going to a new geography for grad school so you need your SO to be OK with that, even if there aren’t great career options.

I personally was moved to 4 different locations for a career before 30…married at 28 in the 4th location, but would have been much harder to just accept a promotion and move with a spouse if married at 22.


It all depends. Got married after undergrad. Went to grad school, away from spouse (7 hour drive, we met almost every weekend in the midpoint for 36 hours). We worked for same company/same discipline. 3 years after I started work (1 year after I returned from my masters), spouse got job at a new company (and halfway across country). Before spouse took the offer told company I needed a job as well. 2 days later I was "interviewing" and basically it was 3 positions, and I was picking which department I wanted to work for (company really wanted my spouse to come).
So we both got raises/promotions out of it.
Sure it's not always that easy, but plenty of couples do it even in their 20s.



Sounds like that was one move…not 4.

Are you saying you would expect your spouse to get you a new job with each move?


As a couple, we make joint decisions about life, that includes jobs. For us it was only one move,. The next move waited until I had birthed our first child, as I was becoming a SAHP and didn't want to switch jobs right before we would have a kid. So we decided to wait and spouse worked remotely for a company (before that was a big thing) and travelled as needed. So yes, once you are married, you make choices that work for everyone. If both don't agree, you don't move. It's part of being married---you think about what matters to your family, not just yourself. Otherwise, if you aren't up to that and compromise, you shouldn't be getting married
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2024 20:34     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m very confused about why being married makes it impossible to go to graduate school or have a good job? I found it much easier to achieve things in life with a spouse as support.


It’s not impossible, but usually you are going to a new geography for grad school so you need your SO to be OK with that, even if there aren’t great career options.

I personally was moved to 4 different locations for a career before 30…married at 28 in the 4th location, but would have been much harder to just accept a promotion and move with a spouse if married at 22.


It all depends. Got married after undergrad. Went to grad school, away from spouse (7 hour drive, we met almost every weekend in the midpoint for 36 hours). We worked for same company/same discipline. 3 years after I started work (1 year after I returned from my masters), spouse got job at a new company (and halfway across country). Before spouse took the offer told company I needed a job as well. 2 days later I was "interviewing" and basically it was 3 positions, and I was picking which department I wanted to work for (company really wanted my spouse to come).
So we both got raises/promotions out of it.
Sure it's not always that easy, but plenty of couples do it even in their 20s.



Sounds like that was one move…not 4.

Are you saying you would expect your spouse to get you a new job with each move?
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2024 19:04     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m very confused about why being married makes it impossible to go to graduate school or have a good job? I found it much easier to achieve things in life with a spouse as support.


It’s not impossible, but usually you are going to a new geography for grad school so you need your SO to be OK with that, even if there aren’t great career options.

I personally was moved to 4 different locations for a career before 30…married at 28 in the 4th location, but would have been much harder to just accept a promotion and move with a spouse if married at 22.


It all depends. Got married after undergrad. Went to grad school, away from spouse (7 hour drive, we met almost every weekend in the midpoint for 36 hours). We worked for same company/same discipline. 3 years after I started work (1 year after I returned from my masters), spouse got job at a new company (and halfway across country). Before spouse took the offer told company I needed a job as well. 2 days later I was "interviewing" and basically it was 3 positions, and I was picking which department I wanted to work for (company really wanted my spouse to come).
So we both got raises/promotions out of it.
Sure it's not always that easy, but plenty of couples do it even in their 20s.

Anonymous
Post 09/17/2024 16:43     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
It’s not a thing because you anecdotally know one or two people who may do it.

No stats back it up.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2024 14:13     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
Yep. It's a thing. Getting engaged between 19-23, super trendy. Wedding planning in full swing for next summer.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 15:58     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All the best spouses M and F get snatched up in their 20s.


They will be back on the market in 10 years if they get married out of college. LOL


This is a lie we got told. Marrying young is the best!! Don’t waste your 20s sleeping around and getting grizzled and old!! Enjoy life as newlyweds and embark on your future. You will build a future and a family together!! I met my husband at 21 and we’ve been together 26 years. Best thing that ever happened to me!! We waited many years to get engaged and looking back wish we did it sooner. MANY of my generation missed out on kids and other wonderful things because of this!!
20s is not too young! You are an adult! If you met The One, do it!!


Yep, I missed out on kids because my college boyfriend wasn't at all interested in getting married; so wasted until age 25, and then didn't meet.my dh until 30 and it was apparently already too late for me. We are still together, but no kids.

Think some wealthier younger people have seen this trend and are getting enagaged and married earlier.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2024 01:14     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
Maybe with the Liberty U crowd.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2024 01:07     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
I wouldn’t be at all surprised if my son (now in HS) goes this way. He has a steady girlfriend and enjoys family life and is not at all interested in drinking, drugs, or hookup culture.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 19:51     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
Anonymous wrote:My DD graduated college this year and is on her way with a promising career as a Learning Disability Teacher. She and her boyfriend have been seriously dating for over 4 years. He's a great young man and we do love him. But after college graduation DD started floating the idea of getting engaged....stating that she knew many friends (both young women and men) who got engaged right after graduation.

My DD tells me that her generation is getting engaged/married younger - making it sound like a trend. I'm in the "you are too young to get engaged, let alone married" mainly because I feel she should focus on her career first without distractions of an "engagement".
I would give the same advice to any young man or woman just graduating college. But DD continues to show me posts from friends happily stating "I'm engaged"! Admittedly, on the university's parent FB page I did see a few posts of "happily engaged" right after graduation.

But I am wondering....is anyone else is seeing a "trend" of this generation getting engaged/married younger?

I wonder if this is a result of those being greatly affected by the "pandemic years" -- they lost key milestones from senior year in 2020 and then again their first year of college....all while seeing the devastating deaths on a daily basis via social media/news outlets.


My 21 yo niece just announced her engagement. The only guy she's ever dated. And they've never lived in the same town for more than a couple of weeks. But, her IG post had beautiful pics, with links to the places she got her outfit, ring, pics, etc.

I don't know if it is a "trend" but this post hit home for me. Oh well. She's an adult so I guess it ends how it ends, and hopefully it ends well.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 19:01     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
Anonymous wrote:I haven’t seen this but it was common among older generations who had a lot of success staying together. A more sexualized society and ease of communication these days is a bigger challenge to marriage though. Early 20s seems very young to me to give up some years of exploring.


20's seem younger but time goes fast and by 30's pickings are very slim for both genders and most explorers end up settling for worse.
Anonymous
Post 09/09/2024 18:29     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
I haven’t seen this but it was common among older generations who had a lot of success staying together. A more sexualized society and ease of communication these days is a bigger challenge to marriage though. Early 20s seems very young to me to give up some years of exploring.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2024 21:44     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
Anonymous wrote:If this is true, then it’s simply the pendulum swinging back in the other direction from all the advice the Boomers gave Millennials.

I know lots of Millennials who set out to live their “best lives” and ended up waiting awhile, oftentimes with questionable results.





I don’t have a problem with this trend, if it is in fact a trend at all
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2024 21:36     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All the best spouses M and F get snatched up in their 20s.


They will be back on the market in 10 years if they get married out of college. LOL


This is a lie we got told. Marrying young is the best!! Don’t waste your 20s sleeping around and getting grizzled and old!! Enjoy life as newlyweds and embark on your future. You will build a future and a family together!! I met my husband at 21 and we’ve been together 26 years. Best thing that ever happened to me!! We waited many years to get engaged and looking back wish we did it sooner. MANY of my generation missed out on kids and other wonderful things because of this!!
20s is not too young! You are an adult! If you met The One, do it!!
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2024 21:32     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
Anonymous wrote:Yes. I am seeing this.


I did this. Married first boyfriend. Somehow I can not recommend it.

co-incidentally- I just heard of a 25/26 yr old getting engaged. He stated college a year late. MD. Mont Co.
Anonymous
Post 08/31/2024 10:27     Subject: Gen Zs who are 2020 Covid HS Grads and 2024 College Grads - "I'm engaged" Trend
I think girls seeing fertility struggles and the prospect of having to meet a spouse via an app in your 30s would be a huge driver to getting married when you have a good prospect in your 20s. My friends that are still married met their spouse in school. You are no longer allowed to date in the workplace which means meeting in a bar or online. I say get married earlier rather than later.