Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 11:33     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
We are a shoes on / whatever you want house and my kids automatically take off their shoes when they enter any home other than ours. If I see shoes by the door, I also take my shoes off.

If you are worried about it, put a note in the invite that you home is shoe-free and people will be prepared if they need to bring house shoes to be comfortable or just remember to wear clean, hole free socks.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 11:28     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you have the no shoes party, some of your guests are going to feel uncomfortable, mortified or even offended whether you think they’re unreasonable/wrong or not.

If you have a party at your house with shoes, you’re going to be stressed and unhappy about the dirt.

If you host it somewhere else, everyone wins. This seems like a no brainer to me.


We haven’t started school yet. From my understanding, you are supposed to host at your house.

We are members at a country club and can host there or at a restaurant. I believe it is to promote bonding at people’s homes though.


Shoes aside, this seems terribly invasive and cult like of the school to socially force strangers into your home.



Agree!
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 11:26     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you have the no shoes party, some of your guests are going to feel uncomfortable, mortified or even offended whether you think they’re unreasonable/wrong or not.

If you have a party at your house with shoes, you’re going to be stressed and unhappy about the dirt.

If you host it somewhere else, everyone wins. This seems like a no brainer to me.


We haven’t started school yet. From my understanding, you are supposed to host at your house.

We are members at a country club and can host there or at a restaurant. I believe it is to promote bonding at people’s homes though.


Shoes aside, this seems terribly invasive and cult like of the school to socially force strangers into your home.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 11:26     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:OP if you asked guests to take off shoes, I would comply, but would be totally grossed out. That’s like asking your guests to walk around barefoot in a locker room! Your floors may have been clean at the start of the party, but in a large group someone is bound to have something funky and contagious on their feet - soooo gross!

I also don’t get this idea that there’s fecal matter on the bottoms of everyone’s shoes - in the suburbs, our sidewalks, cars, and grocery store floors generally do not have poop all over them. Just mop your floors regularly and all will be ok - there is no reason that floors need to be sterile enough for someone to lick them!


Just wear socks. Easy answer. Anyway, these shoe threads always go off the rails, so I'm not going to weigh in on OP, but re fecal matter:

The fecal matter was found when swabbing shoes. In other words, your suburban shoes can be swabbed, and fecal matter is likely to be found on them. Do what you want with the info, but know that it's not just a theory.

Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 11:00     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
OP if you asked guests to take off shoes, I would comply, but would be totally grossed out. That’s like asking your guests to walk around barefoot in a locker room! Your floors may have been clean at the start of the party, but in a large group someone is bound to have something funky and contagious on their feet - soooo gross!

I also don’t get this idea that there’s fecal matter on the bottoms of everyone’s shoes - in the suburbs, our sidewalks, cars, and grocery store floors generally do not have poop all over them. Just mop your floors regularly and all will be ok - there is no reason that floors need to be sterile enough for someone to lick them!
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 10:54     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:Yes, super weird. It’s one thing when it’s close friends or family, but this is a very diverse group of people. Just don’t host OP.

We are also a no shoe house. The kids’ friends, our close friends and family who come often, just remove their shoes on their own now. But when we have a party, I usually wet wipe the common areas / kitchen after guests leave. It’s not that tough unless you have wall to wall carpet.


+1. I have no idea how this isn't the obvious answer.

I love the "provide slippers" crowd. OP is hosting a party for the parents of her kid's entire class. Unless this is an exceedingly small school, there could be 75 peopel there, or perhaps many more. Think about the logistics for a few minutes.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 10:45     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
In Japan nobody walks around barefoot. In temples you wear socks or temple slippers over your socks.
In houses people get slippers in the entry.
BTW there are bathroom slippers separate from regular indoor slippers and you change.

Only in America do you think shoe free means show me your toenail fungus.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 10:32     Subject: Re:Party requesting guests to take shoes off
I think a shoes off policy is fine for normal situations. However, when hosting a large gathering in which many of the attendees will be strangers (presumably) I think it’s rude to expect people to take their shoes off. As someone else mentioned, just hire cleaners to do your floors the next day. I get not wanting people’s dirty shoes on your floors, but one day won’t kill you.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 10:16     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:We are Minnesotan and have always taken shoes off. Part of it is coming from a climate with a long season of snow. You need to remove your shoes or you track slush everywhere. The habit carries into warmer seasons. And when you think about what you might step in outside, I don’t want that on my floors where kids play! No shoes for us in this house and I don’t hesitate to request it of guests.


I’m also Minnesotan and no you are very wrong this is not a thing. Yes if you’re coming into a friend’s house in the snow (that’s also not uniquely “Minnesotan”, no if you’re going to a cocktail reception party with acquaintances.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 10:10     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
It is fine but you need to buy some socks from the dollar store to offer people who want/need them.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 10:09     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
I get it, but think OP should be more flexible. As a Hindu, wearing shoes in the house is disrespectful. We keep images/idols representing God in the house, so it is akin to a temple, where shoes are forbidden. I grew up taking my shoes off instinctively, but we would not require that of adult guests! I’m born and raised in the US and grew up strictly vegetarian but now eat some meat and my kids are omnivores! Also married a non Indian. We adapt and welcome diverse people and perspectives.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 06:15     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
I did not read all the pages but if I were OP I would mention in whatever type of invite you send that you are a shoe free house. People can be sure to wear socks or not attend if it is a problem.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 05:52     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:Gross. Hello, foot fungus and warts


+1 can you imagine going into a bathroom during a large house party barefooted?!

I’m not a germaphobe, but the thought of that turns my stomach
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 05:23     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Gross. Hello, foot fungus and warts
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 05:08     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
No. Hire cleaners for the next day

Standing barefoot hurts my feet