Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 14:17     Subject: Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, the majority of you are not only rude af, but you are wrong. The college AO called us to say everything was squared away and nothing more was needed " after the HS corrected their error"

They admitted to them that they sent it to the wrong school.


Honestly though, does it matter?!


Because I'm going to have someone tell lies about my daughter. That's why. And maybe it will save some other family the same headache.


And the lie would be what, exactly? That she made a mistake on a dropdown menu and had to re-request a needed document? As one might do, for example, on an insurance claim, a tax form, or any one of the thousands of other documents passed back and forth by adults every day? I just don't understand what's at stake here, OP. Enlighten us.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 14:15     Subject: Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There’s really no need to assign blame in this situation. Mistakes happen and this one is really not a big deal.


It's a huge deal and caused a ton of stress for my DD as she also got the email that her admission was on hold. It's the middle of July. Admissions are closed. Had they simply retracted her offer she would up a creek without a paddle. She had already done her housing and established contact with her roommate. This isn't a whoopsie daisy.




FFS. They weren't going to retract her her offer until she had a chance to get the last of her paperwork in. A few students make this mistake every year. It needs to be fixed, but it's not the huge deal that you are making it out to be. It was a mistake. It was fixed. That's all the university wanted you to do.

The only way they would have retracted her offer is if you didn't fix the problem after at least a couple of warnings that there was a problem.


Exactly.

OP needs to chill on this one.


DP but transcripts were due like three weeks ago, so it's very likely it was waaaay overdue. Which also points to the school at fault.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 14:13     Subject: Re:Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.


OP here. You're just making stuff up now and I don't know why. Maybe you have a crappy life? Maybe your DD is fat, ugly and going to CC? I don't know. But the college did in fact speak with the guidance counselor and the counselor admitted that they sent the wrong transcript. There is no reason to make this up.


FYI: my kid turned down UNC Chapel Hill.


Funny - but OP said the school name was changed for privacy.


PP's kid didn't turn down UNC. I heard she's on the wait list at CNU.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 14:04     Subject: Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:One of my favorite mentors gave me this excellent advice 25 years ago:

“Be a problem solver, not a blame assessor.”



AMEN
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 14:03     Subject: Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There’s really no need to assign blame in this situation. Mistakes happen and this one is really not a big deal.


It's a huge deal and caused a ton of stress for my DD as she also got the email that her admission was on hold. It's the middle of July. Admissions are closed. Had they simply retracted her offer she would up a creek without a paddle. She had already done her housing and established contact with her roommate. This isn't a whoopsie daisy.




FFS. They weren't going to retract her her offer until she had a chance to get the last of her paperwork in. A few students make this mistake every year. It needs to be fixed, but it's not the huge deal that you are making it out to be. It was a mistake. It was fixed. That's all the university wanted you to do.

The only way they would have retracted her offer is if you didn't fix the problem after at least a couple of warnings that there was a problem.


Exactly.

OP needs to chill on this one.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 14:02     Subject: Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, the majority of you are not only rude af, but you are wrong. The college AO called us to say everything was squared away and nothing more was needed " after the HS corrected their error"

They admitted to them that they sent it to the wrong school.


Corrected your daughter's error.

The AO was being polite. And it's an understandable error. NBD. OP, why are you so defensive? This is a great opportunity for your daughter to learn to be a little more careful with these things.

My kid just sent his transcript to graduate school. I didn't check whether he picked the right school in the drop-down menu. He's an adult. If he made a mistake, he'll quickly learn if they don't receive it.

You're setting up your daughter for a difficult life ahead if you don't want her to own any of this. The world doesn't double-check each transaction you do as an adult. And to make such a HUGE deal over a minor thing that was fixed is concerning. Let it be.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 13:59     Subject: Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:Really OP - I'm trying to talk you down from a ledge here - you are way too worked up about this and and inappropriately laser focused on blame. It's not healthy for you or DD and the blame-game is a bad role model for DD.

It's ok for the two of you to wonder whether "the wrong drop down choice was sent" or not. You will never know if it was DD or the school at fault, and it is annoying if it was the school that someone would tell some CYA lies. But you just won't ever know the full truth. And it just doesn't matter because you can choose to move on and be grateful it all worked out. All the things that could have gone very wrong, did not.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 13:57     Subject: Whose Responsibility?
Really OP - I'm trying to talk you down from a ledge here - you are way too worked up about this and and inappropriately laser focused on blame. It's healthy for you or DD and the blame-game is a bad role model for DD.

It's ok for the two of you to wonder whether "the wrong drop down choice was sent" or not. You will never know if it was DD or the school at fault, and it is annoying if it was the school that someone would tell some CYA lies. But you just won't ever know the full truth. And it just doesn't matter because you can choose to move on and are grateful it all worked out. All the things that could have gone very wrong, did not.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 13:56     Subject: Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There’s really no need to assign blame in this situation. Mistakes happen and this one is really not a big deal.


It's a huge deal and caused a ton of stress for my DD as she also got the email that her admission was on hold. It's the middle of July. Admissions are closed. Had they simply retracted her offer she would up a creek without a paddle. She had already done her housing and established contact with her roommate. This isn't a whoopsie daisy.




FFS. They weren't going to retract her her offer until she had a chance to get the last of her paperwork in. A few students make this mistake every year. It needs to be fixed, but it's not the huge deal that you are making it out to be. It was a mistake. It was fixed. That's all the university wanted you to do.

The only way they would have retracted her offer is if you didn't fix the problem after at least a couple of warnings that there was a problem.


+1
I'm a professor and so many of my advisees have holds on their records at the *end* of fall freshman semester before for HS final transcripts that they forgot to be requested to be sent. The biggest thing that happens is that they can't get their first semester grades nor register for the next semester courses until they do this.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 13:50     Subject: Re:Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.


OP here. You're just making stuff up now and I don't know why. Maybe you have a crappy life? Maybe your DD is fat, ugly and going to CC? I don't know. But the college did in fact speak with the guidance counselor and the counselor admitted that they sent the wrong transcript. There is no reason to make this up.


FYI: my kid turned down UNC Chapel Hill.


Funny - but OP said the school name was changed for privacy.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 13:47     Subject: Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There’s really no need to assign blame in this situation. Mistakes happen and this one is really not a big deal.


It's a huge deal and caused a ton of stress for my DD as she also got the email that her admission was on hold. It's the middle of July. Admissions are closed. Had they simply retracted her offer she would up a creek without a paddle. She had already done her housing and established contact with her roommate. This isn't a whoopsie daisy.




FFS. They weren't going to retract her her offer until she had a chance to get the last of her paperwork in. A few students make this mistake every year. It needs to be fixed, but it's not the huge deal that you are making it out to be. It was a mistake. It was fixed. That's all the university wanted you to do.

The only way they would have retracted her offer is if you didn't fix the problem after at least a couple of warnings that there was a problem.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 13:46     Subject: Re:Whose Responsibility?
Good gracious, move on already. Problem solved, crisis averted. Model better behavior for your daughter. Mistakes are made throughout life. Moving past them is a skill you need to show her.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 13:44     Subject: Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, the majority of you are not only rude af, but you are wrong. The college AO called us to say everything was squared away and nothing more was needed " after the HS corrected their error"

They admitted to them that they sent it to the wrong school.


Yes - they sent it to the wrong school. But they didn't say why/how that happened. If it was your DD's fault, would you want the HS telling the college that?
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 13:43     Subject: Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The counselor shouldn’t have placed blame with your daughter. It’s very irritating and low class when employees do this. She should have said, “Oh no! I will get them the transcript right away. No worries! So sorry that happened.”

It’s low class? Sorry, but if I were the counselor I would have checked to make sure I had not made a mistake. I am not taking the blame for the student’s error!


Don't you know? UMC/UC people NEVER make mistakes. It's very impolite to suggest that a UMC/UC person could make a mistake. Every employee must grovel before their superior attention to detail and superior intelligence.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2024 13:43     Subject: Re:Whose Responsibility?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The HS did not communicate other than to send the transcript. In your story, they called and apologized foe their mistake. This did not happen.


OP here. You're just making stuff up now and I don't know why. Maybe you have a crappy life? Maybe your DD is fat, ugly and going to CC? I don't know. But the college did in fact speak with the guidance counselor and the counselor admitted that they sent the wrong transcript. There is no reason to make this up.


FYI: my kid turned down UNC Chapel Hill.


Cafeteria wasn't big enough, I presume?