Anonymous wrote:Nearly zero.

I don’t feel good when I drink so I maybe have 1-2 drinks a year if it’s around and a particular drink I like. I also don’t use cannabis.

This is me. I was 1-2 drinks per year until a couple of years ago but now I honestly can’t remember the last time I drank alcohol. I don’t enjoy the taste or the feeling of being buzzed/drunk, and I am watching my calories so not drinking helps. At first, I got a lot of ribbing from my extended family (social drinking is important to them) but now many of them have also stopped because of health reasons (not inspired by me).

Ha. I’ve been drinking at the pool this evening. I’m fairly smashed. I had a great night.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to really enjoy it, then I got older and the hangovers got worse, the calories just seemed pointless. As I’ve aged and my kids have grown up I’ve also gotten to know a lot of other parents whose drinking has just aged really poorly. They range from people literally losing enormous success, to just boring losers… so glad I’m not interested anymore.

Now I might have 2 beers a month, and I wouldn’t care if I had none. It’s just such a waste of time and literally nothing good comes of it.

The two richest men I know—who are in totally different social/professional orbits—are huge boozers. Both very smart, both happily married, with their adults kids all getting married. The whole nine. Very active golfers, fly fishing, sailing, running and bicycling. You see what you want to see.

Not sure what your point is… do you imagine the drinking makes them successful? Are either of them you?

Gregarious and smart boozers certainly benefit professionally from it.

More drinkers THINK they are gregarious and smart than actually are.

I've seen a lot of careers wrecked by oopsies at work events.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to really enjoy it, then I got older and the hangovers got worse, the calories just seemed pointless. As I’ve aged and my kids have grown up I’ve also gotten to know a lot of other parents whose drinking has just aged really poorly. They range from people literally losing enormous success, to just boring losers… so glad I’m not interested anymore.

Now I might have 2 beers a month, and I wouldn’t care if I had none. It’s just such a waste of time and literally nothing good comes of it.

The two richest men I know—who are in totally different social/professional orbits—are huge boozers. Both very smart, both happily married, with their adults kids all getting married. The whole nine. Very active golfers, fly fishing, sailing, running and bicycling. You see what you want to see.

Not sure what your point is… do you imagine the drinking makes them successful? Are either of them you?

Gregarious and smart boozers certainly benefit professionally from it.

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Anonymous wrote:Nearly zero.

I don’t feel good when I drink so I maybe have 1-2 drinks a year if it’s around and a particular drink I like. I also don’t use cannabis.

Good for you - you’re a better person for it!

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Nearly zero.

I don’t feel good when I drink so I maybe have 1-2 drinks a year if it’s around and a particular drink I like. I also don’t use cannabis.

Good for you - you’re a better person for it!

No one is a better person simply for only drinking 1-2 drinks per year. What kind of deluded thinking is this?

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Anonymous wrote:I used to really enjoy it, then I got older and the hangovers got worse, the calories just seemed pointless. As I’ve aged and my kids have grown up I’ve also gotten to know a lot of other parents whose drinking has just aged really poorly. They range from people literally losing enormous success, to just boring losers… so glad I’m not interested anymore.

Now I might have 2 beers a month, and I wouldn’t care if I had none. It’s just such a waste of time and literally nothing good comes of it.

The two richest men I know—who are in totally different social/professional orbits—are huge boozers. Both very smart, both happily married, with their adults kids all getting married. The whole nine. Very active golfers, fly fishing, sailing, running and bicycling. You see what you want to see.

Not sure what your point is… do you imagine the drinking makes them successful? Are either of them you?

Anonymous wrote:I used to really enjoy it, then I got older and the hangovers got worse, the calories just seemed pointless. As I’ve aged and my kids have grown up I’ve also gotten to know a lot of other parents whose drinking has just aged really poorly. They range from people literally losing enormous success, to just boring losers… so glad I’m not interested anymore.

Now I might have 2 beers a month, and I wouldn’t care if I had none. It’s just such a waste of time and literally nothing good comes of it.

The two richest men I know—who are in totally different social/professional orbits—are huge boozers. Both very smart, both happily married, with their adults kids all getting married. The whole nine. Very active golfers, fly fishing, sailing, running and bicycling. You see what you want to see.

Anonymous wrote:Nearly zero.

I don’t feel good when I drink so I maybe have 1-2 drinks a year if it’s around and a particular drink I like. I also don’t use cannabis.

Good for you - you’re a better person for it!

Nearly zero.

I don’t feel good when I drink so I maybe have 1-2 drinks a year if it’s around and a particular drink I like. I also don’t use cannabis.

I quit drinking a little over a year ago, mostly for general health reasons, but also because it was becoming an everyday habit rather than something reserved for fun with friends. I really like the Reframe app. I also found it helpful to read some of the quit-lit to reinforce my belief that I needed to stop drinking, even if others didn't see my drinking as a problem (most of my friends were surprised to learn I stopped drinking).

Everyone is so different. I'm sure there are people who can casually have a drink here and there and it doesn't take hold in a bad way. I'm a bit of a control freak, so it fits my personality that I quit altogether. I still very much enjoy being around people who are enjoying a few drinks and I'm not out preaching sobriety or anything. I do think knowing the science and risks associated with alcohol is in every adult's best interest, but from there it's up to each of us to set our own boundaries and risk tolerance. The only thing I judge is the drinking and driving. That's complete bs and there's no excuse.

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Anonymous wrote:No one will tell you honestly what they drink based on your judgemental thread.

And judging by the goody goody answers, people are either lying or they are really boring.

I think a lot of people really do lose interest in drinking as they get older.

I drink occasionally but don’t find it fun or relaxing drinking at home or alone and when I do have a few drinks at a party I sleep worse, get a slight headache, and feel a little sick/off once the buzz wears off.

I used to drink much more but I just don’t feel like I have the time or energy to feel “off” and the buzz often isn’t worth not feeling my best physically

OP here, this is a perfect summation of my thoughts.

I used to enjoy drinking with people, but have no interest in drinking at home by myself. It’s not relaxing. I think maybe, for me, the stimulant side of it really is what it is - with lots of people around I feel chatty and jokey, scattered but fun… at home I just feel distracted and jumpy. I can’t imagine using it to “relax” — though I know a lot of people do.

A couple beers is also not only calories I don’t need, and dehydration when I almost always could use more hydration, it leads me to snacking and skipping workouts. At my age a core workout is more relaxing than a couple drinks.

Anonymous wrote:I have two drinks a night. More than I should but I eat smart, do my best to be fit, no drugs or tobacco, no infidelity, work hard, provide well for my family and I’m generous with my giving. If this is the worst flaw I will ever have I’m happy with it.

I just hope it doesn’t take a good person away from his family early.

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Anonymous wrote:No one will tell you honestly what they drink based on your judgemental thread.

And judging by the goody goody answers, people are either lying or they are really boring.

I think a lot of people really do lose interest in drinking as they get older.

I drink occasionally but don’t find it fun or relaxing drinking at home or alone and when I do have a few drinks at a party I sleep worse, get a slight headache, and feel a little sick/off once the buzz wears off.

I used to drink much more but I just don’t feel like I have the time or energy to feel “off” and the buzz often isn’t worth not feeling my best physically

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Anonymous wrote:No one will tell you honestly what they drink based on your judgemental thread.

And judging by the goody goody answers, people are either lying or they are really boring.

People who don't drink feel virtuous and want any chance possible to display their virtue.