Anonymous
06/19/2024 14:36
Subject: If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Its time people stop justifying and glorifying use of alcohol and see through scientific lens not a social lens.
What? Everything should be seen through both analytical and emotional/social lenses. That’s what makes life good!
Well from social lens you see alcoholism leading to, health issues, drunk driving, abuse, marital issues, financial issues, employment issues, sexual/physical/verbal assaults, gambling, cheating, divorces, poor parenting etc etc
Anonymous
06/19/2024 14:36
Subject: Re:If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Fascinating thread.
I would find this mildly concerning, and here's why: It seems like he is overthinking and desperately planning for his buzz. THAT seems like alcoholic behavior.
If there are no other signs, I wouldn't worry too much. With the price of alcohol in restaurants, having one at home and one at a restaurant seems very reasonable.
Now, if it's really two before dinner, and two at dinner, and two more after dinner ... then this would be a different story. (That's how my family rolls.)
If you have zero before dinner and two at dinner, the buzz will hit after you finish your entree and you're leaving the restaurant. Unless you're bar hopping after or inviting friends over afterwards for cocktails, what's the point of a post-dinner buzz?
That's not what I said.
I said that it's the thinking and the planning of the buzz that raises my radar. Also ... that what some drinkers report as "one drink at home and one at a restaurant" sometimes is actually several drinks in both places.
Anonymous
06/19/2024 14:35
Subject: If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
Anonymous wrote:I only drink during one time period a year—when me and my husband go on vacation to celebrate our anniversary. (I get headaches and this is the one time I throw caution to the wind and risk it.)
I have to admit that I prefer going out to a nice dinner with my spouse over drinks. I’m such a lightweight that I’ll only have one drink (two tops)—but I just really savor this once-a-year experience when I can enjoy a nice dinner with a little buzz.
Guess I’m an alcoholic too!
You are humble bragging to show your 364 days of abstinence. That is not what the OP is describing.
Anonymous
06/19/2024 14:31
Subject: Re:If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
Anonymous wrote:Fascinating thread.
I would find this mildly concerning, and here's why: It seems like he is overthinking and desperately planning for his buzz. THAT seems like alcoholic behavior.
If there are no other signs, I wouldn't worry too much. With the price of alcohol in restaurants, having one at home and one at a restaurant seems very reasonable.
Now, if it's really two before dinner, and two at dinner, and two more after dinner ... then this would be a different story. (That's how my family rolls.)
This is the best lens. The dude's focus is on his buzz, not the company he's with, and not the price of the booze. "How can I get the best buzz" is addict behavior.
-an addict with years in recovery, one day at a time
Anonymous
06/19/2024 14:30
Subject: Re:If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Fascinating thread.
I would find this mildly concerning, and here's why: It seems like he is overthinking and desperately planning for his buzz. THAT seems like alcoholic behavior.
If there are no other signs, I wouldn't worry too much. With the price of alcohol in restaurants, having one at home and one at a restaurant seems very reasonable.
Now, if it's really two before dinner, and two at dinner, and two more after dinner ... then this would be a different story. (That's how my family rolls.)
If you have zero before dinner and two at dinner, the buzz will hit after you finish your entree and you're leaving the restaurant. Unless you're bar hopping after or inviting friends over afterwards for cocktails, what's the point of a post-dinner buzz?
Umm... going home with your spouse? Maybe? Rather revealing comment there, pp.
Anonymous
06/19/2024 13:46
Subject: If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
I think this is fairly common but I also think someone who does this regularly is an alcoholic. My alcoholic husband always pregamed. He was fine drinking until he wasn’t.
Anonymous
06/19/2024 13:44
Subject: If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
I'm laughing out loud that insecure striver dorks on here think this is a cheapskate move. The rich people we know insist on happy hour cocktails at home before going out.
Anonymous
06/19/2024 13:40
Subject: Re:If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
Anonymous wrote:Fascinating thread.
I would find this mildly concerning, and here's why: It seems like he is overthinking and desperately planning for his buzz. THAT seems like alcoholic behavior.
If there are no other signs, I wouldn't worry too much. With the price of alcohol in restaurants, having one at home and one at a restaurant seems very reasonable.
Now, if it's really two before dinner, and two at dinner, and two more after dinner ... then this would be a different story. (That's how my family rolls.)
If you have zero before dinner and two at dinner, the buzz will hit after you finish your entree and you're leaving the restaurant. Unless you're bar hopping after or inviting friends over afterwards for cocktails, what's the point of a post-dinner buzz?
Anonymous
06/19/2024 13:31
Subject: If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
Anonymous wrote:My husband and I often have a cocktail b/f dinner. So do our friends. It's not unusual.
+1 We have a bunch of neighbor couples with whom we go out to restaurants. They usually meet at our house (we still have kids who need a babysitter and the other don’t) and everyone has a drink while I’m getting the kids and the babysitter settled, then we walk to the restaurant.
Anonymous
06/19/2024 13:25
Subject: If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My husband and I often have a cocktail b/f dinner. So do our friends. It's not unusual.
Do you get it specifically so you can be buzzed in social situations?
Yes, of course. I'd drink Perrier or Diet Arnold Palmer if I didn't want a buzz.
Are you saying you can’t handle social situations w/o a buzz? A little less inhibitions… and yes, it’s unusual.
DP but this is not unusual at all. Perhaps you are posting from 1624 Massachusetts Bay Colony and this may shock ,you but people drink for a light buzz all the time.
Anonymous
06/19/2024 13:20
Subject: Re:If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
Fascinating thread.
I would find this mildly concerning, and here's why: It seems like he is overthinking and desperately planning for his buzz. THAT seems like alcoholic behavior.
If there are no other signs, I wouldn't worry too much. With the price of alcohol in restaurants, having one at home and one at a restaurant seems very reasonable.
Now, if it's really two before dinner, and two at dinner, and two more after dinner ... then this would be a different story. (That's how my family rolls.)
I would find this mildly concerning, and here's why: It seems like he is overthinking and desperately planning for his buzz. THAT seems like alcoholic behavior.
If there are no other signs, I wouldn't worry too much. With the price of alcohol in restaurants, having one at home and one at a restaurant seems very reasonable.
Now, if it's really two before dinner, and two at dinner, and two more after dinner ... then this would be a different story. (That's how my family rolls.)
Anonymous
06/19/2024 13:13
Subject: If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My husband and I often have a cocktail b/f dinner. So do our friends. It's not unusual.
Do you get it specifically so you can be buzzed in social situations?
Yes, of course. I'd drink Perrier or Diet Arnold Palmer if I didn't want a buzz.
Are you saying you can’t handle social situations w/o a buzz? A little less inhibitions… and yes, it’s unusual.
You jumped pretty eagerly from enjoying a buzz in social situations to "can't handle social situations."
Anonymous
06/19/2024 13:09
Subject: If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
I see the puritans have shown up in force for this one. And the reason high income Europeans don’t get drunk is that they’ve been working on building their tolerance since they were six 
Anonymous
06/19/2024 12:47
Subject: If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
I would do the same thing IF I’m not driving. I can have a glass of quality wine for a much lower price.
Anonymous
06/19/2024 12:22
Subject: If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?
Anonymous wrote:My husband and I often have a cocktail b/f dinner. So do our friends. It's not unusual.
Do you get it specifically so you can be buzzed in social situations?