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Anonymous wrote:DP. I don’t get it either. My husband and I aren’t working this hard, and spending this much money on your education, for you to strive for a mediocre college and career. It’s possible that’s where you may end up, but that’s definitely NOT the goal.

It's notable that nowhere in your post is the child's present or future happiness or mental well-being part of the goal.

Let’s face it. Those of us that send our kids to private schools in dmv know these types of parents. In order for them to maintain their social standing in their hoity toity lame circles their kid needs to go to an Ivy League school and become a doctor/lawyer/Wall Street type.

If they do all that maybe they too can one day have a wife that only sees them a revenue source for her to attain her own social aspirations.

Sure, Jan. This is what parents, who can’t afford a private school education, tell themselves to feel better. Sad.

2 kids in private high school actually. Moved moved into dmv from outside the mid Atlantic a few years ago so I’m a bit of a fish out of water.

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Anonymous wrote:DP. I don’t get it either. My husband and I aren’t working this hard, and spending this much money on your education, for you to strive for a mediocre college and career. It’s possible that’s where you may end up, but that’s definitely NOT the goal.

It's notable that nowhere in your post is the child's present or future happiness or mental well-being part of the goal.

Let’s face it. Those of us that send our kids to private schools in dmv know these types of parents. In order for them to maintain their social standing in their hoity toity lame circles their kid needs to go to an Ivy League school and become a doctor/lawyer/Wall Street type.

If they do all that maybe they too can one day have a wife that only sees them a revenue source for her to attain her own social aspirations.

Sure, Jan. This is what parents, who can’t afford a private school education, tell themselves to feel better. Sad.

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Anonymous wrote:DP. I don’t get it either. My husband and I aren’t working this hard, and spending this much money on your education, for you to strive for a mediocre college and career. It’s possible that’s where you may end up, but that’s definitely NOT the goal.

It's notable that nowhere in your post is the child's present or future happiness or mental well-being part of the goal.

Let’s face it. Those of us that send our kids to private schools in dmv know these types of parents. In order for them to maintain their social standing in their hoity toity lame circles their kid needs to go to an Ivy League school and become a doctor/lawyer/Wall Street type.

If they do all that maybe they too can one day have a wife that only sees them a revenue source for her to attain her own social aspirations.

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Anonymous wrote:DP. I don’t get it either. My husband and I aren’t working this hard, and spending this much money on your education, for you to strive for a mediocre college and career. It’s possible that’s where you may end up, but that’s definitely NOT the goal.

It's notable that nowhere in your post is the child's present or future happiness or mental well-being part of the goal.

Is it also notable that I didn’t include her medical history, dietary restrictions, and shoe size? My posts don’t need to include an exhaustive list of items to suit YOU.

I know my child, and her happiness and mental well-being are solid. Thanks, Concern Troll.

Anonymous wrote:DP. I don’t get it either. My husband and I aren’t working this hard, and spending this much money on your education, for you to strive for a mediocre college and career. It’s possible that’s where you may end up, but that’s definitely NOT the goal.

It's notable that nowhere in your post is the child's present or future happiness or mental well-being part of the goal.

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Anonymous wrote:UC schools never admit DMV private kids like they do public. They tend to attract the top public kids and the few top private kids try to go to the Ivies. The rest of the private kids are mid and could never get in. Known fact.

Most top private school students don’t want to attend public universities. Known fact. All that work and tuition money to end up with the unwashed masses? No, thanks!

You should hear yourself. We know many who have applied to public universities and who attend. Stop projecting your preferences onto the rest of the world.

I know many more private school students who regard public universities as a last resort. Even the “best” state schools (Cal, UCLA, and Michigan) are considered a consolation prize compared to any T20 private university. Known fact.

Take a look at the Big 3 IG pages. Count the number of students going to state schools, compared to the number going to private colleges and universities.

Great...again...you should hear yourself.

I hate Washington DC. The parents are so insufferable.

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Anonymous wrote:UC schools never admit DMV private kids like they do public. They tend to attract the top public kids and the few top private kids try to go to the Ivies. The rest of the private kids are mid and could never get in. Known fact.

Most top private school students don’t want to attend public universities. Known fact. All that work and tuition money to end up with the unwashed masses? No, thanks!

You should hear yourself. We know many who have applied to public universities and who attend. Stop projecting your preferences onto the rest of the world.

I know many more private school students who regard public universities as a last resort. Even the “best” state schools (Cal, UCLA, and Michigan) are considered a consolation prize compared to any T20 private university. Known fact.

Take a look at the Big 3 IG pages. Count the number of students going to state schools, compared to the number going to private colleges and universities.

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Anonymous wrote:UC schools never admit DMV private kids like they do public. They tend to attract the top public kids and the few top private kids try to go to the Ivies. The rest of the private kids are mid and could never get in. Known fact.

Most top private school students don’t want to attend public universities. Known fact. All that work and tuition money to end up with the unwashed masses? No, thanks!

You should hear yourself. We know many who have applied to public universities and who attend. Stop projecting your preferences onto the rest of the world.

Anonymous wrote:UC schools never admit DMV private kids like they do public. They tend to attract the top public kids and the few top private kids try to go to the Ivies. The rest of the private kids are mid and could never get in. Known fact.

Most top private school students don’t want to attend public universities. Known fact. All that work and tuition money to end up with the unwashed masses? No, thanks!

UC schools never admit DMV private kids like they do public. They tend to attract the top public kids and the few top private kids try to go to the Ivies. The rest of the private kids are mid and could never get in. Known fact.

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Anonymous wrote:UCLA and cal are great schools. Most see it as a step above Michigan, uva, and the like. Honestly, they’re probably the two best public universities in the country. And they both have pretty cool campuses. I get it.

Just be aware, if coming from a fancy east coast school there will be some social adaptation required. California is very different. Take the flip flops, but leave the sperry topsiders and vineyard vines polos at home.

I agree that they’re great schools, I just don’t understand why a Big 3 student would choose a huge, public, cattle-call like environment over a comparable private university. I also don’t think there’s really any appreciable difference between Cal, UCLA, and Michigan. They’re very much peer institutions. It just depends on what you want to study and where you want to live for 4 years.

There was definitely a trend at my daughter’s private this year toward big state schools. Many were tired of the small private environment and looking for something bigger. As a parent, I think the big “cattle call” schools as you called them can provide invaluable real-life experience that some kids who’ve grown up in the private school bubble need.

If my private school child didn’t want to attend a small private college, I would suggest a large private university, not a ginormous state school with impacted majors, or a tiny SLAC. So, I would suggest anything from Ivies to T50 private universities, depending on grades. They will definitely get real-life experiences at larger private universities. No need for big cattle-call State U.

A larger private is still private—if you are trying to get away from the elite part of the private vibe which some are, an Ivy or larger private really doesn’t do the trick.

That’s where you lost me. Why would my child want to get away from anything elite? Elite is the best.
I guess some people don’t mind general population. To each his own…

Not PP - but I think it's not the elite institution they want to escape - but the rich and sometimes entitled classmates. Not every private is elite....but most large private schools (especially outside of elite) are filled with wealthy full pay students.

I don’t get this at all. Isn’t every parent and kid trying for an Ivy or top 20 doing it with dreams of being successful and wealthy? But you have disdain for families that are successful and wealthy? Isn’t that the dream?

DP. I don’t get it either. My husband and I aren’t working this hard, and spending this much money on your education, for you to strive for a mediocre college and career. It’s possible that’s where you may end up, but that’s definitely NOT the goal.

I don’t want my children to hate the rich, I want them to join them.

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Anonymous wrote:UCLA and cal are great schools. Most see it as a step above Michigan, uva, and the like. Honestly, they’re probably the two best public universities in the country. And they both have pretty cool campuses. I get it.

Just be aware, if coming from a fancy east coast school there will be some social adaptation required. California is very different. Take the flip flops, but leave the sperry topsiders and vineyard vines polos at home.

I agree that they’re great schools, I just don’t understand why a Big 3 student would choose a huge, public, cattle-call like environment over a comparable private university. I also don’t think there’s really any appreciable difference between Cal, UCLA, and Michigan. They’re very much peer institutions. It just depends on what you want to study and where you want to live for 4 years.

There was definitely a trend at my daughter’s private this year toward big state schools. Many were tired of the small private environment and looking for something bigger. As a parent, I think the big “cattle call” schools as you called them can provide invaluable real-life experience that some kids who’ve grown up in the private school bubble need.

If my private school child didn’t want to attend a small private college, I would suggest a large private university, not a ginormous state school with impacted majors, or a tiny SLAC. So, I would suggest anything from Ivies to T50 private universities, depending on grades. They will definitely get real-life experiences at larger private universities. No need for big cattle-call State U.

A larger private is still private—if you are trying to get away from the elite part of the private vibe which some are, an Ivy or larger private really doesn’t do the trick.

That’s where you lost me. Why would my child want to get away from anything elite? Elite is the best.
I guess some people don’t mind general population. To each his own…

Not PP - but I think it's not the elite institution they want to escape - but the rich and sometimes entitled classmates. Not every private is elite....but most large private schools (especially outside of elite) are filled with wealthy full pay students.

I don’t get this at all. Isn’t every parent and kid trying for an Ivy or top 20 doing it with dreams of being successful and wealthy? But you have disdain for families that are successful and wealthy? Isn’t that the dream?

Believe it or not, most Americans generally despise the upper class, and do not push their kids to attend to certain colleges so they maintain their status in the same class. As someone who has jumped up a class from previous generations of my family I can tell you, the “old money” umc and uc people in the dc area that I encounter are generally living in a bubble and are hyper focused on silly things like what schools their kids go to, what country club they belong to, etc. it’s not something I strive for my kids to participate in.

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Anonymous wrote:UCLA and cal are great schools. Most see it as a step above Michigan, uva, and the like. Honestly, they’re probably the two best public universities in the country. And they both have pretty cool campuses. I get it.

Just be aware, if coming from a fancy east coast school there will be some social adaptation required. California is very different. Take the flip flops, but leave the sperry topsiders and vineyard vines polos at home.

I agree that they’re great schools, I just don’t understand why a Big 3 student would choose a huge, public, cattle-call like environment over a comparable private university. I also don’t think there’s really any appreciable difference between Cal, UCLA, and Michigan. They’re very much peer institutions. It just depends on what you want to study and where you want to live for 4 years.

There was definitely a trend at my daughter’s private this year toward big state schools. Many were tired of the small private environment and looking for something bigger. As a parent, I think the big “cattle call” schools as you called them can provide invaluable real-life experience that some kids who’ve grown up in the private school bubble need.

If my private school child didn’t want to attend a small private college, I would suggest a large private university, not a ginormous state school with impacted majors, or a tiny SLAC. So, I would suggest anything from Ivies to T50 private universities, depending on grades. They will definitely get real-life experiences at larger private universities. No need for big cattle-call State U.

A larger private is still private—if you are trying to get away from the elite part of the private vibe which some are, an Ivy or larger private really doesn’t do the trick.

That’s where you lost me. Why would my child want to get away from anything elite? Elite is the best.
I guess some people don’t mind general population. To each his own…

Not PP - but I think it's not the elite institution they want to escape - but the rich and sometimes entitled classmates. Not every private is elite....but most large private schools (especially outside of elite) are filled with wealthy full pay students.

I don’t get this at all. Isn’t every parent and kid trying for an Ivy or top 20 doing it with dreams of being successful and wealthy? But you have disdain for families that are successful and wealthy? Isn’t that the dream?

Uh, not everyone goes to a top college to be rich. And success isn’t just measured in money.

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Anonymous wrote:UCLA and cal are great schools. Most see it as a step above Michigan, uva, and the like. Honestly, they’re probably the two best public universities in the country. And they both have pretty cool campuses. I get it.

Just be aware, if coming from a fancy east coast school there will be some social adaptation required. California is very different. Take the flip flops, but leave the sperry topsiders and vineyard vines polos at home.

I agree that they’re great schools, I just don’t understand why a Big 3 student would choose a huge, public, cattle-call like environment over a comparable private university. I also don’t think there’s really any appreciable difference between Cal, UCLA, and Michigan. They’re very much peer institutions. It just depends on what you want to study and where you want to live for 4 years.

There was definitely a trend at my daughter’s private this year toward big state schools. Many were tired of the small private environment and looking for something bigger. As a parent, I think the big “cattle call” schools as you called them can provide invaluable real-life experience that some kids who’ve grown up in the private school bubble need.

If my private school child didn’t want to attend a small private college, I would suggest a large private university, not a ginormous state school with impacted majors, or a tiny SLAC. So, I would suggest anything from Ivies to T50 private universities, depending on grades. They will definitely get real-life experiences at larger private universities. No need for big cattle-call State U.

A larger private is still private—if you are trying to get away from the elite part of the private vibe which some are, an Ivy or larger private really doesn’t do the trick.

That’s where you lost me. Why would my child want to get away from anything elite? Elite is the best.
I guess some people don’t mind general population. To each his own…

Not PP - but I think it's not the elite institution they want to escape - but the rich and sometimes entitled classmates. Not every private is elite....but most large private schools (especially outside of elite) are filled with wealthy full pay students.

I don’t get this at all. Isn’t every parent and kid trying for an Ivy or top 20 doing it with dreams of being successful and wealthy? But you have disdain for families that are successful and wealthy? Isn’t that the dream?