Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“ It seems weird because a 23-year-old is supposed to still be an adolescent”

Wut? No. They are adults in every respect.

Not according to this thread. A 23 year old woman choosing to date an older man must not be in her sound mind, and incapable of making decisions.

Do you guys remember being 23???

I remember being in my early 20s and having guys in their 30s and 40s hit on me. They seemed so old. Even the guys in their 30s seemed way too old. When you could be with a guy your own age, why would you possibly want someone with wrinkles, grey hair, and nothing in common with you? This just seems silly.

Likewise I can’t really feel attracted to younger guys at my age, now 40s. I want someone with life experience who I can learn from. Unlikely that someone in their 20s or 30s has that.

Anonymous wrote:“ It seems weird because a 23-year-old is supposed to still be an adolescent”

Wut? No. They are adults in every respect.

Not according to this thread. A 23 year old woman choosing to date an older man must not be in her sound mind, and incapable of making decisions.

“ It seems weird because a 23-year-old is supposed to still be an adolescent”

Wut? No. They are adults in every respect.

I was 45 when I met the love of my life, she was 26. Married 23 years. Never think about the age difference, but she will gently remind me, "No, honey, I don't remember the OPEC oil embargo of 1973 and how it destroyed the auto industry..."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?

My gf is 25, 5'8", very pretty (a "9"), thin (flat stomach), long hair. She is one of the top 5 prettiest women I have ever been with.

I don’t know how old you are, PP, but if you’re indeed 50+ AND have no intentions of settling down with her and giving her babies, then you are a selfish prick. At 25 she is at her absolute prime and should be aggressively filtering out men like you so that she can have a stable family with a good man one day.

Youth is so, so fleeting. This is her time, don’t be her biggest regret once she’s older and the dating pool starts to dry up for her.

FU Karen, I never said any of those things.

Anonymous wrote:It happens. I know a psychiatrist in his mid-50s who left his wife last year for a 23-year-old employee. They had to keep it under wraps (Virginia), but they're still going strong one year later, and he's getting ready to introduce her to the kids.

People are trying to stay out of it and let them deal with it. It seems weird because a 23-year-old is supposed to still be an adolescent, and you would think a psychiatrist in particular would understand this. But the heart wants what the heart wants.

The worst part is 23 year olds are allowed to drive and vote, and we even put them in nuclear missile silos with the launch codes!

Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

I'm only in my 40s, but have all my hair, am tall, lift weights and have other active hobbies. I have a cool sounding career with travel. I am repeatedly told by women I date that that I treat them much better than the guys their own age do. This isn't buying things, it's listening and knowing how to navigate a relationship so that the woman you sleep beside feels comfortable in the relationship.

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone else noticed that large age gaps are more common in foreign countries? Or that here in America, relationships with large age gaps often involve foreign women (but not necessarily a wealth gap)? I think this is true but I'm not positive. It's just an impression I have.

The most common theme I’ve seen with large age gap relationships is the combination of a very outgoing woman and socially stunted but intellectual man.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?

Probably low income and self esteem and high debt and high life.

more than likely, they have daddy issues.

These are the best kind.

Ew.

The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?

Probably low income and self esteem and high debt and high life.

more than likely, they have daddy issues.

These are the best kind.

It happens. I know a psychiatrist in his mid-50s who left his wife last year for a 23-year-old employee. They had to keep it under wraps (Virginia), but they're still going strong one year later, and he's getting ready to introduce her to the kids.

People are trying to stay out of it and let them deal with it. It seems weird because a 23-year-old is supposed to still be an adolescent, and you would think a psychiatrist in particular would understand this. But the heart wants what the heart wants.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?

Probably low income and self esteem and high debt and high life.

There is a woman in our neighborhood who looks like a model and married a widow with 3 kids. She is like an au pair. I always wonder if she is paid.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?

Probably low income and self esteem and high debt and high life.

more than likely, they have daddy issues.

Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?

Probably low income and self esteem and high debt and high life.