Anonymous
04/12/2024 15:47
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:An engagement ring and a wedding. I've told my SO that he is NOT to get me an engagement ring and that if he does, it means he doesn't know me and we need to go our separate ways.
+100
You're the first person I've heard express this--I thought I was the only one!
I also told my husband this when we were dating but he said he didn't think I really meant it and bought one anyway. I cared about having a nice band instead. The diamond didn't matter to me at all.
Anonymous
04/12/2024 15:21
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most of mine have been taken, but I'll say additional responsibility at work or higher titles. I've reached a stage where I'm content with my work life balance and compensation and I just want to carry on with regular cost of living raises. Unfortunately, that's frowned upon and I'm supposed to keep striving for more
Ugh same here. I don’t want to get promoted, I just want to keep on keeping on. I don’t more money, just to keep making roughly the same accounting for inflation. But you’re not allowed to say that at performance reviews.
I'm one of these people too. Just let me coast. I'm very happy that way.
Anonymous
04/12/2024 15:09
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
I have zero interest in the following:
Luxury cars
Vacation homes
Pool in the backyard
Jewelry
High end purses
Flowers
Cruises
Luxury cars
Vacation homes
Pool in the backyard
Jewelry
High end purses
Flowers
Cruises
Anonymous
04/12/2024 15:07
Subject: Re:What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
Romance, sex.
Anonymous
04/12/2024 15:05
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
Anonymous wrote:Most of mine have been taken, but I'll say additional responsibility at work or higher titles. I've reached a stage where I'm content with my work life balance and compensation and I just want to carry on with regular cost of living raises. Unfortunately, that's frowned upon and I'm supposed to keep striving for more
Ugh same here. I don’t want to get promoted, I just want to keep on keeping on. I don’t more money, just to keep making roughly the same accounting for inflation. But you’re not allowed to say that at performance reviews.
Anonymous
04/12/2024 14:50
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
How bout a job that includes lots of travel? When we were younger seems like all our friends bragged about the conferences in Europe, the opportunity to give a briefing in Germany etc. Trips to Africa to check on development projects. Asia. Now that we are older we definitely do. It want jobs with lots of travel.
Anonymous
04/12/2024 14:48
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
"Actively don't want" and "don't think are worth the cost" are two different questions.
For example, I would never buy a designer handbag, because it seems like a massive waste of money. But if someone handed me one, maybe I'd use it. Or maybe not. I don't really know, but I wouldn't revolt at the idea and throw it away just on principle - I'd try it out, see if I liked it, and then make a decision.
On the other hand, I truly don't want a vacation house. Don't want the hassle of upkeep, or the pressure to take all of our vacations to the same place. If someone handed me one, I'd immediately be on the phone with realtors.
For example, I would never buy a designer handbag, because it seems like a massive waste of money. But if someone handed me one, maybe I'd use it. Or maybe not. I don't really know, but I wouldn't revolt at the idea and throw it away just on principle - I'd try it out, see if I liked it, and then make a decision.
On the other hand, I truly don't want a vacation house. Don't want the hassle of upkeep, or the pressure to take all of our vacations to the same place. If someone handed me one, I'd immediately be on the phone with realtors.
Anonymous
04/12/2024 14:46
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
A promotion
Anonymous
04/12/2024 14:44
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
- A house in the suburbs
-Private schools enrollment for my kids
-Multiple homes ownership
-Unapologetic and unfettered pursuit of materialism
-Private schools enrollment for my kids
-Multiple homes ownership
-Unapologetic and unfettered pursuit of materialism
Anonymous
04/12/2024 14:42
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
Sidewalks
Being skinny
Bacon
Mansion
Being skinny
Bacon
Mansion
Anonymous
04/12/2024 14:42
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
Travel sports teams for the kids.
Beach house (or any second home).
Beach house (or any second home).
Anonymous
04/12/2024 14:40
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:ANY sort of conspicuous consumption. Lulu, stanley, LV, Tesla, fancy kitchens.
Teslas are actually practical.
Tesla aren't practical. Maybe when you can drive them 1000 miles without stopping for a charge. And when they get the battery fires under control. Hard pass.
They are actually practical if you have the free lifetime supercharging. We don't usually drive them 1000 miles but if we did, we'd just stop for a meal. Don't know anyone who has had a fire. We've owned 3 and haven't had any issues.
Ask the people mining the materials for the batteries how great they are.
Off topic.
Anonymous
04/12/2024 14:39
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
Six or seven figure weddings
Five or six figure designer handbags
Extensive wine collections
Bugatti, Ferrari, Maybach, Bentley, etc
Five or six figure designer handbags
Extensive wine collections
Bugatti, Ferrari, Maybach, Bentley, etc
Anonymous
04/12/2024 14:36
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:ANY sort of conspicuous consumption. Lulu, stanley, LV, Tesla, fancy kitchens.
Teslas are actually practical.
Tesla aren't practical. Maybe when you can drive them 1000 miles without stopping for a charge. And when they get the battery fires under control. Hard pass.
They are actually practical if you have the free lifetime supercharging. We don't usually drive them 1000 miles but if we did, we'd just stop for a meal. Don't know anyone who has had a fire. We've owned 3 and haven't had any issues.
Ask the people mining the materials for the batteries how great they are.
Anonymous
04/12/2024 14:35
Subject: What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Agree with many of these - kids, expensive or luxury bags/shoes/cars/etc.
I honestly don't care for luxury anything in terms of "stuff" or material things. I'd rather have a nice experience or trip.
Sorry but kids are nothing like these other items. They are actually the opposite.
Sorry but I don't think you understand the question. Kids are something many people want/desire, but are not something I desire/want any more than I desire a porche.
Yes. And the fact that you think of “Porsche” and “child” in equivalent terms reveals that you have no idea what having a kid is. It’s fine not to want kids but know it’s bypassing a whole category of human experience, not akin to skipping a splurge purchase.